BedRoomVoice Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I decided to get a test last night. I took it a few moments ago. And it came out positive. I cant be pregnant. But it says I am. How do I tell him? I have therapy tomorrow. He is paying for it. What if he gets mad?
Kathleen Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Calm down. You can wait a couple days or a week & retest. If it still reads positive, make an appt. with your OB/GYN right away.
Author BedRoomVoice Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 If I am I dont want to get rid of it. We made it out of love and passion. I only go to a clinic. Calm down. You can wait a couple days or a week & retest. If it still reads positive, make an appt. with your OB/GYN right away.
Kathleen Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 A clinic is fine. You're making me want to give you my Phone #. You really need help thru all of this.
bellababygirl Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 My MM and I are unexpectedly pregnant, due this summer. This is my 3rd child and nothing about this pregnancy is the same as my other two! It is hard. Emotinally draining...but there are so many supportive good people on this forum. Be strong and dont make any rash decisions...I went to the clinic...was right there and couldnt go through with it. My MM and I decided it was not the right time that in a couple of years we would have a child...the only decision I am sure of right now it that not terminating the pregnancy was the right one. If you need to talk this is the place to be...good luck and try to be calm. It is hard enough on your body being pregnant to add extra stress!
Jalav Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I decided to get a test last night. I took it a few moments ago. And it came out positive. I cant be pregnant. But it says I am. BRV, Why would you think it wouldn't be positive? Have you been using birth control? Is your man fixed? How long have you thought that you might be pregnant? If you've thought it was a possibility for more than 6 weeks and now your test is positive, you need to see a OB/GYN immediately. If you have only thought that for a week or two, Kathleen is right; you need to wait a few days or a week (no longer than that) and retake the test. Another option is to go to your nearest Planned Parenthood right away. They are incredibly helpful and supportive, and it doesn't matter if you have money or not, pregnant or not. You need support, advice, and non-judgmental assistance right now. They can help with birth control if you're not pregnant and nutritional advice, check-ups, pre-natal care and vitamins, etc., if you are pregnant. Please think about it then do it! Best of luck, and I hope everything works out for you. I don't know all the details of your relationship, but you need your friends and family now more than ever! Don't be scared to talk to them.
MoonGirl Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 BRV, Take it easy. Many early pregnancies end in spontaneous abortion (not to scare you - but just reality). Before you tell MM, make sure you retest in another week or so. I understand your feelings about love and passion, but you are with a man who is MARRIED. If you are pregnant, it's not going to be an easy time for you no matter how much love and passion went into making the baby. You will likely end up being a single mother and your baby might never know his father. I don't know if you've been pregnant before, but it's not easy even if you have all the support of a normal relationship. Keep posting and we'll be here for you.
LilDarlin Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 In another post I read of yours the day before yesterday, you said you were only 3 days late. The home kits can't pick up on the hormones if it is that soon. Please go to planned parenthood today and get a blood test. If you are not pregnant, thank your lucky stars and leave this pediphile of a man. There are plenty of wonderful men your own age that you can have a fulfilling relationship with. You are too young to be saddeling yourself with kids and a MM that is old enough to be your grandpa. I am praying that you aren't pregnant and that if you go to counseling tomorrow the therapist will help you to see you are in a very unhealthy relationship and help you move on to men that are your own age and that won't mistreat you and treat you like a sex slave.
Romeo Must Die Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 A clinic is fine. You're making me want to give you my Phone #. You really need help thru all of this. Don't be that stupid.
Kathleen Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Oh that's right. If I did give her my #, everyone's entertainment here would come to an end.
NoIDidn't Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 In another post I read of yours the day before yesterday, you said you were only 3 days late. The home kits can't pick up on the hormones if it is that soon. Not true. I tested a week BEFORE my period was due and it was positive. Home tests can be accurate up to 5 days before your period. I would still recommend taking another test, but it can detect the hormone that soon.
BenThereDunThat Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Oh that's right. If I did give her my #, everyone's entertainment here would come to an end. No, that's not it. You just played into her mission. She's here to try and get personal info. Probably just a name and email address but a phone # would be the jackpot!
erika2610 Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Oh that's right. If I did give her my #, everyone's entertainment here would come to an end. Not to be harsh, but it really would be a stupid move. You don't know anything about this person other than what she has told you, and you don't even know if that's the truth. Could be a mole for all you know.
addicted2love Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Not to be harsh, but it really would be a stupid move. You don't know anything about this person other than what she has told you, and you don't even know if that's the truth. Could be a mole for all you know. I agree. We are all doubting the sincerity of BRV's posts. I think it is a very kind of you to consider giving her your # and being a friend but I've had a "friend" like this before. One imparticular told me very off the wall things about her and her husband, made me feel sorry for her, told me things that were borderline unbelieveable and eventually ended up stalking me. She hacked into my email and made comments about things I had never told her (that's how I found out) she had hacked. Then a group of us in the same circle of friends started talking about her one day only to discover that she was doing these things to ALL OF US! My very first impression of this "friend" of mine was that she couldn't be trusted. So I kept my distance. A year later I decided that I had judged her to harshly and gave her a chance and befriended her. (She was after all a very nice woman) Only to discover I should have gone with my gut feelings about this women from day one! No one who knows this woman can tell if she's a compulsive liar or not. Because she buries her lies in kindness and "friendship".
Kathleen Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Thank you all for the warning. However, I only said she made me feel so bad for her that it made me want to give her my #. Not that I would.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 1. How do I tell him? I have therapy tomorrow. He is paying for it. 2. What if he gets mad? 1. When you go in for therapy, tell your therapist that you are pregnant with a married man's child and you want help in what to do next. Let your therapist know that you need help in how to tell this man that you are pregnant. I expect the therapist will be able to help get you in touch with the right people in terms of making sure that you and the baby are taken care of medically and financially. 2. One thing you need to realize is that your relationship as you knew it with this MM is over. This baby will change everything. Will he be mad? I think devastated is the right word here. You need to prepare yourself for some big changes in your "relationship", and not positive ones either.
bellababygirl Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Thank you all for the warning. However, I only said she made me feel so bad for her that it made me want to give her my #. Not that I would. Kathleen you are a grown up. I applaude the thought behind the gesture. being pregnant by my MM right now and receiving a few skeptical posts as of late is frustrating. All I want to do is enjoy my pregnancy. I am five months pregnant and have lost 5 pounds due to stress. If it wasnt for this forum I would never have gone to an attorney and I am still seeing my MM. This girl has so many hormones rushing her system right now rational thinking is no where to be seen...and may not be around for a while. She needs emotional support and comfort. And, while relying on her family is a good suggestion, she may not have any! I hope people will think twice before being so negative and expecting the worse from those asking for advice and help. I think the sentiment is wonderful and appreciated for what it is...sentiment. Being anonymous is what this site is about I dont think the girl expects you to give her your phone number. As for the post of this thread...a life is wonderful...but remember, as I am having the same problem, when your MM is growing inside of you it is so diffiuclt to harbor any negative feelings about him (even if he deserves it) because he is now growing inside of you and a part of your child...a child you have nothing but love for. This wont be easy...but, I have to believe things will work out. Maybe not working out to the point of being with your MM, but you will have a beautiful chlld soon enough and he/she will be deserving of all the love you have to offer. Just take care of yourself, not just physically, but emotinally. Please dont let the negative tone of a couple of members hamper your decision to ask for help or advice. there really are several wonderful people here with much experience and advice to offer.
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