shockandawed Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 I posted this in another forum and really need some advice on how to deal with this. Everyone knows how bad I want to reconcille this. She apparently can't move on either. But she is so insecure and hard headed to admit it completely. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t111561/ She goes on and on about everything she misses, texts me during dates, etc. But she hangs on saying we don't communicate and are different. Example-She claims she felt obligated to come see me etc..when she had things at home to do. We honestly saw each other 2-3 times a week. She said that when I would say "do what you need to do" she would go crazy. She took it as me being a smartass. Not at all, I sincerely meant nothing more than the comment. I never wanted her to feel like I didn't want to see her, but I wanted her to do what she needed to do, thats all. It's purely petty crap like that which is blocking her right now. She says we have had arguments before and discussed fixing things but they never do. How can she be sure this time? I told her we couldn't even think about getting back together until we did fix it this time. We are talking and she answers her phone which is a place we haven't been since this started. I don't want to beat the dead horse. But I have her attention. How do I get her to understand we can change the problems, which are strictly communicating better. We can't replace the magic and memories we have. It's such a fine line. N/C broke the ice but the little contact we have been having is what made her realize I was seeing other people and trying to move on. I really feel like I have to make the right moves soon or it will be completely over. Help................
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