Junior228 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I've been going out with my BF for 7 months and last month we broke up. He told me he wants to focous on schol and other things right now and that he's not looking for anyone else. He doesnt want the pressure of a relationship right now and has said numerous times tht lookig for someone else i the las tthing on his mind and hes not looking. In the begeinging we were always so affectioante toward each other and then after like 4 months it kind of got more comfortable with each other and were less affectionate but we still said i love you every single night. I love him so much and would anything in the world for him, is it possible that maybe he feels like he was stuck or trapt and wanted some space right now? Becuase he also has said that i need to give hima little space right now and he wwants us to try to do the firned thing right now. All i know is I cant sleep at night or eat and hes fine right now. hes going out and doing stuff with is friends, Im kind of upset that hes not missing me and not hurt, What am i to do? Someone please help me
Lauriebell82 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 wow sounds like my ex bf..we were arguing a lot and he said he needed "space" to get what he had to get done. he was working two jobs and said he didnt have any time for a relationship, blah blah blah. my current relationship is much better, of course things do die down, u do get more comfortable with each other, but it shouldnt decrease so much that he wants space. how was ur relationship prior to the breakup? were u arguing more? did u get in a huge fight? if nothing sparked this then maybe he really does have other stuff to do. i do think that even if u have other stuff to do u can make time for a relationship and deal with the pressure if ur really in love with the person. (not saying he doesnt love u, but maybe the love changed.) as for the friends thing, NOT A GOOD IDEA. it will only bring u more pain and if he doesnt want u back it will be harder to get over him and move on. my ex bf gave me that crap and i told him no, that i wouldnt be able to be freinds with him because i still loved him. of course i got over him and met my current bf who i love more than anything. so actually my ex did me a favor, because i found a much better relationship. what i'm saying is maybe this guy isnt right for u if he's willing to let u go. if he really loved u, like really in love, he wouldnt just settle for being ur friend. dont be freinds with him and maybe try to move on and find another relationship and a bf who would never want to be without u.
Author Junior228 Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 There's nothing that sparked this at all...No fights, no arguements, we hardly ever fought wat all actually. We just exchanged christmas gifts over the holidays and everything and he always i love you, so im so confused, i love him to death and everyday i wake up and it just sucks, i miss him
Lauriebell82 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 aww i'm sorry..all i can think of is that he might be getting freaked out that since ur relationship is getting more serious that u might feel trapped or have a fear of committment. i know its rough, but just don't have any contact with him. date other guys, go out with friends. keep urself occupied so u dont think about him. do u have any interests? like working out? excercising helped me get over my ex bf a lot. make him come to u if he wants u back, but honestly i think he blew his chance so u shouldnt even consider it. i know thats easier said than done, but he probably just feels trapped and maybe doesnt feel like being in a committed relationship, so i think u should try to move on and find someone who will want to commit to u.
paris38 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 All of us single women have been through the guy who wants 'space' or a 'break.' The best advice I give to you is NC, no texting, emailing, etc. Since he said "let's do the friends thing" that is like him breaking up with you. He is saying he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you and further he said he asked that you give him space. He is gently telling you he is breaking up, and of course he is not going to bring up another girl even if he is starting to date someone else, because he is kind. We all ask, when being broken up with, Is it someone else? usually they won't tell you the answer because why dig the knife in deeper.... Not meaning to make you feel worse but since he has told you straight up you're just friends and he wants space...well, do NC. Not with the expectation of getting him back...but with the idea of you healing and moving on.
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 All of us single women have been through the guy who wants 'space' or a 'break.' The best advice I give to you is NC, no texting, emailing, etc. Since he said "let's do the friends thing" that is like him breaking up with you. He is saying he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you and further he said he asked that you give him space. He is gently telling you he is breaking up, and of course he is not going to bring up another girl even if he is starting to date someone else, because he is kind. We all ask, when being broken up with, Is it someone else? usually they won't tell you the answer because why dig the knife in deeper.... Not meaning to make you feel worse but since he has told you straight up you're just friends and he wants space...well, do NC. Not with the expectation of getting him back...but with the idea of you healing and moving on. Bravo!! Bravo!!
Lauriebell82 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 i agree that the asking for space thing is a nicer, more woosy way of breaking up wtih u. sorry to say this but he probably found some other girl (not positive), so just try to move on without him. i know it hurts, i've been there, but he's worth it worrying about. it still sucks though, but maybe by finding out he is a jerk now, u can find somoene better for urself.
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