Guest Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I am married and have know this man at school who takes his kids there.(he is married to) For years we always have a flirt and thats about it really.Up until a few weeks ago every time is saw him he was asking me to meet him.So i did nothing happened there was so much chemistry bewteen us but we just skirted around each other.Until we kissed dont know how it happened but i enjoyed it.He was phoning me and texting me most of the time.Went around to his house while his wife was at work and we did a little more kissing but thats all. The meetings carried on till last week when he came to school and said that his wife thought he was seeing someone else as he was acting diffrently.So now he seems to of cooled off.But i am missing his texts and phone calls(wife took phone off him) And he came around to mine yesterday and everything seems to of changed.But i cant get him out my mind i miss him and its hard seeing him every day at school as he is in our little group of friends.Also i wrote him anote telling him all this as well and he said he misses me too. I dont want to leave my husband and he doesnt want to leave his wife its just a bit of fun from our every day lifes. Yes im only thinking about my own enjoyment as i liked being with him but just for the fun and danger and he makes me feel like my husband doesnt. si=o its like having 2 men giving me what i need.I have spoke to my husband about him not being attentive to me but nothing has changed. I really enjoyed the chase in the beginning with this guy but now all im left with is confusion. Wanted to get it off my chest and talk to someone about it as i cant tell any one. As he is on my mind all the time.when i go to bed if i wake in the night when i get up in the morning.
whichwayisup Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Let me unconfuse you - Leave him alone, focus on your husband and your own marriage. His wife suspected something was going on, and now he's backed off. Respect that!! So what if you miss the emails/IM's...It was just feeding feelings that were growing for him, and you even have said you have no intention of leaving your husband, so what is the point of straying, having an affair and cheating on your husband with the MM? Make your husband go to marriage counselling. TELL him that you've been tempted by another man, and tell him what happened. That WILL get his attention and he'll change his ways. TO keep intouch with the MM is just selfish and feeding your needs that you should be getting from your husband. You have to stop thinking of the MM, distract yourself and change yoru thoughts to something else when he pops into your head.
JadeStar Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 So now he seems to of cooled off.But i am missing his texts and phone calls(wife took phone off him) Good for her, she should have probably taken his phone. You need to not worry about him anymore. Focus on your marriage. Try to figure out what it is you are missing from your own marriage that makes you feel the need to be with another womans husband. Maybe get into some marriage counseling. Jade
riobikini Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 re: Guest: " Up until a few weeks ago every time is saw him he was asking me to meet him.So i did nothing happened there was so much chemistry bewteen us but we just skirted around each other.Until we kissed dont know how it happened...." It (the kiss) happened because *you* showed up for in-person contact. Since you already know it's wrong and it has already led to all this emotional confusion for you -STOP the contact. Go "cold-turkey" with *all* contact -and refocus your attention on your marriage. -Rio
Sup Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 This is the same lady who posted on here a few days ago! The advice lady is NOT gonna change. Tell your husband what you told us here, and let him decide if he wants to stay with you. Quit trying to get advice as to how to ride some other man! SHEESH! How do I know? You wrote "(wife took phone off him)" In the last one, word for word.
Flyin in Clouds Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 ... I dont want to leave my husband and he doesnt want to leave his wife its just a bit of fun from our every day lifes. Yes im only thinking about my own enjoyment as i liked being with him but just for the fun and danger and he makes me feel like my husband doesnt. yeah, and new sexy woman for your husband would make him feel like you don't. It works for men that way too. si=o its like having 2 men giving me what i need.I have spoke to my husband about him not being attentive to me but nothing has changed. I really enjoyed the chase in the beginning with this guy but now all im left with is confusion. Wanted to get it off my chest and talk to someone about it as i cant tell any one. As he is on my mind all the time.when i go to bed if i wake in the night when i get up in the morning. go read the thread by Inapanic. I don't think your situation will have a happier ending than hers.
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