CTslam Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Recently my boyfriend has been telling me about how he hates his job (he's a middle school teacher). The area he works in isn't the best so I thought maybe a change of scenery would be good--a suburban school but it's basically the same. Either the parents and faculty care too much (overbearing and extremely opinionated)or they don't care at all (neglectful). He recently took FDNY test and is considering taking a few other fire department tests so he can weigh his options. I know that he wants to help people and thats why he is now interested in being a firefighter, however, he has also mentioned getting into it because of the pension and being able to retire in 20 years. I'm a very anxious and worrisome person and I honestly don't know if I am strong enough to be the girlfriend/wife of a firefighter because I'm so afraid of losing him. I've been telling him to weight his options and to finish his graduate school courses so he'll has his Master's Degree as a back up--in hopes that he changes his mind. I want to be supportive but I'm just so afraid of losing him (my grandfather was an FDNY firefighter and I know what it was like for my mother and grandmother). I want him to look at what being a firefighter really entails (losing brothers, getting injured, possibly death, survivors guilt, etc) but I don't want to drive him away. I'm so afraid and I don't know what to do.
RichC Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I think you had better ask yourself some hard questions. If you worry easily you will be insane by the time his first month on the job is over. Firefighting as you know can be very dangerous not only in the City but the suburbs. Bring this up immediately. if you cannot live with the worry address it now so you (and him) can resolve it one way or the other. I was a firefighter for a time in Jersey. You have got to be fair both to him and to yourself.
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