precious99 Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 How do you show a guy that you are totally, madly and deeply in love with him? My guy is definately shyer than my "wild" ways. I have written him erotic stories and talked dirty to him....sure fire ways to make him blush. I have also penned beautiful love notes and arranged romantic dinners....making him not sure what to say or how to act. He's quiet and inexperienced and I just want to show him that he is the one for me... Any suggestions??
MotherGooze Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Oh, my ex was very shy as well. He actually got embarrassed when I tried to express what I felt for him. Best is to show it through actions, be there for him, do special things for him. I don't know but I think shy guys don't like all the mushy stuff. But I guess it's different for every guy. and actions speak louder then words
woodyman Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I wouldn't be so sure about not liking the mushy stuff... I am 20, and have been with my first GF for over a year now...I had no idea what to do with her, how to receive compliments (lol still not sure). But she shows me. Things that mean most to me, are the smallest things. When we walk around town, she links her arm with mine, and then holds my arm with her other hand. When she writes little notes (she bought a little pack of Juicy Lucy ones), and gives them to me every now and again...I keep these in my wallet, and change them around every so often, guaranteed heart warmer for me. I think you could probably relax on the amount you are doing, and I know it has been said that men are different, but for me, holding my hand, and in a tunnel vision where it is only us two, is the greatest I could feel love.
norajane Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 How do you show a guy that you are totally, madly and deeply in love with him? My guy is definately shyer than my "wild" ways. I have written him erotic stories and talked dirty to him....sure fire ways to make him blush. I have also penned beautiful love notes and arranged romantic dinners....making him not sure what to say or how to act. He's quiet and inexperienced and I just want to show him that he is the one for me... Any suggestions?? Sounds like you've already told him how you feel, in more ways than one. I don't see what him being shy has anything to do with you showing him how you feel. Is your concern that you'd like HIM to tell you how he feels?
kindred_soulman Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 In the past, women have showed how much they cared for me by: 1) Cheating 2) Lying 3) Taking advantage 4) Doing cocaine until 5 am Maybe these same things will work for you!
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 In the past, women have showed how much they cared for me by: 1) Cheating 2) Lying 3) Taking advantage 4) Doing cocaine until 5 am Maybe these same things will work for you! That's how I'd respond to a guy who assumed I'd do those things and had a complete disrespect for women as well. ~~~~~ Precious - we all demonstrate our love in different ways. The things you've done thusfar are great, IMO. Just add some communication to the mix - while making him that dinner, explain WHY you're doing it... He's shy now, but with time he'll get what you're up to.
kindred_soulman Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 That's how I'd respond to a guy who assumed I'd do those things and had a complete disrespect for women as well. Is it possible my disrespect for women was developed after years of manipulation at the hands of a woman? Of course not - I must be soley to blame because women are innocent little darlings. Who said anything was assumed? I assume women to be human and that's it. They take care of the rest.
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Is it possible my disrespect for women was developed after years of manipulation at the hands of a woman? Who said anything was assumed? You have proven yourself on this board to assume all but .00000000000001% of women will lie, cheat, manipulate, do cocaine, hurt you, etc. Nevertheless, you proved my point. You have NO RESPECT for women. NONE. By responding to threads in the manner in which you did, you further demonstrated this.
blackenedESP Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 back to the original post....a girl going out of her way to do things that were related to my interests always made me think she was into me. i just recently started playing guitar and a friend of mine had gone out on her own and gotten me a guitar for dummies book for my birthday, never told her anything about it. little things like that always showed they care.
woodyman Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Exactly that. Stuff that you know he likes, but maybe he doesn't make a fuss about...you want to emphasize these things, buy him something, or do something for him that has a strong meaning... That is by far the greatest gift to get...Thought.
Cous Cous With Goose Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Oh, my ex was very shy as well. He actually got embarrassed when I tried to express what I felt for him. Best is to show it through actions, be there for him, do special things for him. I don't know but I think shy guys don't like all the mushy stuff. But I guess it's different for every guy. and actions speak louder then words I wouldn't say that..shy guys simply don't know how to respond to compliments and it takes them longer to feel comfortable around someone, even if they know the girls likes them, even if they started dating. How do I know? I used to be a shy guy. Like even now, if a girl compliments me and I'm caught off guard I might just say thanks and become a little shy myself.
alphamale Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 How do you show a guy that you are totally, madly and deeply in love with him??? show him sexually in the bedroom. do whatever he wants. have all sorts of oral and anal adventures. wear the outfits his likes. talk dirty. also make him lots of good food and assist to keep his place clean and tidy, especially the bathroom and kitchen areas. yea and be nice to all his buddies and his family, esp his mom. that will tell him you deeply care for him.
ddnnee Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 show him sexually in the bedroom. do whatever he wants. have all sorts of oral and anal adventures. wear the outfits his likes. talk dirty. also make him lots of good food and assist to keep his place clean and tidy, especially the bathroom and kitchen areas. yea and be nice to all his buddies and his family, esp his mom. that will tell him you deeply care for him. and then after, date his best friend and make out with his bestfriend in front of him.
stevranger Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 In the past, women have showed how much they cared for me by: 1) Cheating 2) Lying 3) Taking advantage 4) Doing cocaine until 5 am Maybe these same things will work for you! Hello friend, That is such an informative post, thank you very much for sharing that with everyone. I am positive that everyone is a lot smarter for reading that trash. Okay, now I'll direct my attention to someone worthwhile - the OP. I think the small things approach is really thoughtful. Of course some of them may fly over his head so you still need the big things to show that you care. Someone mentioned writing little notes here and there. It's simple yet elegant -- it shows that you care for him even in the smallest ways. That really is a fantastic idea! Cheers, - Steve
Green Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Thats great that your in love congrats, this guy probably knows it already
Author precious99 Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 Thanks for all the replies. I have never dated someone so quiet and reserved - and so unlike me!! It's actually a good thing for me - I think I kind of got used to being chased and persued and always having the guy do things for me to express his feelings - it's a lot of fun to first of all be in love but also to be in love with someone who doesn't have alot of experience, lines and/or false bravado.... He does appreciate when I leave him notes when I go to work, give him a back massage or suggest an afternoon tryst.... Can I deviate a little from the orignal topic?? A few of you who answered said that you were a "shy guy" or you knew a "shy guy" - so what about sex?? He's pretty inexperiened and it embarrasses him when I talk about it - so how do I know that it's all that it can be for him?? Thanks again.... P
Salicious Crumb Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 How do you show a guy that you are totally, madly and deeply in love with him? My guy is definately shyer than my "wild" ways. I have written him erotic stories and talked dirty to him....sure fire ways to make him blush. I have also penned beautiful love notes and arranged romantic dinners....making him not sure what to say or how to act. He's quiet and inexperienced and I just want to show him that he is the one for me... Any suggestions?? The love notes and romatic dinners are definitely a plus. but I'd be put off by a woman that writes me erotic stories or talks dirty...I'd get the idea that she is a slut. Call me crazy, but I don't want one of those. When you are out with him...hold his hand...when walking, put your arm around him and press your cheek up against his chest...its little things like that that make me feel good about someone. Tell him you want the two of you to go away somewhere for the weekend...things like that.
norajane Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 but I'd be put off by a woman that writes me erotic stories or talks dirty...I'd get the idea that she is a slut. Call me crazy, but I don't want one of those. Oh, that's such a sad viewpoint... A woman who writes erotic stories is a creative writer of fiction and fantasy, expressive and open with her sexuality, and someone who is open to YOUR sexuality and erotic thoughts. A man who stars in his gf's erotic stories gets to read of all the tingly feelings he arouses in her with his touch, of her desire for him, of her passion for their physical intimacy. He is a lucky, lucky man, especially compared to those men whose girls just kinda lie there. It doesn't mean she sleeps around a lot. You honestly would hate it if your girl wrote a little story about what you two did last night and how it felt? Or sent you an email describing what she'd like to do to you when you come home?
Salicious Crumb Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Oh, that's such a sad viewpoint... A woman who writes erotic stories is a creative writer of fiction and fantasy, expressive and open with her sexuality, and someone who is open to YOUR sexuality and erotic thoughts. A man who stars in his gf's erotic stories gets to read of all the tingly feelings he arouses in her with his touch, of her desire for him, of her passion for their physical intimacy. He is a lucky, lucky man, especially compared to those men whose girls just kinda lie there. It doesn't mean she sleeps around a lot. You honestly would hate it if your girl wrote a little story about what you two did last night and how it felt? Or sent you an email describing what she'd like to do to you when you come home? Someone I just met...yes...I'd be put off. Someone I had been married to for years...no. but in my case I would be put off either way since my wife is an admitted cheater.
Author precious99 Posted February 2, 2007 Author Posted February 2, 2007 Someone I just met...yes...I'd be put off. We have been together more than a year....
kindred_soulman Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 Nevertheless, you proved my point. You have NO RESPECT for women. NONE. By responding to threads in the manner in which you did, you further demonstrated this. Respect is earned, not given. Vent your anger towards your fellow women, as their behavior proves unworthy of my respect.
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