Salicious Crumb Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Well as for my husband I just have lost that thing for him because for a long time there was no intimacy in the relationship. So instead of working on the marriage...you cheat....real nice. As for the emotions....not an emotinal affair. I have always wanted to be with this man sexually. The chance presented itself and so I jumped. Here you are, cheating on your husband, and you have the nerve to complain about the other man?...LOL. This is comical.
Author hunnybuns Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 well hopefully you get a good laugh!!
Salicious Crumb Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 well hopefully you get a good laugh!! Well its not quite rolling on the floor, but funny nonetheless.
Author hunnybuns Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 well what did you seriously think when clicking on the thread for OW/OM? That is what it is all about is it not. Well you have your opinion but most people on here probably will not want to hear it. We are in the relationships because we want to be. So if you dont approve that is fine we really dont care!!!
herenow Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 well what did you seriously think when clicking on the thread for OW/OM? That is what it is all about is it not. Well you have your opinion but most people on here probably will not want to hear it. We are in the relationships because we want to be. So if you dont approve that is fine we really dont care!!! So, if you are in the relationship because you choose to be, what's the problem? Why are you so surprised at the games the MM is playing when you are playing the same game yourself?
Salicious Crumb Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 well what did you seriously think when clicking on the thread for OW/OM? That is what it is all about is it not. Well you have your opinion but most people on here probably will not want to hear it. Of course you don't want to hear the truth...you are complaining about being with a MARRIED MAN!! How stupid is that? We are in the relationships because we want to be. So if you dont approve that is fine we really dont care!!! Tell me, what remorse do you feel for this guy's wife?
Salicious Crumb Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 So, if you are in the relationship because you choose to be, what's the problem? Why are you so surprised at the games the MM is playing when you are playing the same game yourself? EXACTLY!!!
puddleofmud Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Your extra-marital partner has well stated that this is about SEX. If you wish only SEX than that is what you are getting, so no problem. If you are seeking romance or to be valued as something other than a sexual partner, then you most likely will not find that in this particular R with the OM. In most sexual laisions, there is no "talking" about "serious" stuff or much else--its for the fun and thrill, whether one is married or single.... Talking about sex, creating sexual tension and getting the "sex" is paramount in sex-only R's. If you're seeking a FRIEND with "benefits" then you are without the "friend" part... Only you can decide what you want for yourself and how you wish to be valued.
Meaplus3 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I Know I guess I just like the attention the MM does give me.......The H does not. Doesn't care. I am just the maid around here. Cook, clean, do laundry.....I am not good for anything else. MM lets me be the sexual freak I like to be. I am a very sexual person and he allows things to happen where the H doesn't!!!!! Maybe I need some real help. I dont know. But things are just weird!!! Hunnybuns, Look for the attention from your husband it will be there if you allow it to! Your thought's right now are clouded by a "Fantasy Man". This MM is helping you to escape reality and not deal with the issues in your marriage, which it sound's to me like a lack of t Communication with your H! I have been there. When you say your not good for anything but cooking, cleaning it sound's like your self esteem is suffering. Focus on what might be lacking within yourself that could play a big part in your in the way you communicate with your H. Best of luck. AP
norajane Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I have asked if we could have an open marriage. He just laughed it off and said I was crazy. I have told him if he doesnt start fofilling my needs then I will leave. I am not putting up with someone who comes home and expects everything to just be nice and clean , have supper on the table and all his clothes laid out for him....then just sit around and watch tv all night. When I get naked and get in front of the tv he tell me to move he is watching something. WEIRD Now do you understand why I need it from some where else????? No, I don't actually understand. What I understand is that you are in a failing marriage with someone who isn't interested in meeting your needs. What I understand is that you are desperate for attention and love; sex from another man is just what you will settle for. Have you told your husband your problem isn't just about sex? That you are craving affection, attention, a true husband who is involved with you? Maybe you have and he's not listening. So, why doom yourself to a sexless and loveless marriage? Why have an affair? Why not leave? What are you waiting for? What do you think will get better if you stay? I know HB it's crazy. I've been M for 13 years. We started having these issues right after we got M. The honeymoon phase was very short lived. He used to reject me all the time and I started to think there was something wrong with me, that it was my fault. I spent the first 5 years of my M depressed. I used to think he just wasn't a sexual person and that sex didn't mean that much to him. That was until he cheated on my twice (possibly 3x but i'll never know for sure about the 3rd one). We are in MC trying to figure all of this out. He no longer rejects my advances but 9 times out of 10 it's me making the advance toward him. Not to pat my own back but I'm an attractive, smart, funny, thin, woman with some "mad skills" in the bedroom. Most of his friends complain that their wives want nothing to do with them. I've gotten to the point were I feel like I'm just not "the one" for him. He hates it when I say that but damn it sure seems that way. Who knows. Not that two rights make a wrong but that is one of the reasons why it was so easy for me to enter into my A. Why is having an affair better than leaving a loveless, sexless marriage? How does having an affair make 13 years of crap better? Why are you staying in this marriage? Why haven't you left? Maybe if you were actually single, your OM would see his way clear to leaving his wife and finally being with you? Affairs NEVER make life better for the miserably married. They just make it slightly more bearable to stay in the crappy marriage. And that's why the affairs are so devastating when they stall - as both of your affairs are doing. You aren't getting your fix, so you've got nothing to carry you through the day, nothing to look forward to. Get out of your bad marriages and you'd be amazed at how much brighter your options look.
Author hunnybuns Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 Wow lots of advice!! As for the H. I have discussed everything about needing attention and affection etc......it does NOT matter. I think I am too much for him. He can't handle all the love I have for him. I can't just walk up and touch him or kiss him he is pushing me away. Trust me I have wanted to leave but I have a very weird situation that I dont really want to share on here. So there are many reasons why!!
addicted2love Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Wow lots of advice!! As for the H. I have discussed everything about needing attention and affection etc......it does NOT matter. I think I am too much for him. He can't handle all the love I have for him. I can't just walk up and touch him or kiss him he is pushing me away. Trust me I have wanted to leave but I have a very weird situation that I dont really want to share on here. So there are many reasons why!! I swear you and I have the same H and are so much alike it's scary!
Author hunnybuns Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 they must be twins. LOL Or we are!!! Oh yeah I am still awaiting reply from MM. I told him I wasnt replying until he replied back. I am so bad!! We will see if he does.
YoMomma Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 He can't handle all the love I have for him!! Okay... you have so much love for him... but your having an affair ? Have you told your husband that you love him sooooo much - that you are having an affair? Poor guy... hasn't a clue how much you really do love him does he? Isn't that an oxymoron? I loved my husband TOO much - so I cheated ! :lmao: :lmao:
Author hunnybuns Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 well when someone doesn't want that love you take it where someone wants it do you not. I have told him if he didn't want I was going to give it to someonelse. He obviously doesn't care. Until you walk in my shoes then you will see.
Author hunnybuns Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 anyone that has not gone through a similar situation with a H or W does not know all the details about having to have a OM/OW. AM I right on this???
addicted2love Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 anyone that has not gone through a similar situation with a H or W does not know all the details about having to have a OM/OW. AM I right on this??? I think the problem is that so many people see relationships and fidelity as a black and white issue. That is easy to do when you leave the "emotion" out of it. When emotion (good bad or otherwise) is involved things get blurry. No one else has the ability to know how another person truly feels. There are people who can relate because they've been in similar situations but to truly understand another persons emotions is impossible. You will get strong opinions and be judged by others who have not "walked in your shoes". They will not and can not understand until it has happend to them. That is why it is so easy to tell another person how wrong they are for doing what they are doing...(having an A) but I'm sure there is so much more to each individual story than a person can express here.
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