Guest Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 we have been seeing each other for 6 months and she states she has tried for the last two to stay with me. I did not know she was trying! anyway she states I am negative and after she is with me she feels down and negative. the first few months were amazing. I said I did not know she was trying and that I have guarded myself and not shown her how I really am. she thinks i am cold and miserable. I said that is how I have been protecting myself. she states she never goes back to someone once broken up cause it gets twice as bad. I tried to convince her it would not and to give me a chance. I said I have gone to counselling but she states people cant change. I said I am not changing I am now willing to show my true self to her. I lay my feeling out to her. what can I do? she says no no no
whizzle Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 if she doesn't want to work things out, she's not worth it. She is the one who is being negative with her statements of "people can't change" etc...
Guest Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 we have been seeing each other for 6 months and she states she has tried for the last two to stay with me. I did not know she was trying! anyway she states I am negative and after she is with me she feels down and negative. the first few months were amazing. I said I did not know she was trying and that I have guarded myself and not shown her how I really am. she thinks i am cold and miserable. I said that is how I have been protecting myself. she states she never goes back to someone once broken up cause it gets twice as bad. I tried to convince her it would not and to give me a chance. I said I have gone to counselling but she states people cant change. I said I am not changing I am now willing to show my true self to her. I lay my feeling out to her. what can I do? she says no no no Best way to get her back is to just agree with her. Say you're I have been guarded. Don't argue or chase her just agree.
daphne Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I think you should work on being a more positive person. You'll attract and keep more people in your life that way. It's a drain to be around someone that is negative. Work on yourself.
Guest Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 You have to do a 180 turn, and ask her one last time. When she says, no, you can't change, simply agree with her, and say you're right, it would never work out. Then disappear and stop calling her, seeing her, trying to talk to her. Sometimes when you go in the opposite direction, you will pull your ex back into the mix with you. the way things are going now, crowding her and trying to reason with her are deflating your chances big time. You're talking to her way too much. She needs to know there is a chance she may never talk to you again.
Guest Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I think you should work on being a more positive person. You'll attract and keep more people in your life that way. It's a drain to be around someone that is negative. Work on yourself. i am working on myself. life is about improvement. If she does not see me she will never know how I am doing. And she needs work too. all of us do. Fairness is to talk about things and how to work them out..not just dump someone.
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