stillhere Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 You mean heartless people. HOW DARE YOU BE LIKE THIS. I am a woman who is in pain and in love. The only person that has be nice to me is that whichwayisup. She should be respected here. None of you must never have been in this type of relationship WOW, am i ever late. OK BRV, everyone here has tried to help you. EVERYONE, but they are getting a little irritated with you because you twist what everyone is saying and you're not willing to listen to good advice. There's only so much that can be given. I am an OW. I have been for over a 1 1/2 years. I can tell you this, my MM has NEVER and will NEVER treat me the way that your MM is treating you. You are allowing him to walk all over you and use you like a piece of meat. You do not deserve this treatment. If he loved you, he wouldn't treat you this way. Everyone has told you that this relationship with him is unhealthy. It would be unhealthy if he was single. I know you love him, but you need to leave this man be. He is manipulating you, and he's suddenly finding that you are too much of an effort for him. He wants a play toy, not someone who will cause problems for him, and that's why he wants to take a break. Please leave him alone, i know you think you love him and that he loves you, but he doesn't. He will tell you anything so that you will do what he wants.
Touche Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Can someone please clue me in on the sex with midgets thing? I must have missed that? Where did that come from? Oh and Bedroom Voice, I was trying to help but you won't listen. I'm really sorry that you're in pain (if this is real). I don't wish this on anyone but it's of your own making and you CAN change this. As was pointed out to you, this guy will NOT do anything for you as you claim. Is he going to leave his wife for you? Probably not. Is he going to stop having sex with her? Probably not. Will he leave you if you get pregnant. Probably. So, what is it that he does for you that makes you think he'll do "anything" for you? I'm just curious, really. Not attacking. Just trying to help. Oh and if his wife is so dumb and he thinks she's so annoying what's stopping him from leaving her and being with you? Let me guess...the kids? Money? Right.
BenThereDunThat Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 None of you must never have been in this type of relationship You definitely got me there. While I was stupid enough to be an OW at one time, I NEVER allowed a man to outright disrespect and abuse me the way this man is you. You don't want to hear that though. You want affirmation from people that you should shut up, lay down, and take whatever he gives you, all with a smile on your face! Sorry. You're not going to get that here. If you are real, you are being seriously emotionally abused, at the very least. If that's not what you care to hear, then maybe you should seek advice elsewhere.
YoMomma Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Are you saying that you now think you may be pregnant and you are more concerned about sex with midgets and what his wife won't do in bed? . OMG! I am not one to laugh at anyone or their situation - if this is a joke or not it's OBVIOUS someone isn't playing with a full deck! I suggest you get yourself to your OB/GYN and explain that you may be pregnant by your married lover who has dreams of sex with midgets and wants you to do everything his wife won't! I hope the good doctor orders a test for STD's along with the pregnancy stick, and that both tests are negative. Good Luck! :sick: :sick:
Storyrider Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Can someone please clue me in on the sex with midgets thing? I must have missed that? Where did that come from? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t111021/
Touche Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t111021/ OMG! Thanks for the link, Story...this gets more and more ridiculous. But I don't know...my son and I watch this show about this dwarf couple and the dwarf husband IS kind of cute! Do they have regular size penises though?
Storyrider Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 OMG! Thanks for the link, Story...this gets more and more ridiculous. But I don't know...my son and I watch this show about this dwarf couple and the dwarf husband IS kind of cute! Do they have regular size penises though? Good question. I think you might be a distant relative of mine, as my family once spent an hour arguing over the subtle differences between a dwarf and a midget. We got quite heated over it, while H. looked on, rather taken aback. IMO, midgets are people too, and someone may as well be attracted to them. Who says it has to be another midget? However, that doesn't mean the MM is not a pervert or a jerk. As for the OP, I haven't decided if she is a troll or just from Indonesia.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 That would be like leaving a sinking ship. Interesting words you chose to describe your MM and your relationship with him. You have no idea just how on target you really are.
puddleofmud Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 OMG! Thanks for the link, Story...this gets more and more ridiculous. But I don't know...my son and I watch this show about this dwarf couple and the dwarf husband IS kind of cute! Do they have regular size penises though? No, matter "they" do have average sized brains, intelligence, and emotions and are quite HUMAN so I think the "penis size" comment is a bit goshe. Since no one here is a dwarf ; I would suggest one post that question to a darwf.
Touche Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 No, matter "they" do have average sized brains, intelligence, and emotions and are quite HUMAN so I think the "penis size" comment is a bit goshe. Since no one here is a dwarf ; I would suggest one post that question to a darwf. "Goshe?" What the H is THAT? Did you mean "gauche?" I didn't think it's "gauche" at ALL! And how the hell do you know that I'm not a dwarf married to an average-sized man? Please don't jump to conclusions about me. Let's stick to the topic at hand, k? Thanks.
vanilla chai Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Ya, I'm now wondering myself...who in their right mind anounces being "employee of the month"...that is something checkers at a grocery store get. Not that there's anything wrong with that...LOL. Would you like to supersize your drink and fries?
puddleofmud Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 "Goshe?" What the H is THAT? Did you mean "gauche?" I didn't think it's "gauche" at ALL! And how the hell do you know that I'm not a dwarf married to an average-sized man? Please don't jump to conclusions about me. Let's stick to the topic at hand, k? Thanks. However that may be spelled: that is how I felt about the comment and within your perfect right to disagree...
vanilla chai Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 How dare you? He will do anything for me. He loves me and I make him happy. Give me a break,if the wife finds out lets see how much love your mm will show you.
Kathleen Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 BRV you are seriously in major denial here. For goodness sake, get out of this so-called relationship. He is no good for you. You don't see it now but you're headed for a world of hurt.
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 31, 2007 Author Posted January 31, 2007 I dont believe I am in denial but I think I might need some help. I have mentioned that we should attend couples therapy. I think his insurance would cover something like that. Or maybe I could ask him to pay for it. But I do believe some help is in order. As far as being late. I havent really told him yet. He thinks that since we have been more active with toys that somehow messed things up. That is what he told me. I think I should wait until the end of the week and then get something at the store. thanks to those who really care about my situtation.
outofdarkness Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 You sound like an addict. I think that's sort of presumptious...I think you have to know a situation and/or a person pretty darn well before even insinuating that...just my opinion...
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 1. I have mentioned that we should attend couples therapy. 2. I think his insurance would cover something like that. 3. Or maybe I could ask him to pay for it. 1. I'm not sure about couple's therapy. I doubt you'll find one who will support your involvement in an extramarital affair, much less help you "work on it". I seriously doubt your MM would be even remotely interested anyway. 2. Not if you aren't on his insurance plan. 3. Sure, you could ask. Don't expect too much here, though. He isn't likely to spend his money on something like that. How would he possibly explain the expense? First things first. You need to tell him if you are pregnant. Take the test. If you are pregnant tell him. Something tells me that when you do, the last thing on his mind will be "couple's counseling". I think it will be more along the lines of "I am so f*cked".
norajane Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 As far as being late. I havent really told him yet. He thinks that since we have been more active with toys that somehow messed things up. That is what he told me. I think I should wait until the end of the week and then get something at the store. I'm not quite sure what to think after reading this whole thread...maybe that you are young and definitely naive? Anyway - Playing with toys does NOT "mess up" your menstrual cycle. There are some things - like stress or illness - that can make your cycle a few days short or long, but sex toys have no effect at all. I don't know why he would tell you such a thing, and I don't know why you even believe him. Go to the drugstore and get a pregnancy test immediately. The sooner you know if you are pregnant, the sooner you can either ease your mind or start figuring out what you want to do next.
outofdarkness Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 But he is my life. I asked him that. He told me that he wants to have an open communication and not have to watch what he says to me He wants to do and say whatever he has to to get what he wants from you. He has to tell you about how miserable his life is so that you feel "ok" about being in the affair. As the main OW of my H's said to me after D day; "I'd love to think that had I known that you did not know about the affair, I would have ended it, but he insisted that you knew and were ok with it". You see, they have to present things a certain way, or you might not stay in the A. Most OW's are decent people just like us BS's...So, if you are told horrible and sad things about the W and his family, you'll feel better about what you're into...It's all a sick game, and everyone gets hurt...Even the OW's that end up in long term relationships or marrying the MM, people inevitably get hurt. My H told his main OW, and I'm certain the others too, everything about me and our kids, right down to our dog's behavior...When she wrote me the D day letter, it primarily focused on how she had cried buckets of tears over especially our son, who has been very ill for some time..She told me that she felt that she had felt everything but the labor pains. She admitted after talking with me; I waited to call her until I could really listen and be civil, that I was nothing like the person that he had portrayed me to be...Hope this helps...
BenThereDunThat Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 As far as being late. I havent really told him yet. He thinks that since we have been more active with toys that somehow messed things up. That is what he told me. I think I should wait until the end of the week and then get something at the store. Do you just believe EVERYthing he tells you?? Now I've heard everything. Toys do not mess up your cycle!! Unless by toys you mean he's shoving knives up there or something. Whether you want to see it or not, this is one seriously toxic relationship. Toxic to YOU, that is. No wonder he tells you all these things. You LET him! Based solely on your posts, sounds to me like this guy has found himself an extremely naiive girl/woman and is taking full and complete advantage over the absolute control you have given him over you. When people here suggest you get help, they're not talking couples help.
norajane Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 First things first. You need to tell him if you are pregnant. Take the test. If you are pregnant tell him. Something tells me that when you do, the last thing on his mind will be "couple's counseling". I think it will be more along the lines of "I am so f*cked". I think he's totally taking advantage of this girl. Right after thinking "I am so f*cked" he's going to push it back and tell her "sorry, but YOU are so f*cked and I am so outta here!"
outofdarkness Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I just called him to let him know that I would like to talk in person. I feel we have alot to talk about. I cant lose him. Not now. I have been 3 days late for my monthly. And with everything else that is taking place I cant just end the relationship. I should be strong and grind my teeth and move with it. are you underage? If you are then you should get away from him asap! maybe you are of age and he has taken advantage of you for being extremely vulnerable and naive??? I am worried for you!
NoIDidn't Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I got it. I got it!!! I. GOT. IT!!!!!! BRV is under 21 and her MM is too. The things *it* has said on this thread are truly unbelievable. Yet, *it* has a reliable and quick internet connection. Whoever you are, get some help. And stop kidding yourself about the couples therapy. This MM, if this is real, is going to laugh you to shame with "we are not a couple". That was entertaining....couples therapy. Please tell us all that you are a troll so folks will stop wasting their compassion on a seriously messed up person whether the sitch is real or not.
stillhere Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I am at a total loss for words. Couples therapy???? Please please please tell me you're kidding!! BRV, how old are you? How old is your MM? I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around this whole situation. I must now pick my jaw up off the floor after the "couples therapy" comment. Do you not realize that your MM is just using you for sex? This man does not love you. There is no way in H*LL he will pay for couples counseling. I think you need to see a therapist for you and only you. I'm at my witts end.
whichwayisup Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Go see a therapist, but make it one on one. To be honest, it's kind of pointless to go to couples therapy with a MM...I think most therapists wouldn't recommend this either.
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