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Met a guy on Sat. night...he put my number in his cell phone and gave me his business card. Today is Wednesday. If I call him tonight does it seem to soon? How long might a guy wait to call? Is it better to let the guy call 1st? What if 2 weeks go by, and he hasn't called, should I assume he's not interested?

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the rule is you should wait 3 weeks before calling. Calling too soon means you are desperate. Do not accept any of his calls during this 3 weeks or else it will also make you look desperate. after 3 weeks, call him and see what's up, and continue to deny calls for the next 3 weeks.

 

stringing them along is KEY in virimperium.

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3 weeks seems a little much, if you want go ahead and call uve got nothing to lose really I mean the worst that can happen is nothing the best that could happen is well hmmm

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the rule is you should wait 3 weeks before calling. Calling too soon means you are desperate. Do not accept any of his calls during this 3 weeks or else it will also make you look desperate. after 3 weeks, call him and see what's up, and continue to deny calls for the next 3 weeks.

 

stringing them along is KEY in virimperium.

 

what rule :p 3 weeks and he would have moved on and lost him...

did the guy say he will call you or who will call who was not talked about.

 

if you are really into this guy and want to date him , give him a call on saturday ...

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But understand if he is also following "rules" he will not awnser on a weekend so that he will look he is in demand and desperate.

 

If you are attracted call him, your interest will get his attention

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Well I called him last night, and he asked me out for a drink. I agreed. It was nice and laid back, neither of us coming on strong, which I liked. We talked about getting together this weekend...he told me to call him..so now the contreversy is, why can't he call ME, cuz I was already the one to call him 1st, then I jumped up and had a beer with him the moment he asked! All that aside, I'm extremely attracted and would definitely like to know him better.

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Yes, it does seem a pattern is emerging. How important is it to you that he calls you too? It would be pretty important to me.

 

I think the best approach, if you're serious about it is at the end of the next date (which you call him for) tell him half-jokingly/half-seriously that you won't go out with him again until he calls you. You know, give a wink and act coy, but also make it clear that you mean it. If he doesn't call after that, I would say you have already invested too much time in him.

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i will call him the 2nd time only because I agreed that I would. But your right, it's gotta be all him after that. I think it's already obvious that I'm interested, so he should show me he's interested back. He wouldn't have told me to call if he didn't want me to...but still...he's a pretty good looking guy..I get the impression he is used to being chased by women. I want to give him something to think about!

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the rule is you should wait 3 weeks before calling. Calling too soon means you are desperate. Do not accept any of his calls during this 3 weeks or else it will also make you look desperate. after 3 weeks, call him and see what's up, and continue to deny calls for the next 3 weeks.

 

stringing them along is KEY in virimperium.

 

 

I don't know about that. I think it's ok to play just a little hard to get; but 3 weeks, that would be stringing myself along just as much I would be doing to him..:o

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