JackBlack Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 There's a girl that I'm very attracted to. Admittedly, I don't know her very well because we haven't spoken much, but my interest level is very high. She's very easy for me to talk to, and it's rare for me to feel this at ease around a girl I like. Unfortunately she has a boyfriend. I don't run into her much, and typically have to go out of my way to talk to her. Is there any reason I should not just drop it at this point and not bother getting to know her?
Guest Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I'd say there is nothing wrong with making friends with her; but I don't think you should make any other advancements until a)she shows that kind of interest in return b)you find out she's unhappy with her boyfriend, for whatever reason, but if you hang around waiting for them to break up and they never do, that would suck because you might be closer and more into her by then. Just be her friend. Don't push anything else. If she's interested in more, you'll probably be able to tell..
laRubiaBonita Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 There's a girl that I'm very attracted to. Admittedly, I don't know her very well because we haven't spoken much..... She's very easy for me to talk to...... I don't run into her much, and typically have to go out of my way to talk to her. Is there any reason I should not just drop it at this point and not bother getting to know her? i say drop it.... your post is very weird, almost like you are stalking her, i know you are not, but if she really wanted to talk with you more, she would run into you more also.
Author JackBlack Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 I'm just being a little vague about the facts, because I don't want anyone to be able to "out" me on this board. Maybe that's what makes it sounds weird. Anyway, of course she's not going to make more of an effort to see me if she's not single. I just thought maybe that there might be a potential for us to become friends, and who knows what after that.
laRubiaBonita Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I just thought maybe that there might be a potential for us to become friends, and who knows what after that. sure, why not try and be her friend... you never know. just do not try too hard.
Salicious Crumb Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 There's a girl that I'm very attracted to. Admittedly, I don't know her very well because we haven't spoken much, but my interest level is very high. She's very easy for me to talk to, and it's rare for me to feel this at ease around a girl I like. Unfortunately she has a boyfriend. I don't run into her much, and typically have to go out of my way to talk to her. Is there any reason I should not just drop it at this point and not bother getting to know her? You'd be a pr!ck for interfering. How would you like it if a guy zooms your girlfriend?
alphamale Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 There's a girl that I'm very attracted to. Admittedly, I don't know her very well because we haven't spoken much, but my interest level is very high. She's very easy for me to talk to, and it's rare for me to feel this at ease around a girl I like. Unfortunately she has a boyfriend. I don't run into her much, and typically have to go out of my way to talk to her. Hmm lets see.... Your interest level is high yet you know nothing about herYou haven't spoken much yet she's easy to talk toShe is already spoken forI think you can imply your own conclusion JB...
IWalkAlone Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Just because she has a boyfriend now doesn't mean she'll have one next week. Go ahead and get to knowher a little better. If she's stable & solid with the current BF, THEN forget her.
alphamale Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Go ahead and get to knowher a little better. how about expending that time and energy on a girls who's available?
IWalkAlone Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 He knows that he's attracted to her and finds her easy to talk to. "Boyfriend" can mean anything from a fiance she's had for 5 years, to a FWB that she's not in a monogamous thing with, to a guy she's dated two and will dump once she finds another guy she likes. If an an attractive girl isn't dating anyone, there's usually a reason. As for if some guy was "zeroing in" on my girl, if she were committed to me she'd blow him off. Guys are going to do that. They just need to back off once they get a clear signal they're not interested.
alphamale Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 As for if some guy was "zeroing in" on my girl, if she were committed to me she'd blow him off. thats not always true....some women will stay "friends" with another guy that they really like. They keep them around as a reserve for possible use in the future. Usually these are "nice guy" suckers who hang around for any table scraps that fall to the floor.
Star Gazer Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 If an an attractive girl isn't dating anyone, there's usually a reason. Oh reeeeeeeeeeally? Do tell.
roxy_1980 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 JB, If this is the same girl that you have been talking about in your previous posts (ie. the girl that moved away and you hadn't talked for a year to till recently), I'd say this is just one more sign that she does not recpriocate your feelings. Best to go look to other pastures. Roxy
Author JackBlack Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 Actually, this is not the same girl. I have had no bad experiences with the girl I'm referring to in this thread. In fact, I feel I could get along very well with her. It's just that she's not single.
Porn_Guy Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 In fact, I feel I could get along very well with her. It's just that she's not single. well i'm sure there are other available girls that you could get along with also....how about chasing them? Is that possible?
singleagain Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Drop it....... Find someone who IS single - there are plenty out there!
Author JackBlack Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 I'm not the type of guy that actively goes looking for girls to date. I have an idea of what my "type" is and it's simply too difficult to go looking for it. I prefer to live my life and take advantage of the opportunities that come my way. I'd like to say I'm confident I'll meet the right types of girls eventually (who also happen to be single), but I guess it's entirely plausible that I'll be single for a very long time too. I hope I'm not taking a bad approach on this!
alphamale Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I have an idea of what my "type" is and it's simply too difficult to go looking for it. so basically....your "type" includes women who are already emotionally involved with other men? if thats the case then you're gonna have many many many lonely nights.
roxy_1980 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I feel that I have to point out that you seem to go for girls: 1. You barely talk to yet build up in your head and tend to develop feelings for 2. Are emotionally unavailable at the time You seem to be in a holding pattern of bad choices when pursuing women. Perhaps a different approach could prove helpful and more satisfying. Roxy
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I have an idea of what my "type" is and it's simply too difficult to go looking for it. Why, because they live on Mars?
Author JackBlack Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 It's not the emotional unavailability that I find attractive (obviously). It seems to me that I just have to make more of an effort to meet the types of girls that I prefer.
paris38 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 she knows you exist....I don't think it's wise to pursue anymore than friendship when she has a boyfriend. From what you said, she doesn't really approach you when you see her, you approach her, so as far as you know she may not even be interested in being friends with you. All you can do is say 'hi' when you see her, I wouldn't take it anywhere further. If she in the future her relationship with the other guy does end, you can always run into her then and see how receptive she is to a date but until then, I would totally try to get her out of your head and try to find a girl who's unattached.
IWalkAlone Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Oh reeeeeeeeeeally? Do tell. Attractive women usually have at least a couple guys interested in them at any given time, and are often asked for their phone number. So if she's not dating anyone, she either doesn't want to date anyone at this point in her life, or there is probably something else about her than makes men not want to date her. Also note I used the words "usually" and "probably" which means "not 100 percent of the time."
alphamale Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Attractive women usually have at least a couple guys interested in them at any given time, and are often asked for their phone number." which is also why attractive women see men as not being worth much cause they can get one at any time. they like to run after the guys who play hard-to-get and are aloof.
laRubiaBonita Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 which is also why attractive women see men as not being worth much cause they can get one at any time. they like to run after the guys who play hard-to-get and are aloof. unless the guys she has are hott!
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