Pink Amulet Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I will preface by saying I come from a very wealthy home, yet my low paying job (a journo), and university studies don't leave me with much money to play with . My best friend is a well-paid clothing designer. We have been best friends for many many years, and both only ever buy birthday presents for each other (our other friends don't partake in present give and take with us- thank god ). For her last birthday I planned and paid for a big birthday bash weekend on a yacht. We are talking thousands $$$.... For my birthday (falling after hers) I recieved a $100 gift voucher to a lingerie store I love... I wasn't unhappy with the gift as she usually splurges at Christmas. Christmas comes around and she "forgets" to buy me something and she will get me something next week . Meanwhile I had already bought her a $300 dollar make up set . So her 21st is next week and I am yet to see a christmas present . Our friendship is still strong but due to some drug use, her memory is terrible and I don't really want to remind her. I am broke, and I really don't know if I should get her anything at all as this is getting ridiculous- but it is her 21st. Opinions?! Does anyone else hate present giving and receiving as much as I do?
CardPlay3r Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Hmm, get her something cheap maybe she'll get the hint lol
ocset Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I used to have arguements with my (ex)girlfriend about xmas and birthdays etc. I come from a faily poor (probably saying poor is a bit strong, I never really needed for anything as a child, its just nothing I had would be a 'brand name' and there was never any spare cash. But I was well fed, clothed and loved). My parents saved and went without so that I could go to uni and now I have a fairly well paid job. My ex had some issues and didnt work so lived on benifits, she was good with money (better than me) but used to spend a fortune buying gifts/cards and would complain when I wouldnt do the same. I foolishly left the price of a card on the card one time £1.09 and we had a huge row becasue that was all I thought of her and she'd spent £9 on a card for me - but surely its the centiment that was on the card that counted. So what I'm trying to say is - she's your friend and its her 21st which is a big birthday so I'd get her a - cheap is probably the wrong word - but get her something special but that doesnt have to cost alot. Something she could look back on in years to come. - Easy for men - just buy a Nice pen! - not sure for girls though! Best of luck.
Blue Phoenix Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 I'de get her a card and maybe something small not expensive. Sounds like its a real one way not that the gift means everything but some equil give back would be nice at some point. I have a friend like that every year I sent him a nice b-day or xmas press and card I did this faithfully for years after we moved apart from eachother and each time I got dittly squat back except maybe the occasional ill get you something soon so this xmas was the 1st year I passed..
Author Pink Amulet Posted February 10, 2007 Author Posted February 10, 2007 Thanks guys. I just bought her a bellyring/chain off ebay for $20 She will get the hint.
westernxer Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Buy her some Ginko Biloba. It's supposed to improve memory.
johan Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Maybe just agree not to exchange gifts anymore on those occasions. Maybe it's better to give a gift spontaneously, when you really find something valuable, versus being forced to do something on what is essentially an arbitrary deadline. Maybe friendship should be more flexible and less pressure-filled. Her cheap gifts indicate that she didn't have any better ideas, that she didn't consider it a worthwhile way to spend time to search. In the bigger picture, I agree. Your friendship is more valuable. Quality time spent together is always the best gift. Especially for people who don't really need any more stuff.
magichands Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Quality time spent together is always the best gift. You're such a sentimentalist. Show me the f*cking money, I say.
johan Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 You're such a sentimentalist. Show me the f*cking money, I say. Everyone defines "quality time" their own way. It sounds to me like quality time to you means time spent receiving money. So my initial statement still stands.
magichands Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Everyone defines "quality time" their own way. It sounds to me like quality time to you means time spent receiving money. So my initial statement still stands. Make that spending, and you have a deal.
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