glitzy55 Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 There's this guy who I see on my daily commute. He caught me eye a really long time ago and I am extremely attracted to him and would love for him to just say anything to me. Ever since (been going on almost a year)me and him always make constant eye contact. It's come to a point now where I purposely try not to look his way lol. I'l catch him staring from time to time but of course when he sees me look he turns away. Anway I've seen his friends look at me as well so I don't know if he's said something or not. I moved a while back so now we get off the same train stop and walk the same way. I guess he noticed I get off the same stop as him bc if he was walking ahead of me he sometimes will turn around and look which I find wierd. I started thinking maybe he thinks I'm following him or something lol. There have been times where he'll just appear and be walkng right next to me but he never says anything and will keep walking. Today as I moved my seat a few seconds later he just appeared and was just standing there a few feet away from me. I could feel him staring at me from the corner of my eye and I couldn't help but start fidgeting lol bc he was right there. I feel like a 12 yr old. I don't know if its just him looking at me bc I'm a familar face, if he's waiting for me to do something or I'm just reading way too much into it. Anyway I'm leaving my job in a few weeks and will no longer be seeing him anymore on my commute. I feel like maybe I should say something..what I don't know..since I never may see him again...but really should I be the one to? If he was the least bit interseted wouldn't he have said something by now.
LN99 Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 The only way to stop wondering "what if" and actually finding out what this guy's deal is, is to do something about this! Make eye contact, smile at him. Even a little "hello" might be a good start. Just anything to let him know you are interested. If he is interested, THAT should give him the confidence to approach you. If he still does not, then you should approach him or at least try to make small talk. You better act fast or you may never see him again. Then you'll always wonder. Oh yeah, and if he isn't into you like that, big deal! You won't be seeing him around much longer anyways! Either way its a win-win situation.
crosswordfiend Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 What's wrong with starting the conversation yourself... Although if you just say "hello" and he's shy and responds with "hello", you're back at square one. Try to add some conversational hooks. Train commutes are unpredictable so it should give you all sorts of excuses to talk to him. If it's running late one day, you can turn to him and say "figures it would be late on the one day I have to be at the office on time." If the conductor does something funny, maybe you can laugh and see if the guy does the same. All sorts of possibilities... I once met someone at the bus stop waiting to get to the train station. The bus was late and I offered to split a cab and she accepted.
Author glitzy55 Posted February 2, 2007 Author Posted February 2, 2007 What's wrong with starting the conversation yourself... Although if you just say "hello" and he's shy and responds with "hello", you're back at square one. Try to add some conversational hooks. Train commutes are unpredictable so it should give you all sorts of excuses to talk to him. If it's running late one day, you can turn to him and say "figures it would be late on the one day I have to be at the office on time." If the conductor does something funny, maybe you can laugh and see if the guy does the same. All sorts of possibilities... I once met someone at the bus stop waiting to get to the train station. The bus was late and I offered to split a cab and she accepted. that's true..but I'm just wondering if the way he acts are any sort of signs that he is interested or at least attracted to me
georgejungle Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 If he was a cool confident gentlman, he'd say something first. I think he should be the one to say something 1st, Not You. I mean come on, a whole year of glances? I'm a guy and I'd want to be the first one to say something to you if it were me in this situation, because i'd want you to feel that I was interested if i was and/or be the one to break this glacier of ice that's been made. Could be he's married or attached and maybe doesn't want to try anything but is enjoying the excitment in the mild flirtation of glances and looks. OR, maybe he's just really shy. If he is really shy, do want a guy like this, who's not confident enough to make the first move?
crosswordfiend Posted February 4, 2007 Posted February 4, 2007 He's probably just shy. That, or he likes checking out women on the train. Does he treat anyone else the same way? If not, you're it. At this point you really have nothing to lose as your time on the train is coming to an end. If you talk to him and he's unacceptable, then you don't have to see him again.
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