sassy N sassy Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 i been in affair for 11 years. I can say them 11 years has been the best i ever had. I notice he has slow down with me recently. its been since oct since i seen him. he saids he works all the time and dont have time. He just cant get away. BUt he gives me all kinds of excuses. which i dont no if they are true or not. But here goes i email him and told him i,m letting go of him. i told him how i feel. he seens like he just dont care like i do.i told him i was hurting. all he could say he knows i'm hurting. but he dont have the answers. and he knows where i'm coming from. that he will leave me alone maybe it will get easier on me. thats what i didnt want to hear. how can he go that long without loving me. he shows no feelings toward me . its tearing me apart.well i have went 1 week with out emailing him its been the first time i have done that. But here goes inside i still want to email him. I want to take him back. i love him i'm not that strong.. any one has any advise. any thing will help. please help . So down.
whichwayisup Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Your affair is over. His silence, and you not seeing him since October are showing you this. The sooner you accept it, the better off you'll be. Seek therapy if you need help coping with the loss.
Author sassy N sassy Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 Your affair is over. His silence, and you not seeing him since October are showing you this. The sooner you accept it, the better off you'll be. Seek therapy if you need help coping with the loss. Thank you for your comment. But that is easy for you to say. you was not with him for all most 12 years. He try to see me all most 3 weeks ago. but he was late i just left. i just got tired of hanging on. my heart cant take it anymore. down deep inside i want to see him but my heart saids no.
tweldy Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 You would be correct in stating that I have no idea what its like to be in your situation. Only you would know that. I can say that its best for a meth addict to quit doing meth even though I have no idea what its like to be a meth addict - its common sense. You can see where this is going. I don't have any idea what its like to be you, and I'm sure you're in a lot of pain, but I can say you are being used and its in your best interest to end this abusive cycle. You deserve someone who is devoted to you instead of someone who is cheating on their spouse and willing to pay occasional attention to you for a cheap thrill. I wish you luck in moving on.
Author sassy N sassy Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 You would be correct in stating that I have no idea what its like to be in your situation. Only you would know that. I can say that its best for a meth addict to quit doing meth even though I have no idea what its like to be a meth addict - its common sense. You can see where this is going. I don't have any idea what its like to be you, and I'm sure you're in a lot of pain, but I can say you are being used and its in your best interest to end this abusive cycle. You deserve someone who is devoted to you instead of someone who is cheating on their spouse and willing to pay occasional attention to you for a cheap thrill. I wish you luck in moving on. I know its over. And i got move on. its going to take years for me to get threw this. And know you don't know what it is like to threw this. I advise know one to have in affair. its not worth the pleasure or the pain.
PoshPrincess Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Thank you for your comment. But that is easy for you to say. you was not with him for all most 12 years. He try to see me all most 3 weeks ago. but he was late i just left. i just got tired of hanging on. my heart cant take it anymore. down deep inside i want to see him but my heart saids no. Sassy, you asked for advice; WWIU was just giving her opinion and I have to say I agree with her. No, it isn't easy for anyone else to say, even those of us who have had affairs only know our own sitchs. We can give you our opinions and the benefit of our experience though, that's what this site is for. I went NC with my MM last year and although we haven't been in a R since May, contact has been on/off all the time since then with sporadic calls and texts when one or the other of us is feeling weak. The last contact we had was 3 weeks ago and we haven't spoken for five weeks and yeah, I miss him like crazy, but you do reach a point where you can't take any more and you know you have to end it. You WILL do it eventually but the time has to be right. We are all here for you. Best of luck!
Author sassy N sassy Posted February 10, 2007 Author Posted February 10, 2007 Sassy, you asked for advice; WWIU was just giving her opinion and I have to say I agree with her. No, it isn't easy for anyone else to say, even those of us who have had affairs only know our own sitchs. We can give you our opinions and the benefit of our experience though, that's what this site is for. I went NC with my MM last year and although we haven't been in a R since May, contact has been on/off all the time since then with sporadic calls and texts when one or the other of us is feeling weak. The last contact we had was 3 weeks ago and we haven't spoken for five weeks and yeah, I miss him like crazy, but you do reach a point where you can't take any more and you know you have to end it. You WILL do it eventually but the time has to be right. We are all here for you. Best of luck! THANK YOU. I DID IT. IT'S FOR SURE NOW OVER. I CRY EVERDAY. BUT IF THAT'S THE ONLY WAY TO GET THREW THIS SO BE IT.
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