Kylar Vonzain Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Two days after our 2nd anniversary, my girlfriend left me. I had no idea this was coming. Apparently, she had been feeling less and less like I was a lover, and more and more like I was a friend, and rather than telling me, she determined to keep it to herself so as not to hurt me. I was completely distraught when I found out, as I have given this girl my heart and soul and everything I could. I had even been shopping for an engagement ring so that I could propose to her. I'm in my second year of university, she is in her first: we live in the same state, but I go out of state. I fly back whenever I can, and i'm home for 5 months of the year, but had I known that she was feeling this way, I would have moved back. She never told me, untill all romantic interest had fled. Since she left a month ago, she has dated several other guys, but has not (according to her) gotten serious with any of them. She says that she still loves me, but in a completely platonic way... but that she would be willing to try dating me non-exclusively again later on down the line. I guess what I want to ask is this; has anyone had this happen to them, where someone loses their "romantic love" for you, but has been able to later win them back? What should I do? This girl is amazing, and fits me better emotionaly, physicaly, and spiritualy than anyone i have ever known, and I'm not ready to write her off as gone. I'm still considering moving back to my home state, to be closer to her (and save money on schooling). Does anyone have any advice that doesn't include "**** her man, you gotta move on?" I really don't care if it is a long shot, winning her back. I just want to make sure that i've got the best arsenal at my disposal to do so. Thanks
Guest Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Basically, you are asking a question for which you want a specific answer, and you're not willing to accept the reasonable answer of "screw her, and try to move on." She's dated several guys WITHIN A MONTH of leaving you, which tells me she was already fooling around on you before she left. That whole crap line about maybe dating you down the line is a wicked way to keep you hopeful about your chances, which currently are slim to none. Absolutely do not move back for her (do it only for yourself if you need to save money), but don't make excuses to get nearer to her. It will annoy her, push her away, and make you feel worse when she continues to reject you. You've been relegated to friend status, and NOTHING, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, you do while crowding her, talking to her, reasoning with her, and pleading with her, will change that. NOTHING. Disappear from her life and let her come crawling back into yours. Focus on school, make new friends, get other hobbies, and push her out of your mind. Make yourself an incredible catch and let her eat her heart out. But wait, you didn't want to hear that.
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