Guest Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I have been with this guy for more than half a year. Everything was pretty alright in the beginning , until i began to get more and more ideas of himself. And i think i could not be this guy any longer because of his characters, different values and his background. Once I did try to break up but he refused it and i gave in . And but I realize it wont do any good if i postpone it.I feel bad from time to time and i know i have to end it. I still have feeling for him and I have no body else but i know he is not the one. I dont want to do nasty break up but how to break up with him and make him understand ? My friend suggested me to be nasty to him and yell at him , NC, but i cant do so. He doesnt deserve that . WHat is the best way to break up ?
oppath Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Best way is to say "can we meet tomorrow at 7 to talk?" He'll know something is up and will be emotionally prepared. Don't be nasty. Just say "I've really valued our time together and had some amazing experiences with you, but I've reach a point where I don't feel we are right for each other. I do really like you and think you are a great person but I don't feel this relationship can move forward." If he asks why, keep saying like a broken record, "I do like you and this is hard for me but something inside of me tells me this isn't right." Don't say it's not you, it's me. Don't say "I do have feelings for you." Don't give any hope for the future. One of the worst things you can do to someone is give them false hope, such as "I do have feelings for you but it is bad timing." Don't hang out with him for a couple hours before breaking the news to him. Go to his house and ask him to go for a walk, for example. Be strong and just break up. This is the best way. Someone being dumped deserves an assertive breakup. They deserve a clean break. And they deserve sugar coated honesty. Never be nasty. If there are reasons such as general incompatibilities, it is ok to mention some of them ("I feel we communicate differently", for example).
Rooster_DAR Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Best way is to say "can we meet tomorrow at 7 to talk?" He'll know something is up and will be emotionally prepared. Don't be nasty. Just say "I've really valued our time together and had some amazing experiences with you, but I've reach a point where I don't feel we are right for each other. I do really like you and think you are a great person but I don't feel this relationship can move forward." If he asks why, keep saying like a broken record, "I do like you and this is hard for me but something inside of me tells me this isn't right." Don't say it's not you, it's me. Don't say "I do have feelings for you." Don't give any hope for the future. One of the worst things you can do to someone is give them false hope, such as "I do have feelings for you but it is bad timing." Don't hang out with him for a couple hours before breaking the news to him. Go to his house and ask him to go for a walk, for example. Be strong and just break up. This is the best way. Someone being dumped deserves an assertive breakup. They deserve a clean break. And they deserve sugar coated honesty. Never be nasty. If there are reasons such as general incompatibilities, it is ok to mention some of them ("I feel we communicate differently", for example). Absolutely brilliant advice! This should be the hallmark of how to break up with someone, no BS just say what you are really feeling. Don't try to sugarcoat, make promises, or any of that other crap just get it over with. Cheers!
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