Jane Doe Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I'm just wondering if any of you ever worry about contracting an STD. Even if you think your MM or MW is clean, you really have no way of knowing what his/her spouse is up to. For all you know, he/she is having an affair, too. I just went through an ob/gyn scare (completely unrelated to any kind of STD) and that's kind of been on my mind lately. It just seems like no one ever thinks of STDs. This question isn't put here just because you may be an OM or OW. I'm just asking in general. (And please don't think I'm judging anyone because I'm not. It's just for discussion.)
YoMomma Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I'm just wondering if any of you ever worry about contracting an STD. Even if you think your MM or MW is clean, you really have no way of knowing what his/her spouse is up to. For all you know, he/she is having an affair, too. I just went through an ob/gyn scare (completely unrelated to any kind of STD) and that's kind of been on my mind lately. It just seems like no one ever thinks of STDs. This question isn't put here just because you may be an OM or OW. I'm just asking in general. (And please don't think I'm judging anyone because I'm not. It's just for discussion.) When I was with exMM - um...feels good saying exMM - we always used condoms. Even though we were both sterile - fixed so to speak - condoms were a must. As you said - his wife could have been screwing around too! Although I am fairly confident she wasn't - who knows if he had another OW?
BenThereDunThat Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I am embarrassed to admit that no, there was a time with the exMM that I did NOT worry about STD's. We "only" did it 4-5 times, the first two, I made him use a condom. Then as I got to "know" him (i.e., completely gave into the blinders), I believed him when he told me that there was no one else besides his W -- and that they (brace yourselves for this shocker) only did it like 4 times in the previous year. Since the blinders are now gone forever, I have gone to get checked, and thankfully, everything is fine. But still. BIG, HUGE lesson learned. I am still in awe over my lapse of judgment. Hell, for all I know, this creep has sex with men too. And I'm not 100% joking about that.
mopar crazy Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 When I was an OW to a man in a CR I wasn't scared of STD. However, as a BW I was scared to death and was tested. TG the test results came back negative.
bluechocolate Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 When I was single & screwing around (something I did a lot of with both men & women) I worried about STDs, even though I played safe most of the time. Which is why I went for regular check ups. Now that I've been in a stable relationship I don't worry about them at all. Of course NOT worrying about my sexual health requires a certain amount of trust that my partner isn't fooling around on me. Which is OK, I have that trust. Isn't that what partnerships are about? Having said that, if I happen to experience any irritating itchiness or unsightly seeping sores in the nether regions I would still get myself off to a clinic. Thankfully that has yet to happen.
frannie Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 No I don't worry about it with him any more than I've worried about it with any previous boyfriends. When you're having sex with someone there's always a chance they're not being honest with you about exclusivity, and that goes for if you're married too. There's never any safety because you are always relying on someone else's word and your own judgement of their truthfulness.
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