Guest Posted February 3, 2007 Posted February 3, 2007 This may be long so please bear with me.Me and my ex are both in our early 20s and were together 4 1/2 years.We did have a brief breakup 2 years into our relationship but i think this came about due to the stress of exams/work etc. I think my ex lives in his own little ideal world where he doesnt believe in arguing and nothing should ever be a problem.He treat me really well throughout our r/ship and always made me feel really special. I got on really well with his family which was good because i think he was a bit of a mummys boy and her opinion means alot to him.They have quality family time and get together every so often to talk about finances and who does what in the home,eg cleaning etc. When he had to go on placement with uni he was going to be away for a year but he told me that our r/ship was so special we would survive our time apart.5 weeks after he went i managed to get time off to go and visit him and we had a fantastic time together. 3 days before i was due home even still saying how much he loved me,he ended things.He said he wasnt sure if he was doing the right thing but that his life was so different now. He said he could never imagine his life without me but it was something he had to do for now.He said i was the ideal girlfriend and he didnt want any1 else but not to be in a r/ship right now. Ive obviously been heartbroken but when i think about things i can see where hes coming from.Hes suddenly on his own away from home for the 1st time in his life.He used to phone me every night even leaving new friends he had met to talk to me. For the 1st time he could stay in bed at weekends,do what he wanted when he wanted.Its like all of a sudden he was free but then he was still coming home from nights out to phone me so i suppose he was still tied.He said he cant wait to come home but his life at the minute is where he is. Its been 5 months since we broke up and im moving on with my life,dating other people and no doubt he will be doing the same but i still have alot of feeling for him and the last time i spoke to him he told me that his feelings for me hadnt changed. I have been having a great time going out with friends and enjoying my life but i still miss him in my life and think if we had gotten over uni etc we would still be together now,well thats the opinion i got from the things he told me when he ended it.Do you think its been lies hes told me or could it be we met at the wrong time?I would be grateful for your opinions,thankyou.
norajane Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I'm not sure what you think he lied about. Sounds like he was honest - he wants his freedom now that he's away from home and has a whole new life going on. You're both young. Neither of you know what's ahead of you in your future. Of course you're going to miss someone who has been in your life that long, but there's a lot to experience out there. Timing and maturity do matter.
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