BUTAFLY Posted February 3, 2007 Posted February 3, 2007 So it was really hard for me to seek therapy after ending relationship with Brian. I thought it would go away and I could overcome this on my own. Well its going on two years and I still relaps now and then. So I finally had my first therapy session and boy was it hard. But I am glad that I took this first step and hopefully on a road to full recovery from this mess.
Author BUTAFLY Posted February 4, 2007 Author Posted February 4, 2007 The relationship was somthing I didn't want to think about or talk about, in hopes feelings would go away and for the sake of "just getting over it":rolleyes:. Things I didn't want to think of I had to bring up again...it was sorta like reliving the pain. But I have to face it inorder to move on. surpressing it is not working.
Pyro Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 So it was really hard for me to seek therapy after ending relationship with Brian. I thought it would go away and I could overcome this on my own. Well its going on two years and I still relaps now and then. So I finally had my first therapy session and boy was it hard. But I am glad that I took this first step and hopefully on a road to full recovery from this mess. It should start to get easier for you. Talking openly about it is the first step toward recovery. Good luck and I hope that everything works out for you.
hardknocks Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 wow that is one of the most positive rationale things I have heard on this board. congratulations on recognizing the seriousness of your situation and your loss and for seeking professional help. it is a major step. you are on the right path keep working at it you will get to where you want to be! You should be proud of yourself!
Meaplus3 Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 So it was really hard for me to seek therapy after ending relationship with Brian. I thought it would go away and I could overcome this on my own. Well its going on two years and I still relaps now and then. So I finally had my first therapy session and boy was it hard. But I am glad that I took this first step and hopefully on a road to full recovery from this mess. Hi Butafly, I am so glad for you. I found my first session to be very hard as well. For there I was telling a total stranger in person that I had become involved in an A and I am a married woman. I felt about 2 feet tall. After a few session's I did not feel so bad, but better. Talking through my feeling's and what lead me to the A has helped. I now look forward to my meeting's with my therapist. I wish you the best of luck. The end of any close relationship is very difficult in my opinion. AP:)
Author BUTAFLY Posted February 4, 2007 Author Posted February 4, 2007 yes it took almost to the end of the session to get to the reason why I was there, mainly because I felt embarrassed that a man has effected me so. My quest is not to get over HIM pursay, but to figure out why I am so attacted to him still and what keeps me attached. I think the major misperception on this board is that OW are jealous, bitter, want revenge... or what-have-you, but it's not that simple, (atleast not for me). Its about answers. I too look forward to my next session. Good luck in your journey as well.
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