Leo48075 Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I am on my 21 days NC, she is not talking to the other guy, because after he came to Visit to michigan and met her and met her family (now I know that it was arranged by her sister and her sister's friend) HE sends her an email saying that he is not sure if they are compatible and that he needs time to sort things out. 2 days ago she called like 5 times but I did not answer (private calls, and I know its her because like I said before I see her calls on-line, and we still have the joint account for our cell phones - it is a 2 year contract). I really have very mixed feelings about the whole thing, I love her, I am mad, I am sad, I am hurting. Sometimes I wish her happines, other times I wish she suffers just like I am. I cant even do my work which is pyling now. I dont feel like going no where or doing anything. I do want to send her a letter or email saying all the worngs she did and how much pain she has caused me but I dont want to break my NC. I feel like I am totally lost Please advice me what do, your word help me alot. I must also say that I am sure that she has not done anything physical with anyone beside me.
Davis Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 21 Days!!! Congrats bro! You're moving along even though it doesn't feel like it. Your emotions are normal. Don't worry it will start getting easier. Don't write a letter and break your NC. If you write a letter, she may think you're a fool, her friends might have a good laugh over your letter at your expense and you will be back at square 1 of NC. You can write a letter, but Do Not send it; just delete it or throw it away. Try your best to not worry about what she is doing or not doing. It will drive you crazy and it won't help you move forward. If you have to think about her, think about her bad qualities and all the shtty stuff she's done to you. Write it down. Focus on that. As for work. Bro, I know it hurts, but you cannot fck up your life and your work because of a girl!! Don't give her that much power over you. If you're not going to the gym, go. At least do some cardio everyday. Whether it's walking, running, biking or whatever, just make sure you get your a** moving. It will help you feel better. Get out in public!! I know you don't want to, but you have to. Go out with some friends. Meet up with your family. Even if you sit there and don't talk all night, at least get out!! One last thing: don't drink. It makes it worse and just prolongs it. Good luck!
BlueEyedSarah Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 I am on my 21 days NC, she is not talking to the other guy, because after he came to Visit to michigan and met her and met her family (now I know that it was arranged by her sister and her sister's friend) HE sends her an email saying that he is not sure if they are compatible and that he needs time to sort things out. 2 days ago she called like 5 times but I did not answer (private calls, and I know its her because like I said before I see her calls on-line, and we still have the joint account for our cell phones - it is a 2 year contract). I really have very mixed feelings about the whole thing, I love her, I am mad, I am sad, I am hurting. Sometimes I wish her happines, other times I wish she suffers just like I am. I cant even do my work which is pyling now. I dont feel like going no where or doing anything. I do want to send her a letter or email saying all the worngs she did and how much pain she has caused me but I dont want to break my NC. I feel like I am totally lost Please advice me what do, your word help me alot. I must also say that I am sure that she has not done anything physical with anyone beside me. Keep doing NC. Your doing well! Good luck!
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