East Wind Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 So, my girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and we're both 20. We are both still virgins and slowly getting towards the final show if you will, but my girlfriend lately has not seemed as interested in other sexual endeavors lately (we've done pretty much everything but penetration). Generally she only seems to want to do something with me once a week (sexually) and it takes a lot of coaxing still, she rarely has ever initiated. I'm not expecting five times a day or anything irrational, but I almost feel bad when i'm trying to touch her, I just kind of assume she will shut me down. I feel like a jerk also if I try to get her to give me a hand job or something, like she is doing me a favor. I brought this up with her, and she kind of felt bad, but did not make an effort to change anything. Am I just too horny?
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 I think you'll find that there all types of sexual appetites out there in the dating world. There may be nothing at wrong at all, just that she doesn't have the same sex drive as you do. Don't worry, you don't sound like a jerk. Perhaps though she might be getting bored in the bedroom. If you've noticed you've fallen into some sexual routines, you might try to spice it up a bit. One thing I did to spice things up was to create a night of Asian relaxation, complete with Japanese music playing in the background, chocolate covered fortune cookies, massage.... it was very sensual and jumpstarted my boyfriend's waning sex drive. You might have similar success. Good luck!
Krytellan Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 I'm really not trying to be rude here, but the first thing that came to my mind was whether or not she is really a virgin and doesn't want to face the fact that she isnt. Maybe a bad experience somewhere in life? I know I sound dramatic, it just comes up a lot in my work is all so my disposition is to always suspect.
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