Uncurable

[Confuggled_one]

My aunt has been diagnosed with cancer last year during july. right now she has been officially declared as 'uncurable'. i just heard about this news an hour ago. ive been crying like a baby. i dont know how to deal with this. this might be the first death i experience. any suggestions or thing sto do would help a lot.

 

my aunt sitll has a while to live.. should i spend more time with her? i have a lot of school.. so please someone help me out. i love her a lot and want to spend time with her. but im also afraid of getting even more attached and getting a harder blow when she passes away.

 

-CO

[LN99]

I feel your pain....

 

My mom was diagnosed with "uncurable" cancer also. They can treat it and prolong it from spreading(and they have for a few years now), but its still uncurable. The past 6 months have been hard, seeing as its continueing to spread. Trust me, I know this is not easy to deal with. But, imagine how she feels....and what she is going through.

 

I personally choose to stick around and help her out. Spend time with her and make as many memories as possible. Reason being....I lost my dad to a sudden heart attack almost 3 yrs ago. I regretted not spending more time with him (even though he always seemed so healthy) and sometimes I just want to kick myself for not doing so. I was always busy with my life and never thought I would have to worry about losing my parents for a long time. But, Im only 25 and I've dealt with it, and am dealing with this all now. But, what can you do? You can either shut down and get all upset or you can appreciate the time you do have together. Which is what Im doing with my mom.

 

My sister however, is the one who is avoiding my mom. She doesn't visit her very often and she is kinda in denial. She took my dad's death very hard and I realize she just can't go through that again. But if you think about it, look at how much she is missing out on! I mean, once someone is gone, they are gone. I think its your memories that help deal with the loss. When I lost my dad it was so hard....I didn't have any closure. But now, its easier to deal with. But it still really hurts sometimes..

 

My advice to you is to spend as much time with your aunt as possible. Be there for her. Talk to her. Make this time special. She will appreciate it and YOU will never regret it. I promise you that.

[Confuggled_one]

I feel your pain....

 

My mom was diagnosed with "uncurable" cancer also. They can treat it and prolong it from spreading(and they have for a few years now), but its still uncurable. The past 6 months have been hard, seeing as its continueing to spread. Trust me, I know this is not easy to deal with. But, imagine how she feels....and what she is going through.

 

I personally choose to stick around and help her out. Spend time with her and make as many memories as possible. Reason being....I lost my dad to a sudden heart attack almost 3 yrs ago. I regretted not spending more time with him (even though he always seemed so healthy) and sometimes I just want to kick myself for not doing so. I was always busy with my life and never thought I would have to worry about losing my parents for a long time. But, Im only 25 and I've dealt with it, and am dealing with this all now. But, what can you do? You can either shut down and get all upset or you can appreciate the time you do have together. Which is what Im doing with my mom.

 

My sister however, is the one who is avoiding my mom. She doesn't visit her very often and she is kinda in denial. She took my dad's death very hard and I realize she just can't go through that again. But if you think about it, look at how much she is missing out on! I mean, once someone is gone, they are gone. I think its your memories that help deal with the loss. When I lost my dad it was so hard....I didn't have any closure. But now, its easier to deal with. But it still really hurts sometimes..

 

My advice to you is to spend as much time with your aunt as possible. Be there for her. Talk to her. Make this time special. She will appreciate it and YOU will never regret it. I promise you that.

 

Thank you Ln99

I am sorry you had to go through all that. I dont know how you felt, but just having someting like this happen to me makes me feel horrible. I am glad you are spending time.. it seem slike it's realy worth it. I have to overcome this fear, and i will get on it ASAP. thank you so much for your reply..

-CO..

 

best wishes. and stay strong for your sister and mother. it seem slike you are a great man.

[LN99]

Actually I am a woman.... But thanks anyways

 

Hang in there.