Kelso Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 Hello again - I haven't been here for a while. After Christmas and New years I decided that I had to get a grip and stop living my life thinking about someone who has already told me that she doesn't love me anymore. You guys also told me to date and see other people. It didn't help that much in the beginning because I was miserable and most of my dates were real sad. I can't imagine how I looked in my date's eyes Anyway - I decided to leave town for few days and I went with my dad and my brother to France for a week (live in Sweden). We just had nice time and it was really nice to be able to walk the streets not having everything remind you of somebody. Everyday she was the first thing that popped into my mind. That changed during the week in France. When I got back home I was changed. Didn't think about her 100 times a day, though she still popped up in my mind few times. What changed? The day before I left, I met this girl at a bar. I got her phone number and we were texting all the time I was in France. I actually got excited to meet her while not being able to. When I got home we went on a date and the wheels are spinning now and it's wonderful. Everytime I see a couple walking down the street now, I think of this new girl...not my ex...and it feels so good. I'm supposed to meet her tonight, and I can't wait. I love the butterflies I wrote this in kind of a hurry, but I did it mostly because to show all of you who aren't feeling all that well now, that times will change and you will be better one day and that day is sooner than you probably think. Also I would especially like to think CaliGuy, Spinderella and TP for their help. You're advices have been amazing and it's thanks to you that I haven't been institutionalized...yet... Have a wonderful weekend...
justagirlforever Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 How wonderful! Congratulations and have a lovely evening
RocketMan2 Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 Nice story Cheered me up, gave me some inspiration to go and meet someone special too! Now... where to find them.... Have a good date! Rocket
Motor35 Posted February 3, 2007 Posted February 3, 2007 This is wonderful news, Kelso! Enjoy your evening and we are waiting for details
Author Kelso Posted February 3, 2007 Author Posted February 3, 2007 hey again ... Everything went just as planned. I met her and we had a dinner and a nice chat. We ended up at my place watching a movie. She spent the night at my place, but nothing more than cuddling ... neither of us wants to rush things. However, I guess I was just a little bit to happy with everything yesterday Two day I received two bad news. The first doesn't matter all that much, just received a MySpace comment from my Ex's best friend. Nothing serious, just a joke ... but it was the first contact from anyone who has anything to do with my ex for about 2 months. Just got this knot in my stomach, but I guess it means nothing and I most certainly did not answer the comment. The other thing is a little more serious, but it doesn't involve me - only my best friend. The thing is I met my ex through him, as they were working in the same restaurant which her brother used to own. It always bothered me that they were working together and he finally changed shifts so now they don't work together every weekend. The thing is that her brother has opened another restaurant and has offered my best friend a position as a manager. I know it doesn't involve me, but it's the only string that connects me to my ex now and I hate it ... especially because I was talking about quitting his job a month ago. I guess he won't be doing that now and he will be working closer with me ex and her family. I just hate it. I shouldn't be thinking this way, and I know I should concentrate on this new girl who I know that suits me a lot better than my ex. But it bothers me like hell that I can't cut the last string between me and my ex.
Sand&Water Posted February 3, 2007 Posted February 3, 2007 RE: Everything went just as planned. I met her and we had a dinner and a nice chat. We ended up at my place watching a movie. She spent the night at my place, but nothing more than cuddling ... neither of us wants to rush things. Focus on the woman; the dating; the atmosphere; the aura she projects. There is tremendous amount of potential. She is the person who could wash away the sadness -and unequivocal turmoil. The restaurant, her brother, her leftovers don't matter anymore. The last string, in due time, will simply become an invisible memory possessing little or no emotional ties. You had a great date. Be grateful. You are progressing quite nicely -and in no time: Everyday will be a brand new day. Sand&Water
notmakingsense Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 Don't beat yourself up over the fact that remaining ties bother you. This is normal, and they might never completely go away -- it all depends on how deep your relationship with your ex was. Just recognize the fact that you still have feelings, and do your best to avoid contact and things that make you feel uncomfortable. If your new relationship grows into true love, those remaining ties with the ex won't bother you any longer.
Author Kelso Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 Just got an SMS from a friend who just told me that he went on a date tonight, and for a coincidence he picked the restaurant where my ex works. of course he had to tell me that my ex is his waiter tonight. I just hate how I can't get rid of her from my mind. Everytime something or someone reminds me of her. But let's all look at the bright side. Her working so much in the evening was one of the main reasons why I wanted out of the relationship, as we didn't get to spend a lot of time together. Obviously that hasn't changed much . And let's look at even brighter things - the new girl just asked me if I'd like to come over for a movie tonight. And I just think I'm gonna go
Am4Real Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Just got an SMS from a friend who just told me that he went on a date tonight, and for a coincidence he picked the restaurant where my ex works. of course he had to tell me that my ex is his waiter tonight. I just hate how I can't get rid of her from my mind. Everytime something or someone reminds me of her. But let's all look at the bright side. Her working so much in the evening was one of the main reasons why I wanted out of the relationship, as we didn't get to spend a lot of time together. Obviously that hasn't changed much . And let's look at even brighter things - the new girl just asked me if I'd like to come over for a movie tonight. And I just think I'm gonna go Hey Kelso, good to hear you chippy and up on the new girl in your life. For most I don't think it is a good thing to "hide" from the women or men (for the ladies) in our past, rather maintaining NC between one's self and the EX usually has the feeling of need diminish in time which opens our eyes to people and possible new realtionships around us. Go wisely...your story is inspiring to others. Am4Real
Author Kelso Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 Okay, I've got one creepy story to tell you guys. Well, I went over there and met the girl last night. I ended up spending the night at her place and it was wonderful. The only bad thing was that I had a dream about my ex, while sleeping in bed with the new woman in my life The thing is that my ex obviously blocked me on MSN and probably all of her friends too. One might think that I've done something to them. My MSN keeps a record on when everyone logs on and off MSN while I'm logged off. My ex hasn't been online for 103 days. This night I had a dream about my ex coming online ... and guess what ... she came online last night Freakish coincidence or what. I guess I got the knot back in my stomach, but now ... an hour later it's just funny. I think I'm getting over her ... and I can feel that by the fact that I don't get sad when I think of her ... just smile and get on with what I'm doing instead of dwelling on thoughts about her. It takes time, but you'll get there
Am4Real Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 Okay, I've got one creepy story to tell you guys. Well, I went over there and met the girl last night. I ended up spending the night at her place and it was wonderful. The only bad thing was that I had a dream about my ex, while sleeping in bed with the new woman in my life The thing is that my ex obviously blocked me on MSN and probably all of her friends too. One might think that I've done something to them. My MSN keeps a record on when everyone logs on and off MSN while I'm logged off. My ex hasn't been online for 103 days. This night I had a dream about my ex coming online ... and guess what ... she came online last night Freakish coincidence or what. I guess I got the knot back in my stomach, but now ... an hour later it's just funny. I think I'm getting over her ... and I can feel that by the fact that I don't get sad when I think of her ... just smile and get on with what I'm doing instead of dwelling on thoughts about her. It takes time, but you'll get there Good morning Kelso. That is a strange story and I read two things into it. You’re still keeping tabs on the EX in a round about sort of way through MSN and you are moving on. It appears from your writing that the scales are tipping more everyday towards “moving on”. A good thing! One day soon like the teeter-totter we played on as children the other person gets off their side and we TIP all the way to one side. At that point we own the teeter-totter and metaphorically speaking “you will be free from the past” and "own the present". Keep moving forward, your progress sounds great!
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