bigblueeyes Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Have been browsing the threads in this forum and it makes me so sad I read about married people, cutting off contact with OW/OM, who really loves them, to remain in dispassionate and loveless marriages. I read about BS, who fight for a marriage to someone who has professed their love for someone else, instead of letting go and moving on to find happiness for themselves. I read about OW, who are lied to for years and have children with men who will never be fathers or spouses. I read about OW/OM, hoping for years that one day they will be the significant other, but who are so close to giving up on love. But I have yet to read about a happy ending:) A MM/MW finding happiness with their BS or OW/OM. OW/OM finding happiness with MM/MW. Is there no happy ever after when it comes to affairs and is that why we are all here??
GreenEyedLady Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Once someone's happy, why would they continue to post here? My guess is that they're off enjoying their happiness and don't consider themselves OW anymore... I'm here to try and help myself and others with the situation that I find myself in...
pricillia Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 There may never be a "Happy Ending" Maybe those stories are few and far between but I am sure that they do happen. Not living in a fantasy world either.
tinktronik Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Nah , there are several stories here (at least by BW) who have straightened their marriges out and gone on to counciling and them and their spouses seem to have worked it out . A lot of the current posters who have been around for a while had cheating H at one point or another . I have also seen H who's wives were cheating and they worked it out and are doing okay .
whichwayisup Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I think the OP means relationships that workout between OW/MM or OM/MW.
Topper Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Well here is famous couple whose affair worked out Ray Crock the was the founder and owner of McDonalds he had an affair with his secretary. Eventually he did get divorced and married her He and Joan were married untill he died. At the time of his death Joan Crock became the richest Widow in the country. maybe even the richest woman in the counry? Over the years She gave a large portion of her wealth to charity Of course Ronald McDonald House received the largest gifts. It was said that once she became the wife she watched him like a Hawk.
frannie Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I don't know about happy endings. Life is dynamic. Maybe we should be thinking about happy stories... loves that exist... people that can't wait to see each other soon... excitement about seeing and being with the person that makes us feel alive... remembering the last kiss we had... looking into someone's eyes right now... holding a hand... feeling a touch... knowing that what you have right now is the thing you care about most in the world..? ... there are no 'endings'... just existence..?
BurriedAlive Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Let's not forget about Johnny & June Cash! She was his OW at one point and when she died, he died shortly after of a broken heart.
puddleofmud Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 June Cash wrote the song "Ring of Fire" about her darling husband, and I've heard her sing it ONCE, a month before he passed away--he was too ill to attend the tribute-- and until then never knew she was the author /composer. Hearing HER sing it as a woman brought me to my knees. She still hurt, you could tell that by her later comments about him after the song. He was not always faithful to her, either. His affairs and addictions were humiliating for her. But, of course, we all love both as they seemed to work it out successfully w/ each other and their faith in their chosen religion. But, since I saw her do that I now understand the this song was about HER "wedding ring" and everything she had been through, considering that she CHOSE to sing that song in public when he was on his proverbial "death bed". That was an amazing choice and an amazing presentation of strength and loyalty. Much to be admired about we whom in my family, call "Miss June"! Let's not forget about Johnny & June Cash! She was his OW at one point and when she died, he died shortly after of a broken heart.
pureinheart Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Have been browsing the threads in this forum and it makes me so sad I read about married people, cutting off contact with OW/OM, who really loves them, to remain in dispassionate and loveless marriages. I read about BS, who fight for a marriage to someone who has professed their love for someone else, instead of letting go and moving on to find happiness for themselves. I read about OW, who are lied to for years and have children with men who will never be fathers or spouses. I read about OW/OM, hoping for years that one day they will be the significant other, but who are so close to giving up on love. But I have yet to read about a happy ending:) A MM/MW finding happiness with their BS or OW/OM. OW/OM finding happiness with MM/MW. Is there no happy ever after when it comes to affairs and is that why we are all here?? Wonderful questions....I have been thinking the same thing, but was unable to communicate on the forum...straight up, to the point, and not condescending! It takes 3 mature people (very, very rare to have even at least 2) in these types of situations for the happy ending to occur, but I think it can happen. People like to be in control and control people, places and things....I am of the opinion that all belongs to God....even people...lol
Meredith63 Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Have been married to my MM for many years now. However, I have learned a great many things... 1) never say never 2) ANYONE who enters into a marriage MUST at least be aware of the possibility that either they or their spouse will cheat, or at least be tempted to cheat. 3) Never trust anyone 100% but yourself (and maybe your daddy 4) Men never leave unless they find someone they want more, or their wives kick them out (that one is courtesy of a good friend of mine... I have found it to be true) Yes, we started out as an A. Not something we are proud of and certainly not something we share with others (so.. those statistic numbers... seriously, how can they be correct). I am sure that our neighbors would be apalled at the thought of the nice, if a bit boring couple down the street had such a sordid past, lol. Am I worried that he will cheat on me? (you know, if he cheats with you....) Not any more so than I would be if I were married to anyone else, not as much as I would he had already cheated on me. So - what's a happy ending? Who knows? I have been happy for a good many years and expect to continue to be happy, but... never say never....
sadbuttrue Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 i think the reason we are all here is the hope for a happy ending. we would not all be in the situations we are in if we did not all think that there was at least some small hope of finally being happy with the ones we love.
Author bigblueeyes Posted February 5, 2007 Author Posted February 5, 2007 To Topper and everyone who posted afterwards: Thank you so much. Sometimes it is so difficult being the OW, especially when you have friends and family telling you to give up on someone you love or when you spend time on the wrong threads. I must confess reading your posts made me cry, because they did offer hope on one of those lonely evenings when I feel hope slipping away. You proved there are happy endings and I just have to wait and see whether there is one for me... So again, thank you.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 To Topper and everyone who posted afterwards: Thank you so much. Sometimes it is so difficult being the OW, especially when you have friends and family telling you to give up on someone you love or when you spend time on the wrong threads. I must confess reading your posts made me cry, because they did offer hope on one of those lonely evenings when I feel hope slipping away. You proved there are happy endings and I just have to wait and see whether there is one for me... So again, thank you. It IS hard BBE, and that's what LS is for. There are MANY happy endings, for both the OW, the MM and the BW. Not just on LS but look at the people around you - it sometimes seem on here that we're all doomed! But that's only because the majority of posters are here to share problems and look for support. In those darker moments, I try to be thankful for the love I've experienced, something I'll carry with me for the rest of my life. Happy endings do happen - even if it's not the happy ending you were quite expecting. Chin up
Author bigblueeyes Posted February 6, 2007 Author Posted February 6, 2007 Je ne regrette, chin is high - am seeing him tomorrow
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