Emotional Support

[aeren944]

Hi guys,

 

I'm hurting right now and I really need some help. I hate posting this stuff because I think so hard about it and it's tough to fit it all in one little post, but I'll try and keep it as short as possible.

 

My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship right now. We have a 3 year old daughter and one on the way. (No, we're not married, but we were planning to be... thus the purpose of this post). She lives in southern California and I live in Arizona. We're about 6 hours away from each other.

 

We just recently found out that we're pregnant again, and that, of course, freaked us out... due to the financial aspect of the whole thing. Her and I both love our daughter and she's with her all the time. My girlfriend lives with her parents in California, and I'm planning on moving out there in June.

 

Anyway, lately, she's been stressed. I think it's because of the pregnancy, but I'm not sure. I've been trying to reassure her, to tell her everything will be okay. She got a lot better the past week. However, I'm not invulnerable, and I start stressing about it too. The past week, I've been really nervous about it... about the financial strain and the change of plans.

 

I tried to talk to her about it, but she was very impatient with me. I asked her if she could support me emotionally and help me know if everything's going to be okay. She got mad and said, "It's always something with you." I suppose she meant that I kind of need emotional support a lot. My problem is that when I'm in a relationship, I feel like both parties should try and be as supportive as possible. I feel like if one partner's hurting, the other one needs to step in a help them out. I do my best to do this for her, and I know it helps her because she says she feels better. However, I really don't think its mirrored from her. I feel like if I bring something up, she'll get mad and she'll just tell me to "man up". She's already told me to man up once, and that hurt like hell. I feel like I need emotional support sometimes.

 

I'm just not good at shoving my feelings aside and acting like I don't care... especially with the one I want to be with. I also don't want to be a wimp and be too needy. But I feel like emotionally, she doesn't support me at all. What do I do? It bugs me. Every time I look at a picture of her and my daughter, I get sad. It makes me scared because I don't want to go through more pain, and especially a pain that would affect my daughter. I just don't know why she's like this, or what to do about it. I understand I should know that she's probably stressed and her hormones are kicking in, but I also feel like this is tearing me apart at the seams.

 

Please, any help would be greatly appreciated. I'll try and respond with any info you need.

[Cous Cous With Goose]

We just recently found out that we're pregnant again, and that, of course, freaked us out... due to the financial aspect of the whole thing. Her and I both love our daughter and she's with her all the time. My girlfriend lives with her parents in California, and I'm planning on moving out there in June.

That's awesome! So two kids on the way?

lol jp jp

 

I tried to talk to her about it, but she was very impatient with me. I asked her if she could support me emotionally and help me know if everything's going to be okay. She got mad and said, "It's always something with you." I suppose she meant that I kind of need emotional support a lot. My problem is that when I'm in a relationship, I feel like both parties should try and be as supportive as possible. I feel like if one partner's hurting, the other one needs to step in a help them out. I do my best to do this for her, and I know it helps her because she says she feels better. However, I really don't think its mirrored from her. I feel like if I bring something up, she'll get mad and she'll just tell me to "man up". She's already told me to man up once, and that hurt like hell. I feel like I need emotional support sometimes.

 

I'm just not good at shoving my feelings aside and acting like I don't care... especially with the one I want to be with. I also don't want to be a wimp and be too needy. But I feel like emotionally, she doesn't support me at all. What do I do? It bugs me. Every time I look at a picture of her and my daughter, I get sad. It makes me scared because I don't want to go through more pain, and especially a pain that would affect my daughter. I just don't know why she's like this, or what to do about it. I understand I should know that she's probably stressed and her hormones are kicking in, but I also feel like this is tearing me apart at the seams.

lol either she's a bitch or you're wording your stuff wrong. Are you saying "Honey I need emotional support?" Sorry man but that IS ****ing pathetic. You have to mask it. Like..

 

"You know those days where from the moment you wake up everything just goes wrong? You try to make the best out of every situation, but it all turns out horrible and you feel like nothing you do works? Yea, I'm experiencing that right now except it's not just one day. I'm just really down and confused. I'm trying to see the positive in everything around me, but sometimes it's just so hard. I don't know if you're feeling like this right now, but at least I know I can count on you to help me get through this."

Voila! No more 'man up sonny boy'.