jordan8607 Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Ok we'll I'll start off by saying I'm 20 from the United Kingdom and the girl I was with is 18 From Ohio. Pretty big distance gap I know. She just broke up with me after 4 close on 5 years of being with each other. We only started to visit each other the past couple of years, and when we were together in each others company everything else in the world didnt matter. It was just us. Everything I could of hoped for. I went to visit her at her house Christmas 06, so just recently, so I also got to be around her family for a week or so. Nothing bad there, I really enjoyed myself as always. When I came back on New Years day [happy New Year, eh?] I felt SO depressed because I missed her so much. I'm positive she loved me, I know she did, but she just didnt seem to be all that emotionally affected by my leaving again which hurt even more. Well the past couple of weeks we've been arguing quite alot. Then last week she went to a club with some friends and then seemed quite strange towards me the following day. By this time I had really had enough and felt so lonely and said something I shouldnt of. The only time shes spoken to me was on tuesday night when I txt'd her to ask her if she wanted to talk at all. And she laid it all down for me. It was over. She loved me but didnt want to be with me. I was asking if I could call her for her response to be a straight "NO!". I asked her if she had met someone else suddenly because she was telling me for me to go meet someone, "youre a good person" etc. I'm positive she wouldnt be telling me that for no reason. She told me the past few days had made her realize what she was msising out on with friends, socialising etc and thats what she wanted to do. Sno now I'm left wondering what could of been We had so much potential. With Valentines day coming up soon it doesnt make it any easier and the thought of the plans we made together being outlayed with some other guy is heartwrenching. Theres one thing I hate to here and its 'its not not meant to be' because that kills me. Come on time please pass by quick and get me over this </3
Dooboowoozoo Posted February 3, 2007 Posted February 3, 2007 Yeah I know what you mean and what your feeling....I think my relationship with my girlfriend is going in the same direction... and nothing can make the pain go away .... ive tried it all.... you can never do enough, drink enough, or be with enough people to ever get that pain away... I remember my last relationship which was also a LDR, it went on for 3 years and then we broke up, and it took me just about 4 months ago to finally get over the pain and move on with my life .... and we broke up 2 1/2 years ago... I really have come to the realization that the only good thing about a LDR in the event of a break up is that you never have to worry about seeing the other person ever again.... I know that sounds kinda bad but at least you dont have to see that person with another guy around school or town ....but LDR break ups seem to hurt the most and last the longest for some reason.
BlueEyedSarah Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Ok we'll I'll start off by saying I'm 20 from the United Kingdom and the girl I was with is 18 From Ohio. Pretty big distance gap I know. She just broke up with me after 4 close on 5 years of being with each other. We only started to visit each other the past couple of years, and when we were together in each others company everything else in the world didnt matter. It was just us. Everything I could of hoped for. I went to visit her at her house Christmas 06, so just recently, so I also got to be around her family for a week or so. Nothing bad there, I really enjoyed myself as always. When I came back on New Years day [happy New Year, eh?] I felt SO depressed because I missed her so much. I'm positive she loved me, I know she did, but she just didnt seem to be all that emotionally affected by my leaving again which hurt even more. Well the past couple of weeks we've been arguing quite alot. Then last week she went to a club with some friends and then seemed quite strange towards me the following day. By this time I had really had enough and felt so lonely and said something I shouldnt of. The only time shes spoken to me was on tuesday night when I txt'd her to ask her if she wanted to talk at all. And she laid it all down for me. It was over. She loved me but didnt want to be with me. I was asking if I could call her for her response to be a straight "NO!". I asked her if she had met someone else suddenly because she was telling me for me to go meet someone, "youre a good person" etc. I'm positive she wouldnt be telling me that for no reason. She told me the past few days had made her realize what she was msising out on with friends, socialising etc and thats what she wanted to do. Sno now I'm left wondering what could of been We had so much potential. With Valentines day coming up soon it doesnt make it any easier and the thought of the plans we made together being outlayed with some other guy is heartwrenching. Theres one thing I hate to here and its 'its not not meant to be' because that kills me. Come on time please pass by quick and get me over this </3 Its difficult being at such a young age in a long distance relationship. It sounds like she just wasnt as commited as you were prepared to be in the realtionship. Sadly there is nothing you can say or do. If you are still talking to her then the best thing to do is to not contact her anymore. No contact with her will help you to heal the pain that you are feeling.
Author jordan8607 Posted February 9, 2007 Author Posted February 9, 2007 Its difficult being at such a young age in a long distance relationship. It sounds like she just wasnt as commited as you were prepared to be in the realtionship. Sadly there is nothing you can say or do. If you are still talking to her then the best thing to do is to not contact her anymore. No contact with her will help you to heal the pain that you are feeling. She always seemed to be commited more than me to be honest. Now I keep viewing her myspace profile and I cant help it even though I want to . I try not to contact her and I'm okay with that, but then I come down and feel absolute crap when I think about the situation. I've found out since shes met someone else and now the thought of her living out of dreams and plans with someone else is (
BlueEyedSarah Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 She always seemed to be commited more than me to be honest. Now I keep viewing her myspace profile and I cant help it even though I want to . I try not to contact her and I'm okay with that, but then I come down and feel absolute crap when I think about the situation. I've found out since shes met someone else and now the thought of her living out of dreams and plans with someone else is ( I know what its like to be viewing on the sites the one you broke up with or the one who broke up with you go on. Its a normal thing to do. I was doing it for a while. I had to break the habit by being around friends and family, just being off the computer a lot to get over doing it. My ex also did it and recently freaked out and got mad at me because he found out stuff he did not want to know. I think the best thing is to go out, keep busy, watch TV or see friends and family to help you get over going on the computer. And when you are on the computer just go on the sites you want to go on such as LoveShack or your email ect.
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