Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Posted January 30, 2007 I have been crying terribly by these hurtful posts. Do people even relieze how hard it is to confide to someone about this? I wish I had a better job. I wish I could let things go. I guess my problem became everyone elses joke for the day. No one wanted you to break you. Sorry that you are so sensitive.
Kathleen Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Do you have any friends you could hang out with to get your mind off of the situation?
Touche Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 The only person who will end up breaking you is HIM! No one here is trying to do that. This is a place you can come and get support. He's playing you and you don't see it yet. When you realize that you can have your own man and don't need this guy, we'll all be here to help you through this. But you can't expect people to be jumping up and down with glee for you now. You're in a relationship that is going to end up causing you pain in the end. I mean the odds and probabilities DO point that way. And I've noticed that those who gave you really good advice were ignored. You're only responding to those who you perceive as insulting you.
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Posted January 30, 2007 I think i should call him and tell him that I like things they way they are. I dont want to lose him. And by the way he told me that I cant be sent out of the country for an affair. So there goes the alienation theroy that someone told me about. Do you have any friends you could hang out with to get your mind off of the situation?
Kathleen Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I think i should call him and tell him that I like things they way they are. I dont want to lose him. And by the way he told me that I cant be sent out of the country for an affair. So there goes the alienation theroy that someone told me about. Being sent out of the country would mean deportation or something. Alianation of affection isn't that at all. Do you really like the way things are now? Please think about that before you pick up the phone to call him.
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Posted January 30, 2007 I just called him to let him know that I would like to talk in person. I feel we have alot to talk about. I cant lose him. Not now. I have been 3 days late for my monthly. And with everything else that is taking place I cant just end the relationship. I should be strong and grind my teeth and move with it.
Kathleen Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Ok. I need to throw my hands up now. No smiley for that. Cheese & Rice. Is there anyone here that could help her?
Salicious Crumb Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I have been crying terribly by these hurtful posts. Do people even relieze how hard it is to confide to someone about this? I wish I had a better job. I wish I could let things go. I guess my problem became everyone elses joke for the day. What you are doing is not a joke. And I am sure as hell not laughing about it. So let me ask you a question BedRoomVoice.....do you feel badly for your lover's wife and kids?
puddleofmud Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I think everyone here is trying to help you understand that you have CHOICES about how you are being treated and the right to feel the way you feel. Why would you choose/ allow for your feelings to be negated? Why are YOUR thoughts and feelings not worthy of respect? This is not how any healthy relationship works! The proper response as to your feelings spoken to said MM would have been something like: "I'm sorry you don't want to talk about that; what can I do to make you feel more secure?" or "What is it that talking about my wife disturbs you?" or "Sorry, you feel that way, I don't understand but I am listening" Persons who care for you don't withdraw to get what they want--they stand together with you and work it out. Relationships aren't about "MY way or hit the highway". They are a two way street. He is keeping you at dead end, where you don't matter. Your feelings don't matter and you have no choices other than what he chooses for you. That is called "emotional abuse". When one is so frightened and worried that something they have done is considered "wrong" in the eyes of their partner, and so willing to be controlled...then one needs to understand that they are allowing abuse. YOU ARE WORTHY OF RESPECT, YOUR FEELINGS DO MATTER, AND YOU ARE NOT WRONG TO EXPECT ANYTHING LESS. No one is being mean to you, we are all simply doing our best to help you understand that you have a right to stand up for yourself. We may be strangers, but we do understand more than you could ever realize and we do care!
herenow Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I just called him to let him know that I would like to talk in person. I feel we have alot to talk about. I cant lose him. Not now. I have been 3 days late for my monthly. And with everything else that is taking place I cant just end the relationship. I should be strong and grind my teeth and move with it. Are you saying that you now think you may be pregnant and you are more concerned about sex with midgets and what his wife won't do in bed? Either you are one really screwed up person or this is a bunch of ****. You indeed need to talk to someone in person. Some one with a good degree from a good school and charges tons of money. Really either way true or false, get yourself some help. That's all the advice I'm qualified to give you.
Touche Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I just called him to let him know that I would like to talk in person. I feel we have alot to talk about. I cant lose him. Not now. I have been 3 days late for my monthly. And with everything else that is taking place I cant just end the relationship. I should be strong and grind my teeth and move with it. Are you an American citizen? If so, you can't be sent out of the country for carrying on with a married man. However, in some states, you CAN be sued for having an affair with a married man. The suit is an alienation of affection suit. They're not that common but in some states you CAN be sued. His wife can sue you for everything you have. Are you in a state that allows that? See, in some states what you are doing is actually, in effect, illegal.
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Posted January 30, 2007 I dont like thinking about them. I have no feelings for them What you are doing is not a joke. And I am sure as hell not laughing about it. So let me ask you a question BedRoomVoice.....do you feel badly for your lover's wife and kids?
herenow Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I dont like thinking about them. I have no feelings for them Of course you don't. But I'm sure when the W finds out she will have a thing or two to say about how she feels about you. And don't think for one minute MM wil support you. He will do anything he can to protect himself.
Touche Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I dont like thinking about them. I have no feelings for them Wow. That's all I can say is wow. And you know just because you don't like talking about them or thinking about them doesn't mean they don't exist. He goes home to his wife and sleeps next to her every night. He has kids I'm sure he loves. He's built a life with another woman and you're just his little fun on the side. I guess if I were you I wouldn't want to think about that either. But you should. Pretending they don't exist is just prolonging the inevitable pain that is sure to come. I sure hope you're not pregnant. But that's one fast way to get rid of him.
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Posted January 30, 2007 How dare you? He will do anything for me. He loves me and I make him happy. Of course you don't. But I'm sure when the W finds out she will have a thing or two to say about how she feels about you. And don't think for one minute MM wil support you. He will do anything he can to protect himself.
LilDarlin Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I'm starting to think that BRV is just pulling our legs. I mean honestly.....sex with midgets, bragging about a menial job, common phrases whizzing over her head and now a pregnancy....... Someone has too much time on her hands.
whichwayisup Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 How dare you? He will do anything for me. He loves me and I make him happy. Are you kidding? I've tried to help you on this thread, but you're not listening to ANY advice given to you. You only see things ONE way and that's what is messing you up even more. Go, enjoy your MM for as long as you want or until you two get caught. Trust me, his wife and children are VERY real - But, in your mind now, they don't exist...And that is how you are making your situation worse. Anyway, I can't help you unless you're willing to open your eyes more.
BenThereDunThat Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I haven't laughed this hard in a long time.... :lmao: This is definitely a troll. And if by some small chance it's not, seriously, lady, being an OW is the LEAST of your problems!
puddleofmud Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 How dare you? He will do anything for me. He loves me and I make him happy. So you have no need of us! Bye Bye!
Babybird Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 If he would do anything for you he would leave his wife! Ok: Listen to him talk about what his wife does or does not do in the bedroom....ONCE. That's all you need to know. In a round-about way it is giving you a clue about his likes and dis-likes in the bedroom. YOu could ask him about his fantasies too. Let him know that your communication lines are open: his sex or lack there of with his wife has nothing to do with your relationship. You have sex...and according to you it's good. BTW: When you ask for advice you get the good with the bad. It will always be like that. In person, on-line etc. Have you asked your employer of they have an EAP(Employee Assistance Program)? Sometimes they have free counseling.
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Posted January 30, 2007 You mean heartless people. HOW DARE YOU BE LIKE THIS. I am a woman who is in pain and in love. The only person that has be nice to me is that whichwayisup. She should be respected here. None of you must never have been in this type of relationship
herenow Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Hugs to WWIU, BTDT and POM. Gotta go get the kids. Have a great day! Love the dog LilDarlin! Previously on Days of Our Lives... You can take it from here RMD!
Salicious Crumb Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I dont like thinking about them. I have no feelings for them Then you are an unfeeling tramp and deserve whatever is coming to you...which is this guy is using your dumb ass...and you deserve it. Really...no feelings for the poor kids involved. You are one worthless excuse for a human being.
NoIDidn't Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Yep, this one definitely lives under a bridge! First she says he talks about his W incessantly, now she claims that the W and kids don't exist in her mind. No wonder the constant talking about someone who doesn't exist bothers her. She probably thinks he has schizophrenia or something.
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