Young&Sexy21 Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Hey all, new to the forum. I've been reading all kind of threads but have yet to come across my same scenario. Any advice is good advice. I was dating a girl for 5 months, I'd courted her for a month or two before that, and things were wonderful. She lived a lonely life, having moved to Canada from Germany 3 years prior, and found it a challenge to make and keep friends. She often described me as being the best thing that ever happened to her. Around the time of our fourth month anniverasry, things began to get different. I thought of it as just the infatuation wearing off. But we went from seeing each other as much as possible, often 5 days a week, to once a week. I'd started that because I had exams, but it never went back to the way it was. She'd begun to nag me, complaining she didn't feel appreciated. At the time I was trying to set up her surprise b-day party, and xmas shopping...but I'd never neglected her. That passed, and she slept over for the first time, on xmas night. But we did not have sex. Not a problem for me, I didn't mind waiting. We spent New years apart and broke up by week's end. She's told me since, the reason she broke it off was because she felt like I was ignoring her after xmas and she felt used and like if I was gonna be like that, she was too. Finally, there's just "nothing left" for her. I told her it can be fixed and she disagrees. It's been a month since the break up now and I'm wondering if I'm not alone in feeling like it can be fixed. What do y'all think?
paris38 Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 How could she feel used if you're not even having sex with her? What does this woman want, you to be there 24/7 being at her beck and call? And here you are planning a special birthday and shopping for her? I mean you were busy with school and exams, and she didn't understand that? I agree with the first response, the first thing that came to my mind is she's seeing another guy. On top of that....you can do better! WAY better. You will find someone who will appreciate you instead of b**ch about you. I have a feeling you will hear from her if you haven't contacted her, she will be lonely and desperate for attention and give you a call one lonely night, probably about the time this new guy is onto her needy crap and has started to give her the kick to the curb. BE STRONG and don't get back together with her. No Contact, forever, with this unappreciative b**ch.
YoungandSexy21 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I gotta agree with that. She was very unappreciative, and I can do better. It burns though. It really does. She goes from loving and caring about me to what feels like completely hating me, and she blames it all on me. I think as soon as she no longer felt she was in control over the relationship, she didn't want to be in it anymore. Very pathetic. The no contact thing is hard, and I did my share of telling her I loved her and texting her to pick her brain and try to figure out where she was comming from with all this. In the end, I did not succeed with her, but I rest assured knowing I did everything I could short of being her pawn. Time for my next act!
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