addicted2love Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I would have taken it one step further and let them set up the "date". What a shocker that would have been when he showed up and found you sitting there wearing the exact same outfit his "date" Discribed to him via email! Priceless but I guess I'm a little bitter like that because my H is a repeat offender. Good idea though...maybe I should try that! Set up or not...he's a serial cheater...dump him while you still can. There are other "fish" in the sea!
Trialbyfire Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Hahahaha, it would have been priceless to see his face, although I would have brought the friend a long just in case he got violent, not that all cheaters do.
Guest Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 I have been reading the posts on this board today. As I was reading your post a reply from one of the earlier posts struck me as missing here. The following is the quote from the post "well i finally paid the price" quoted from "whichwayisup" : "You can be an open book, volunteer your email password to him, so if he feels like checking up on you, he can. Let him have access to your cell phone too. Also, not only in words, but in actions, show him that you are indeed trustworthy. He may not reveal this to you right now, but his trust in you HAS been affected". Substitute "HE" instead of you in this case. This is what I saw as missing from your post. Maybe this has happened and you just didnt put it in. Has he done anything in the way of showing you his cell, his computer, his actions that he is trying to build trust? You spoke of his rage and indignation at being told he is a "cheater" but no actual remorse for his actions. I saw one of the other responders to this post asking "what punishment for his cheating"? Hell this quote from above shouldn't even be seen of as a punishment but I would think a good start for him and one that should be offered up to you. Sorry to offer my two cents so late.
CardPlay3r Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 Wow this is outstanding, you basically caught your bf cheating and lying to you and you wonder if the method he was caught on was wrong LOL unreal. Has it ever occurred to you that if he contacted your friend's profile out of thousands he must have contacted others too and most likely keeps in touch with them? Common sense... Another thing...WOW, you have a friend that cares about you so much they are willing to go through all the trouble of testing your bf to save you getting really hurt later, and you're considering dumping him? Sorry to say but frankly if that's how you treat such a good friend then you're a bad friend yourself... And please post more, it's not "hijacking your own thread" we want to know what you're thinking about it and what's been happening
Guest Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Proudtabby, I am back and wondering if there will be an update. What's happened to the friend? Have you dumped him? I ask because it seems you took none of the advice offered on the cheater, so maybe you took the cheaters advice, and dumped the friend. That wouldn't surprise me since this often seems to be the case. I wonder if there has been improvement in his openess about what he has done? Has he owned up to his actions yet? Has he apologized? Has he "allowed" you access to his things, IE computer, cell, and whatever else may be a place to hide information. What has he done to make amends. Please like the previous person said, updating is not hijacking.
SadrBtWizr Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Um... Two suggestions: 1. Dump him. 2. Take some time to heal from the betrayal.
Guest Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 proudtabby and i'm sorry your going through this. I think your friend probably had the best of intentions, but your boyfriend did not obviously. All signs point to dumping him for good this time. Even if the profile was fake (it was your friend), your boyfriend should not have been setting up a date with her if he was back with you in a relationship. This is called "cheating" - plain and simple. Of course he is mad cause he was caught with his hand right in the cookie jar. I think one poster said it best - 'your friend was watching your back while your boyfriend was busy stabbing you in the back' - or something like that. Dump him and be free to find a better man - one who is worthy of you and your love! Good luck and keep us posted on how it's going. PS Are you friend's services available for hire???? LOL - my girlfriend thinks her boyfriend is cheating and i'm going to offer up this scenario as a suggestion to maybe catch him.
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