Guest Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Me and my girlfriend went out for about 8 months. Over this time, we had some highs and lows. Just recently, she ended it due to sudden feelings of bring unsure. She said this happened a few times before, but was too scared to hurt me and didn't wanna bring them up. But finally she just couldnt hide it and decided that it was best if we broke it off. I suppose she was 'unsure' about us. For the first few days, I didn't text her or IM her or call her. It seemed like she missed me. She tells me she still likes me (maybe a lie, I'm not too sure). She'll text me and everything and we'll talk normally just like it was. However, she says she needs some time to think about if she feels bad for hurting me or if she feels bad because she misses me. But now she keeps in contact by texting/IM and I can't get the space to have her miss me. But at the same time, I don't want to give her too much space and have her 'forget'. It seems like she wants to hang out, but those plans generally never seem to go through for some reason, which sucks because when we hang out its ALWAYS perfect. NOTHING goes wrong when were together. She keeps thinking about us and says that shes pretty sure her feelings are leaning in a good direction. However, I'm not so sure shes just saying this to make me have hope or if she really means it. How can I win this girl back?
paris38 Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 another guy. Perhaps an exboyfriend contacted her and she still has a flame burning for him. Maybe she met another guy while still seeing you. In that case, best to cut your losses and move on, but in any case I can almost guarantee there's another guy involved because she wouldn't just up and break up with you without another prospect waiting with open arms. The fact that you make plans and she blows off the plans (because that is what she is doing really) is not a good sign. If she were still goo goo gaa gaa over you, she would want to see you, at least for lunch. It sounds to me that yes, she is leading you on. She has no intentions of getting back together with you, but is keeping you on a string in case her current guy and her don't work out. This is the only way to explain the comments she is making that are keeping you hanging on, and why she ditches plans with you. I'm sorry but you are better off without her in your life. DON'T communicate with her at all, indefinitely, and that includes responding to her calls and emails, texts, whatever. Time will heal this. She really is not being fair to youby leading you on like this and letting you finally let go.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 I disagree Paris, only because I have upped and left when there was no other guy on the scene. I didnt want to hurt someone I loved but I wasnt in love with them either. You cant "win" anyone back if they dont want to come. There is only one thing you can do - concentrate all of your efforts on you. She wont forget you. You need to maintain your space, show her that you are able to move onto a new life and if she wants to join you...great. If not, then at leats you know where you stand.
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