Dodger Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Hi guys, I've been seeing a girl for around 5 weeks now. We've been going out 1 or 2 times per week and really hit it off. The thing is, Valentines Day is coming up and I don't really know what to do about this in relation to her. We are not exclusively dating, just at the "seeing each other" stage. I think this may move forward soon though. Should I take her out on a date on this special day or are we too early in the realtionship to make such a big deal? Should I buy her a gift? And how "big" should this gift be? I want to let her know she is important to me and make her feel special, but at the same time I don't want to come on too strong and scare her off... Any advice on what I should do would be awesome. Thanks.
princesspeaches Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 Hi guys, I've been seeing a girl for around 5 weeks now. We've been going out 1 or 2 times per week and really hit it off. The thing is, Valentines Day is coming up and I don't really know what to do about this in relation to her. We are not exclusively dating, just at the "seeing each other" stage. I think this may move forward soon though. Should I take her out on a date on this special day or are we too early in the realtionship to make such a big deal? Should I buy her a gift? And how "big" should this gift be? I want to let her know she is important to me and make her feel special, but at the same time I don't want to come on too strong and scare her off... Any advice on what I should do would be awesome. Thanks. Since you aren't exclusive yet, I'd ask her either before or during v-day. As a girl, the idea of being asked "Will you be my girlfriend?" still makes me smile and giggle - I know how silly it is too. My very new boyfriend and I are in the same problem. I have no idea what he is planning, he's very good at keeping a secret. We did however discuss it and agree about some limits. However as a girl, I'd be so thrilled if he sent my favorite flowers to my job and we spent the evening together cooking dinner together. But that's just me. Seriously, I'd ask her though what her thoughts and feelings are.
dropdeadlegs Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 I think a lighthearted card and small box of chocolates would be appropriate to show you care, but not something so big as to scare her off. Don't get a card that's too romantic. I did see several just today that are designed for friends. I didn't read them as I wanted a funny/horny/sexy kinda card for my man, but I'm sure there would be something appropriate in the friends section of cards. Avoid anything resembling "will you be mine?" since you are not exclusive yet. Maybe the chocolates shouldn't be in a heart shaped box either. It's so hard to say, some women get scared off, others would be disappointed. It depends on the situation. OR you could become exclusive beforehand and really wow her!
paris38 Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 YES, make dinner reservations at a nice place, or if you cook a candlelight dinner cooked by you. Flowers of some sort are in order. Long stemmed red roses are a safe bet. Yes, I know they are expensive but you need to be romantic the first Valentine's Day. Otherwise, she will think you don't see her in a romantic light. If you'd rather give her a pretty bracelet or necklace instead of flowers, something that is really in her style, DO IT. If she has a weakness for sweets, that is another option. A heart shaped box is fine - it's VALENTINE'S DAY, if she is not ready to say "I love you" yet, well, hearts are a part of it. I believe in romance, and if you really like her, don't ignore this holiday. Ask her tomorrow to be sure and leave the evening of Feb. 14th open for a special night with you. You are only going to make her happy if you do something special, not scare her off.
paris38 Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 I just think you should plan on doing some thing special for her. Discussing it takes all the romance and surprise out of it, and forces you to talk about how serious you are on the spot. You are wanting to show her she is special....so do a lovely gesture for her for Valentine's Day. If you don't, or you have to ask her, she will be disappointed. If she has stuck around this long and still wants to date you and be around you, she is taken with you as much as you are with her. Take my word for it. If I were seeing someone for 5 weeks and he felt like he had to ask me or didn't do something pretty special to recognize the holiday...I would be pretty disappointed and start wondering if I were really that special to him. I might not say it, but it would be there. You can't go wrong, Valentine's Day is MADE just for people like you, express your feelings that she is special. Since you aren't exclusive yet, I'd ask her either before or during v-day. As a girl, the idea of being asked "Will Seriously, I'd ask her though what her thoughts and feelings are.
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