jgaz3124 Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I have been dating a guy for about a month now. He is getting to serious to fast and has told me that he loves me very much, he wants to marry me someday and I mean the world to him. This is all good stuff but I don't feel the same and I want to end it. I should mention that he is my ex from about 4 years ago, and we were seeing each other only a couple of months back then. Anyways my question is how do I break up with this guy as gently as I can but firmly enough so that he knows its over and that there is no chance of us getting back together? I have told him I don't feel the same and most likely will never feel the same but he doesn't seem to be getting the message. After I told him all of this he was like I will make you a key to my house so that you can come over when you want. When I told him I don't want a key, he called me cynical. I am not being cynical I just don't have feelings for him. Any imput would be great. Thank you.
tragicglands Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 When I told him I don't want a key, he called me cynical. If only I had a dollar for every time I've heard that one. Not that you can buy much for a dollar these days.
loveratud Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Take out the "likely" in "will never feel the same way." Be absolute and firm. Crush his hopes entirely. Otherwise, if he loves you that much, he'll hang on.
nicki Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 The other posters are right. You need to crush any hope he has that you will love him someday, or he'll never give up on you. Tell him that you are interested in someone else. Let him know you wanted to be fair to him and break up before you start up with the new guy. To keep his ego in tact, you can also tell him you still think he is attractive and funny, etc,....but you two don't share that special magic which is necessary to move forward.... OR, you could do what I usually do. Pick a huge fight, yell, "It's over!" and then storm out the door....
loveratud Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I think parting compliments like "you're attractive" or "you're funny" will only confuse the issue. Don't say nice things. Be straight forward. Be downright mean about it. Yeah, it's going to hurt him. But he's going to get hurt any way you do it. If he can hate you for it, it'll help him to move past you quicker. If you leave him with sweet compliments, he's going to spend time thinking "Well if she likes all of that, why did she leave? Maybe we could still work it out!"
TYASAFAHICSI Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Send him a text message...."You won't listen to me. It is OVER. Never call me again."
Author jgaz3124 Posted February 4, 2007 Author Posted February 4, 2007 yes I think I am going to have to be mean about it. He has told me that he will wait for me forever and I really don't want him too. He thinks he knows me better than I know myself and that I will change my mind. Not the case he needs to be gone. You know I really f-ing hate it when people tell me how I should feel!!!!
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