curiousnycgirl Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I've been dating my b/f for 2.5 years - I love him very much and for the most part look forward to spending the rest of our lives together. However there has been one consistent (and major) fly in the ointment. A few months into the relationship his sex drive completely died. As in we haven't had sex in 2 years. This has been a very hard thing for me to swallow and I have spent many hours discussing it in therapy. Overall it has made me feel very unattractive as a woman and quite rejected. My therapist has spent the bulk of this time trying to get me to see other people. I have not done so as I have felt this would be dishonest and the equivelant of cheating. I have stood by my conviction that I would need to tell him/break up with him before seeing anyone else. Ok that was the background - now for the breakthrough. Everything came to a boiling point 2 weeks ago. No need to restate what happened (I posted that) - but in the end we had a long tearful discussion during which I asked if he would be willing to go into therapy (that was to be the only way I would take him back, but didn't say so as I didn't want him to say yes just to appease me) - thankfully he agreed without hesitation. Last night he met with my therapist, whom we are asking to help find one for my b/f - and my therapist has done a complete 180! After all this time of telling me to dump the guy he sees what I see. He further said he thinks it is totally fixable and worth the effort! So nice to hear that from a professional - especially one who only wanted to believe the worst! I feel so optimistic about it all right now! I'm trying to maintain cautious optimism - but I'm feeling groovy and wanted to share.
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