brokenhart2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 My date from last week, the one that never returned my call from Friday..most people thought I should leave the ball in his court...but last night I decided to text him and ask him to dinner this Sat. night...he texted back right away and seemed enthused about it. Since he didn't call me back over the weekend, I sord of didn't expect a text back...but wanted to try anyway...however I'm seeing a pattern as being the initiator...its ok until after dinner then he'll have to take over.. Just wanted to share my excitement!..I've never asked a guy out to dinner before!
dropdeadlegs Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Good for you! I haven't really asked a guy out in a specific way, but I have let them know that I enjoyed meeting them and would like to share their company again if they were so inclined. It always worked great for me. I'm chicken, though. I usually do it by mail! Real mail, the kind with a stamp. Some men might be turned off by it, at least that's what I've read here, but I think it takes the rejection factor off his shoulders. I've never had a man not contact me, but I've only done this twice and I already felt pretty certain that they were into me. I'm just impatient at times and felt it moved us along faster, or moved us along at all. Have fun on your dinner date! Pat your self on the back for taking a risk, too.
Krytellan Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I honestly hope it goes well, but you need to remember that nothing has changed. You conceded to him, so he still has all of the control. The issue was never about you seeing him again, but was about does he really like you, right? It's one thing for a guy to agree to go out with you, but it's another for him to ask you. Just remember to make sure he does some of the work too. You could probably make it work one-sided... but that's no fun.
Craig Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I'm glad you asked him out, you did the right thing. Good luck on your date.
Touche Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Not to be negative but I think it remains to be seen whether you did the right thing here. Did he ever even mention why he didn't answer your call? I think most people said for you to leave the ball in his court for a good reason.
Author brokenhart2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 Well, he was the one who asked me out the first time, I might have been the one to call 1st, but he asked to hang out first, and he paid for me; so technically it's like I'm returning the gesture... I have always believed that the man should pursue the woman, and I like to be pursued...but from what I've had men tell me over the years, they are not as traditional with it because women appear to be stronger and more independent, so I"ve heard men say, "if women are so independent why can't they do some of the pursuing?"...I agree with that to an extent...but never put it to use until now! As far as him not calling back from the weekend...all I can say is being single for as long as I have has taught me a few things...to give men the benefit of the doubt in some situations...like shyness, for example...I won't say "why didn't you call me back?" like he owes me explanation...and he doesn't because he hardly freakin knows me. And our conversation was just the text messaging kind..so we didn't get into reasons why he didn't call... I would think the big leap to ask him out is good, because if we have a good date, and I back off after that, I'm sure that he would start pursuing..if he likes me..if we like each other...right now it's just physical attraction. In a way, I just wanted to try something different and see if I could succeed. And I feel that I have. If the date doesn't go well, who cares? Now I'm willing to ask guys out in the future!
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