IWalkAlone Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Women don't divide men "for sex" and "for marriage" like men do. Also every woman has ONE type of man that attracts her for sex, love or marriage (talking about looks solely). If you don't believe me, start a thread about it and see what other women have to say about it. I think that article is harmful if you believe in it. The guys who attract us physically are the guys that we hope to be our husbands (we meet them and hope that they will turn out to be Mr. Right). We totally don't have this mentality that a stupid blonde is good for sex only. A stupid guy is good for nothing in our book. When a woman wants a guy just for sex, it's usually because something is wrong in her life; perhaps she is married or afraid of being hurt or performs some kind of revenge or simply doesn't have time for a relationship. But we don't dream about a one-night stand with that hottie that works in Burger King, like most men do. Really! It is a popular belief that women like unreliable but exciting "bad boys" for sexual flings, and stable and predictable men for husbands. In fact so-called "nice guys" are often told "just wait until you're past 30, women will be tired of the macho jerks and start looking for stable guys like you then." So is the bad boys for sex, nice guys for marraige beleif a myth, or is there some truth to it?
riobikini Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Have there been times in my life that I allowed hurt feelings to persuade me to seek comfort? A limited number, but, yes. But -the "norm" for me? -I'm looking for everything rolled into *one* package. And my "L" seems to be *the guy* with the right package. -Rio
kindred_soulman Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 And my "L" seems to be *the guy* with the right package. -Rio For now.........
riobikini Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 So far, he's showing great signs of lasting. -Rio
alphamale Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 So is the bad boys for sex, nice guys for marraige beleif a myth, or is there some truth to it? bad boys are for fun & excitement....."nice guy" is for taking advantage of. I prefer being in the former
riobikini Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 So, who makes a good father for your children and a good life-partner? -Rio
alphamale Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 So, who makes a good father for your children and a good life-partner? the father of the kids is the "bad boy"....but its the "nice guy" who raises them and pays the bills.... ha hahah ah ahahh ahaahhahaah ahahhah ahah ah ahah h ahaah ahahahaahaahahah ahaahahahahaahahahahah ahahahh
riobikini Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I see. Sadly -you may be right in a lot of cases, Alpha. -Rio
Guest Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Really! It is a popular belief that women like unreliable but exciting "bad boys" for sexual flings, and stable and predictable men for husbands. In fact so-called "nice guys" are often told "just wait until you're past 30, women will be tired of the macho jerks and start looking for stable guys like you then." So is the bad boys for sex, nice guys for marraige beleif a myth, or is there some truth to it? YOU ARE UGLY!
RecordProducer Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Really! It is a popular belief that women like unreliable but exciting "bad boys" for sexual flings, and stable and predictable men for husbands. In fact so-called "nice guys" are often told "just wait until you're past 30, women will be tired of the macho jerks and start looking for stable guys like you then." So is the bad boys for sex, nice guys for marriage beleif a myth, or is there some truth to it?No, no, and no! Women are not interested in sex flings! All women want romance, even the business women or those who don't want to get married or have children. Just like Rio said, we've all been there and tried that (relationships based on sex), but that was not our personal preference; it was a situation we got ourselves in for whatever reasons or motives. Women don't walk around thinking about how to get laid tonight. If we want to get laid, we want it to include LOVE. I certainly believe that if a woman agrees with herself that she will just have sex with someone, he doesn't have to meet all her criteria, regarding looks or anything else. Or she might base her preference merely on his looks, since she is not interested in anything else. But the man she marries and falls in love with is the man she finds sexually most attractive. And this sexual attraction might not be based on looks. She might become very attracted to somebody's personality despite of the fact that she didn't like him initially. That study doesn't include the factor of falling in love after you get to know someone, like I did with my ex. If a woman didn't find someone so attractive on the first sight, but later married him, it's not because she preferred a round face for marriage - it's because she fell in love with the guy despite of the fact that he didn't look so masculine and sexy. You can't have a study about looks that includes marriage. Marriage is NOT based on looks. According to that study guys with round faces and feminine features have better chances to be married. Is this the reality? Are there more masculine guys who are single? And is it because women ONLY want masculine guys for sex and would never consider marrying them? Or is it because these guys, due to their good looks, simply feel more cocky and self-confident, they don't rush into marriage, but would rather play around? And finally, is the woman the one who chooses whom to marry? According to that study, women choose men; men don't do anything to contribute to whether they will be chosen or not, and only physical appearance is take into consideration as if nothing else played any role from day one to the wedding day. The only information that is statistically valuable in that research is that the masculine guys ended up having short flings with women, while the less attractive feminine guys ended up married SOONER. Connecting their facial features and the outcome of their relationships as causal-consequential is the same as if you would discover that women who use Windex are more likely to get married, because all women who used it prior to marriage tied the knot before their 30th birthday. So girls, start using Windex if you want to get married! Just because two moments happen at the same time, doesn't mean they are co-related and directly conditioned by one another. the father of the kids is the "bad boy"....but its the "nice guy" who raises them and pays the bills.... ha hahah ah ahahh ahaahhahaah ahahhah ahah ah ahah h ahaah ahahahaahaahahah ahaahahahahaahahahahah ahahahh
Salicious Crumb Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Really! It is a popular belief that women like unreliable but exciting "bad boys" for sexual flings, and stable and predictable men for husbands. In fact so-called "nice guys" are often told "just wait until you're past 30, women will be tired of the macho jerks and start looking for stable guys like you then." So is the bad boys for sex, nice guys for marraige beleif a myth, or is there some truth to it? I think there is truth to it. That being said, that means the nice guys are nothing but the woman's 2nd choice and won't be what she really wants. Not exactly fair to the nice guy if a woman's mindset is that she is attracted to the "bad boys". But who ever accused superficial men and women of being fair?
Salicious Crumb Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Have there been times in my life that I allowed hurt feelings to persuade me to seek comfort? A limited number, but, yes. But -the "norm" for me? -I'm looking for everything rolled into *one* package. And my "L" seems to be *the guy* with the right package. -Rio Your "L" ???
alphamale Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 That being said, that means the nice guys are nothing but the woman's 2nd choice and won't be what she really wants. Not exactly fair to the nice guy if a woman's mindset is that she is attracted to the "bad boys". thats basically true SC....the women want to tame and marry the exciting and elusive "bad boy". But he won't be tamed or settle down cause he's too busy banging other women. So the females settle for "nice guy" after they figure out bad boy cannot be had permanently. Bad boy if for good time sex and fun and excitement and to show of to her girl-friends. Some times bad boy beats her to a pulp but she still go back to him. Even when she is married to "nice guy" she may still go have sex with "bad boy"
Krytellan Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 That being said, that means the nice guys are nothing but the woman's 2nd choice and won't be what she really wants. Not exactly fair to the nice guy if a woman's mindset is that she is attracted to the "bad boys". But who ever accused superficial men and women of being fair? It's possible, but I would disagree with this assessment. I think that in dealing with the bad boys early in life (considering the bad boy for sex myth to be a given), the women who end up with the nice guys do so because their interests actually change based on their experiences. To think that the interests people have at 20 are the same as when they are 30 is very unrealistic. Everyone's tastes and interests change based on life experience. So, these women end up with the nice guy not as a second choice, but rather as a first choice based on the most recent interests and tastes.
Author IWalkAlone Posted January 31, 2007 Author Posted January 31, 2007 No, no, and no! Women are not interested in sex flings! All women want romance, even the business women or those who don't want to get married or have children. Just like Rio said, we've all been there and tried that (relationships based on sex), but that was not our personal preference; it was a situation we got ourselves in for whatever reasons or motives. Women don't walk around thinking about how to get laid tonight. If we want to get laid, we want it to include LOVE. This is absurd. I know you're not interest if flings, but can you really speak for all women? So guys who can easly go to bar and bring someone home can do so because the women think they're getting love & romance from them? I've discussed this with some women and they admit to sleeping with guys with no expectation of love & marraige. Are they lying?
brokenhart2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Really! It is a popular belief that women like unreliable but exciting "bad boys" for sexual flings, and stable and predictable men for husbands. In fact so-called "nice guys" are often told "just wait until you're past 30, women will be tired of the macho jerks and start looking for stable guys like you then." So is the bad boys for sex, nice guys for marraige beleif a myth, or is there some truth to it? we don't really see Bad Boys as being just for sex...maybe a little at first...but we really hope for a lot of times, is that the Bad Boy will stick with us, then BECOME marriage material. The ultimate challenge is to have a bad boy turn into Mr. Husband just for us. However, this rarely actually happens, which we all learn eventually. With enough maturing, I think a lot of women (like myself) just want a husband that's a good man with a little touch of bad boy in him..to keep it exciting...
alphamale Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I've discussed this with some women and they admit to sleeping with guys with no expectation of love & marraige. Are they lying? nope....i've slept with some of these types of women. they're the best. i had sex with a woman on NYE and haven't seen her since. We just sort of blew each other off... its no skin off my buttocks cause there are puh-lenty chicks out there.
RecordProducer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 This is absurd. I know you're not interest if flings, but can you really speak for all women? So guys who can easly go to bar and bring someone home can do so because the women think they're getting love & romance from them? I've discussed this with some women and they admit to sleeping with guys with no expectation of love & marraige. Are they lying? OK, well I am talking about all the women I know. The women who sleep with guys with no oexpectations of romance and love might do so simply because they need sex and if they wait until they fall in love, it might take years. Believe me, I would rather have sex with no love than apstinate for a year or more. But that wouldn't be my genuine desire that I would choose over love. If I decide that someone can only serve for sex, it's someone whom I don't really find attractive. Or maybe he is cute, but not relationship material. Once I wanted to sleep with a cute guy that was married, but I got scared that I might fall in love with him so I changed my mind. So you are right that these two groups of men - sex vs. marriage - DO exist, but the sex man is derived from the marriage man: he is good ENOUGH for sex, but not good enough for marriage. It's certainly not like the handsome man is good for sex and the nice guy is good for marriage.
riobikini Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 re: Salicious Crumb: " Your "L" ???" "L" is my SO -his photo is in my profile. -Rio
justagirlforever Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 No one can speak for anyone but themselves And just because we know our own friends and their actions, doesn't mean that makes every other women the same. We choose our friends for reasons - generally common interests, values etc. and will avoid those we don't feel a connection with on some level. So just because our friends make certain choices, doesn't mean it counts for everyone else. I have certainly had sex with absolutely no expectation (or desire for) love or marriage (hand on my heart)
Salicious Crumb Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 re: "L" is my SO -his photo is in my profile. -Rio Ok..I thought that "L" was an OM or MM...in which case I would have replied, no...he doesn't have the right package. LOL
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