OD3 Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Its been 3 months since my ex-gf ripped my heart out through my anal cavity and the fed it to a pack of wild dogs, before dousing the dogs in gasoline and setting them alight. We were together 3 years and she cheated on my and left me for someone far uglier and older, but far richer. It really destroyed me. But I made good progress in keeping myself occupied and getting on with having fun. Yesterday I went out with this girl I have recently made contact with. Far more beautiful, intelligent and interesting than my ex. And I noticed something while I was sitting with her chatting last night. A strange sensation I had not felt in...years? Butterflies in my stomach, and a light euphoric wave of admiration when I looked at her. Now i have seen a few other girls before her, but felt nothing as I was still hurt, but when I am with this girl, I forget all that, and today I walked around with a smile on my face all day long, with a little spring in my step. Does this mean I am over my ex already?
Unbeleivable Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Well first off, thats some pretty strong imagery, lol. Secondly, over her? I don't know, but moving on? Definately. Good luck with this new girl
cityboy Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 It's a start, and I'm jealous as I'm still in the "feeling nothing" stage. That said, the fact that you're wondering if you're over her because of this is a sign that you aren't, in fact, completely over her. But, stick with it. Don't feel bad about feeling good, if you know what I mean.
CaliGuy Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Its been 3 months since my ex-gf ripped my heart out through my anal cavity and the fed it to a pack of wild dogs, before dousing the dogs in gasoline and setting them alight. We were together 3 years and she cheated on my and left me for someone far uglier and older, but far richer. It really destroyed me. But I made good progress in keeping myself occupied and getting on with having fun. Yesterday I went out with this girl I have recently made contact with. Far more beautiful, intelligent and interesting than my ex. And I noticed something while I was sitting with her chatting last night. A strange sensation I had not felt in...years? Butterflies in my stomach, and a light euphoric wave of admiration when I looked at her. Now i have seen a few other girls before her, but felt nothing as I was still hurt, but when I am with this girl, I forget all that, and today I walked around with a smile on my face all day long, with a little spring in my step. Does this mean I am over my ex already? Well here is how I knew I was really over my ex. When I could imagine her having sex with someone else and I didn't care anymore. Indifference is the opposite of love. When you are indifferent about them, you know you're over them.
dropdeadlegs Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Well here is how I knew I was really over my ex. When I could imagine her having sex with someone else and I didn't care anymore. Indifference is the opposite of love. When you are indifferent about them, you know you're over them. So true for me as well. How do you feel about that OD3? (I loved the imagery too!) That fluttery feeling inside is awesome. When it is difficult to do anything but think about that special someone new...ahhh, I just love new beginnings. But longtime,deep, connecting love is wonderful, too. Hope this girl is exactly what you need! For me three months is usually about the time I can actually see myself with someone else, but I realize many need much more time than that. Good luck to you!
Davis Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 OD3: good for you bro! I'm still in the stage where I'm dating and not feeling much of anything with any of the women (oh, except a different, old ex. does that count?). Hope you found a better woman and you'll be happier. How does Art Critics saying go? "one day someone will walk into your life and you will understand why it never worked out with someone else". Good luck! Well here is how I knew I was really over my ex. When I could imagine her having sex with someone else and I didn't care anymore. Indifference is the opposite of love. When you are indifferent about them, you know you're over them. Cali! I'd rather not think of my ex having sex with someone, but it's getting a little easier. Your line about "indifference" ... that's mine!! haha! I've heard it posed as a question: "What is the opposite of love?" Lots of people will say hate. But you're right, it's indifference.
Author OD3 Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 So true for me as well. How do you feel about that OD3? Umm...To be honest, I try not to think about her and that guy having sex. It does still sting, but whenever it enters my mind i force it out. It doesnt hurt as bad as it did before. I think Im a way off from being "indifferent". But when you are alone at home before bed, these things cross your mind and it does hurt a bit. However, when I am with this girl, I think,"whatever did I see in my Ex?" Compared to her (and yes, you are still going to compare), she is better, in almost every way. And shes really nice, i really like her
Author OD3 Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 It's a start, and I'm jealous as I'm still in the "feeling nothing" stage. . Its hard to explain, but it seems as if its natural or something, to feel that way. I did and it feels like it wont go away....and then, all of a sudden, your talking to a girl, and your stomach starts going backflips, and you get that loooooving feeeeelin'....sorry. but you'll know what I mean when it happens. It does. Give it time, it literally seemed to happen overnight for me.
dropdeadlegs Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Umm...To be honest, I try not to think about her and that guy having sex. It does still sting, but whenever it enters my mind i force it out. It doesnt hurt as bad as it did before. I think Im a way off from being "indifferent". But when you are alone at home before bed, these things cross your mind and it does hurt a bit. However, when I am with this girl, I think,"whatever did I see in my Ex?" Compared to her (and yes, you are still going to compare), she is better, in almost every way. And shes really nice, i really like her Well, you are certainly making progress, and progress does take time. Yes, we do compare current SO's to exes. When the current SO shines in comparison, that is the difference that makes comparison a good thing! Enjoy your new found butterflies and backflips!
unstuck Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 Yeah, The ex before my recent ex has been calling and been hinting at things, my current ex would go thru the roof if she knew I was talking to her. My current ex is slowly comming around. I dont know... something new really sounds appealing.
Author OD3 Posted February 5, 2007 Author Posted February 5, 2007 Ok this is getting ridiculous. I got an email from the new girl, im sort of trying to "woo" if you will. And i hadnt heard from her since saturday, and when I read her email , my heart like started pounding and racing. Really, she makes me feel light headed, even just hearing from her. Insane. I hate that you cant control that. Makes you feel like a stupid naughty, school boy. oh well, Here we go again it seems.....prepare for another massive heartbreak.... I think i should warn her, that if she goes out with me, and cheats, I will burn her house down. (and I actually will....im heavily medicated.)
dropdeadlegs Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 Ok this is getting ridiculous. I got an email from the new girl, im sort of trying to "woo" if you will. And i hadnt heard from her since saturday, and when I read her email , my heart like started pounding and racing. Really, she makes me feel light headed, even just hearing from her. Insane. I hate that you cant control that. Makes you feel like a stupid naughty, school boy. oh well, Here we go again it seems.....prepare for another massive heartbreak.... I think i should warn her, that if she goes out with me, and cheats, I will burn her house down. (and I actually will....) I always thought it was just me that got completely school girlish about new "love." Then I met a man who told me "I can't stop thinking about you!" If I wasn't hooked already (and I was) that might have pushed me over the proverbial edge. I think it's endearing that you can admit to having the heart palpitations. Try not to see this as a future heartbreak! But if she does break your heart, I'll bring the matches. You can bring the accellerant.
Author OD3 Posted February 5, 2007 Author Posted February 5, 2007 I always thought it was just me that got But if she does break your heart, I'll bring the matches. You can bring the accellerant. :laugh: I hope I wont have to resort to arson though. Difference is this girl is 24. Not 21. She knows where she is going in life, and knows what she wants out of it. Unlike she-whos-name-I-dare-not-speak. God. If your listening. Ive suffered enough. Youve had your fun, youve laughed at my misery and you've pretty much kicked me in the b**ocks every day for the last 3 months.. Just give me this one thing. Thank you.
Art_Critic Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 my ex-gf ripped my heart out through my anal cavity and the fed it to a pack of wild dogs, before dousing the dogs in gasoline and setting them alight. If you are still feeling this way about the breakup then NO you are not over her.. You will however get over her with time..I would suggest dating.... getting out there
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