princesspeaches Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I know that there are previous threads about valentines day, so I apologize if this sounds repetitive. I am not usually into celebrating Valentines day....but I started seeing this guy, a week ago today. He's already revealed some pretty extravagent ideas that he has for me. I've tried to express that I don't need all of that so soon, being that we will only have been dating for two weeks when v-day comes. However, I'm choosing to compromise and celebrate because he enjoys the holiday. I asked him what a man such as himself would appreciate for vday and he said don't go overboard on me. He's a quiet guy in some aspects, and he really just enjoys spending time with me. So I'm torn about this, what do I get a man who want's nothing? My previous relationships have never had a problem skipping vday, so I'm new to gift giving male style here. I also don't want to overstep any boundaries with him. If anyone could give me some ideas, I would greatly appreciate it.
Sally00 Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Since the relationship is really new and you don't want to go overboard, how about you just make him a nice card with maybe a little poem about your new relationship, how you feel grateful to have met him, etc.
Author princesspeaches Posted February 5, 2007 Author Posted February 5, 2007 Since the relationship is really new and you don't want to go overboard, how about you just make him a nice card with maybe a little poem about your new relationship, how you feel grateful to have met him, etc. That is something that I've been leaning towards. But I can't help but feel like I should do something more. I'm just clueless, I guess. But thank you
nicki Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 This is a good time to show him that you've been noticing what makes him happy. During the time you've been talking/getting to know each other, what has he told you about what he likes? If it's sports, then buy two tickets to a game and take him. If he likes music, buy him a CD or special DVD of a band he has mentioned...or again, tickets to an upcoming show if possible. (remember, he likes spending TIME with you, so an event is a good choice.) If he doesn't have a nice cozy throw for his couch, buy him one so you both can cuddle under it and watch TV. In fact, you could get him a throw, a movie DVD and a big tub of unpopped popcorn. Throw in a six pack and he will love you forever.... Notice if he needs something small, like a key chain or a money clip. You can buy him a nice personalized one.... Anyway, just try to make it personal. Get him a funny card or a (slightly!) suggestive card that says he is sexy....I would write how much you enjoy your time with him or something like that, but nothing too sappy. Enjoy each other!
Pyro Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 I'm one for the idea of a CD or DVD. Maybe even a t-shirt. Guys love gift cards too.
nicki Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Sorry for the double post, but wanted to add: A favorite book he has mentioned but he doesn't own. You can inscribe something on the front cover page. Make sure you buy it in hardback. A small framed picture or photo for his wall or office, especially of a place or thing that he likes....He'll think of you whenever he sees it. An inside joke kind of a gift. Only you will know what that could be (but not one that makes fun of him in any way!) Anyway, have fun!
nicki Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Yeah, gift cards! Great Idea. I once gave a boyfriend a Home Depot gift card and tool belt. He loved it. (Well, actually, I wore the tool belt naked so maybe that had something to do with his appreciation for the gift....but it's too early for the OP to do that kind of thing yet...)
Pyro Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 He loved it. (Well, actually, I wore the tool belt naked so maybe that had something to do with his appreciation for the gift....but it's too early for the OP to do that kind of thing yet...) Now that is a hell of an idea.
Author princesspeaches Posted February 5, 2007 Author Posted February 5, 2007 This is a good time to show him that you've been noticing what makes him happy. During the time you've been talking/getting to know each other, what has he told you about what he likes? If it's sports, then buy two tickets to a game and take him. If he likes music, buy him a CD or special DVD of a band he has mentioned...or again, tickets to an upcoming show if possible. (remember, he likes spending TIME with you, so an event is a good choice.) If he doesn't have a nice cozy throw for his couch, buy him one so you both can cuddle under it and watch TV. In fact, you could get him a throw, a movie DVD and a big tub of unpopped popcorn. Throw in a six pack and he will love you forever.... Notice if he needs something small, like a key chain or a money clip. You can buy him a nice personalized one.... Anyway, just try to make it personal. Get him a funny card or a (slightly!) suggestive card that says he is sexy....I would write how much you enjoy your time with him or something like that, but nothing too sappy. Enjoy each other! I was thinking about the movies, cds. He showed me his cd collection yesterday, he has well over 200 so I'm going to skip the cd. As for movies, I was thinking about getting one that I want to see with him because he buys everything he wants to see. The beer, popcorn and throw are great ideas except he's got a throw, doesn't drink beer and is allergic to corn and dairy so no popcorn. The only book he mentioned getting was the harry potter thats not out until July. So I wasn't sure if thats like to far away to do that, and I'm not sure if that will be instant gratification enough for him - like if he'll be able to get it the exact day you know? I hadn't thought about that money clip or the personalized item, I gotta give that some more thought. Thank you. I really did consider the sports thing, we live in New Hampshire and all the sports he's into are to far away right now, or not playing. Plus if I had had more time to plan, I would have been able to pull off something better. Maybe next year, I'll take him to a hockey game, he loves that. Thank you Nicki
Author princesspeaches Posted February 5, 2007 Author Posted February 5, 2007 I'm one for the idea of a CD or DVD. Maybe even a t-shirt. Guys love gift cards too. t shirt, that's one that hadn't even crossed my mind. thank you for that idea.
Bacon Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 I bought buy V-day gift from this place I think this one say it all: No matter the miles: http://boldloft.com/osc/index.php?cPath=77_95 Hope it can help!
Author princesspeaches Posted February 5, 2007 Author Posted February 5, 2007 I bought buy V-day gift from this place I think this one say it all: No matter the miles: http://boldloft.com/osc/index.php?cPath=77_95 Hope it can help! Thank you it does
longlegzs80 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 if you two started dating a week ago, what is the deal with gift giving so soon? To me, that seems like either you or he is trying to buy the other persons affection. What the hell is the rush? Enjoy eachothers company, learn about eachother. Don't rush into buying gifts. My 2 cents.
curiousnycgirl Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Sorry to sound old fashioned, but how about a really nice home cooked meal?
Author princesspeaches Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 Sorry to sound old fashioned, but how about a really nice home cooked meal? Not old fashioned, he's got severe allergies so that was the plan anyway. But thank you.
Author princesspeaches Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 if you two started dating a week ago, what is the deal with gift giving so soon? To me, that seems like either you or he is trying to buy the other persons affection. What the hell is the rush? Enjoy eachothers company, learn about eachother. Don't rush into buying gifts. My 2 cents. that thoguht had occured to me, but then I realized that we are both adults. I however decided to make something for him instead of buying him anything.
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