Guest Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Hi Well I have never heard of a story like mine but I’m sure that there is many people out there that is going through the same thing as I am at the moment and people that have gone through it already. I’m posting this because I don’t know what to do anymore and is hoping to get some advice, I don’t have anybody to talk too anymore because things are getting very serious. My boyfriend and I met this lovely couple about a year ago; we started hanging out together and ended up becoming very close friends. I was very good friends with his wife although there was a bit of chemistry from my side I have never even thought of falling madly in love with him. I avoided being alone with him as I couldn’t help feeling like a 10 year old school girl who has a big crush. We started spending more and more time together as couples, our visits ended later and later till it eventually ended up in just staying over. His wife has very different ideas when it comes to having fun which kinda makes it all fun, but we ended up all sleeping in the living room on a Christmas bed next to each others partners. At first I use to curl myself into a little ball and stay as far away from him as possible. We use to only stay over on weekends then we started seeing each other everyday and staying over everyday. We where at their house one night when we connected, he put his arm over me and held me I felt very uncomfortable but at the same time I loved it as that is all I’ve been wanting for a couple of months. I have never been held like that before! I woke up the next day not knowing what to expect, was he going to be different to his wife or will everything be the same always? Everything was the same as always. This carried on for a while without us speaking about it we would stay over and he would hold me but nothing was ever spoken about. We would joke around and text each others partners about how wonderful our night was and how much we miss them but everybody knowing about the joke. I then received a text one day that just blew me of my chair, I asked him to not text me as I’m starting to feel a bit uncomfortable. He agreed and we stopped a very short while later I received a text in which he explained that he can not stop thinking about me and that he does really miss me a lot. Needless to say that I then gave in and agreed to everything he said. We have since then became a bit more than just friends for the past three months. I’m still trying to pull myself out this mess but seem to be unable to do it. Just as I think I am going to give up this fight and carry on with my life I fall back into his arms… Well just as you thought the story ends there it doesn’t. We are suspecting my boyfriend and his wife to have done something as well. We’re not sure but there are the basic signs and then the fact that they don’t really seam to care about how much time we all spend together. His wife has a history of infidelity and so does my boyfriend, so we are now stuck in this big complicated mess that neither of us wants to unravel. Too make it even more complicated there is a stunning little one year old boy involved in this whole mess. It’s his child and he loves him more than he loves himself. If anybody could give me some advise I would appreciate it! Thanks
Karma24 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 How old are you guys? How long have you each been with your S.O.'s?
Guest Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Hi Karma I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now and he has been with his wife for 9 years, they have only been married for 1 year. His wife and I are both 24, he is 26 and my boyfriend is 30.
Ladyjane14 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 It sounds to me like you got taken in by a couple of swingers. Could that be possible? If so, maybe everybody's clued in except you.
Karma24 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I figured you guys were all pretty young when you got involved with your S.O.'s. No one really got the chance to live it up before they got serious/married so it's happening now.
Virgo1982 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 It sounds to me like you got taken in by a couple of swingers. Could that be possible? If so, maybe everybody's clued in except you. That was my first instinct. Pretty underhanded and ridiculous, but definitely likely. Why would they allow you two to get so close? Why would no one question the fact that he was holding you? I hate to believe people would be so cruel and sneaky. If I were you, I would keep contact to a minimum, refuse to be romantic with him in any capacity, then observe them all. (I sing) "Oh the times, they are a-changing..."
Guest Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Thank you everybody for your imput, i apreciate the advise and understanding. I just wish this never happend as i'm feeling very overwelmed at this point. Thanx once again
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