Touche Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 No one hates you. We don't even know you. And I'm sorry if my joking got out of hand. It's just such a hard to believe situation. You know you're making a BIG mistake with this guy. You will get hurt in the end. Can't you end it before you get really hurt? And I don't even know what to say about the age difference. Geez...I'm old enough to be your mother and MY H is younger than this guy.
YoMomma Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I am 22 and he is 53 I really dont see what difference that makes. I have always been attracted to older men. How long has this man been married and how old are his children? Did you by chance go to High School with one of his kids? How did you meet this man? Your therapist is going to ask these questions, might as well get prepared!
outofdarkness Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I am going by myself then I will ask the therapist about bringing him involved. NO THIS ISNT A JOKE. WHY DOES EVERYONE KEEP ASKING THAT. I HAVE PROBLEMS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. ok...so you're no joking...the age difference is almost like a pediphelia thing, as another poster said. You will NEVER and I do mean NEVER mean anything but sex to this joker. You are old enough, technically speaking, to be my daughter, and if my daughter were seeing a man that is 30 years older then she, I would seriously question the relationship...I got married when I was 22, and looking back, I didn't know beans about life or marriage. I THOUGHT I knew it ALL!! Now, I've been married for 21 years, have two teens and realize what it takes to keep a relationship/marriage going, and what it REALLY feels like to be in an adult relationship...In the beginning of our marriage, we partied, had sex, partied, had sex, and on occasion, we worked...Reality set in when we had two kids 11 months apart and realized what life is all about and what it's like to be a responsible adult. We did not have a CLUE what we were getting ourselves into, just that we loved each other, had a great time partying and laughed alot.. Are you prepared to mingle/socialize with his friends should the relationship really go somewhere? What would you talk about? Does he have kids? Have you thought at all about his W and family? He is not an honest person, and most likely, is not being honest with you...DO seek the advice of a therapist, but DON'T take this joker with you. If he's willing to pay, great, go, but do it for yourself. Mabey he or she can get it through to you that the relationship will go nowhere. You have your whole life ahead of you, you are so young. I know it feels like you know what you want and your feelings are so raw and real...The pain that you feel IS real, but so unnecessary at your age...If you like older men, great! I know some really great couples who have a 10 to 15 year age difference, and they are VERY happy...30 years is too much. I hope the therapist can help you get out of this relationship, and I will be praying for you!
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