lallorena Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I'm starting to think that I should just stop thinking about it in depth because it's just confusing me. I wanted to get it off of my chest and see what other people think. this is probably going to get pretty long. There's this guy I met through a couple of my friends. He was never that good of friends with either of them.. they never hung out outside of school or anything like that. I met him at school with them twice.. and I thought he was pretty cool but my friends are the kind of people who will meet someone, be their best friend for a week, and move on to someone else so I never really paid much attention to him. I tagged along with them to one of his band's shows, and when his band wasn't playing, he'd come and talk to me (not my friends). A couple weeks later, about 15 of us got together and played pool. And again, he'd come and talk to me instead of the other people he knew there. His band mate was playing pool against me, and he tried to convince his friend to let him play instead... So all of that kind of got me thinking that he was interested in me, and I think he's really nice and pretty cute. So we started talking on msn. The second time we'd ever talked on msn, he asked me to hang out with him. So I said yes. We hung out a couple days later. It was after one of his band meetings, so it was pretty late. 10pm on a tuesday night so everything was closed. We ended up going to his place and watching a movie. He didn't flirt at all.. he had his arms crossed the whole time (bad body language).. It just kind of threw me off. He was pretty talkative and everything though. This is already getting pretty long, so I'll just skip to tonight. We hung out again (we had plans to hang out on friday but he ended up recording with his band until 12) and the same thing happened. We spent the whole time in a coffee shop (the only one open, again we met up on a tuesday night at 11:30), and talked for two hours. He kept avoiding making eye contact, but he was really talkative again. Between us hanging out, we talked pretty much everyday. So I'm definitely starting to think that he doesn't like me at all, except as friends. But then I start thinking about how he never asked my other friends to hang out alone, and he'd always talk to me a lot more than everyone else when we were hanging out in groups. When we were hanging out, he'd always get me to choose the movie or something and made sure I was having a good time. And I know he's had a really rough past. Not many good relationships, he never knew his dad, his mom is really sick, his grandma who was the person he loved the most just died, he was beat up in school.. So he's had it really rough. He's incredibly nice. He's one of those people who only have good intentions, he wants everyone around him to be happy and feel loved. He's really sensitive from all of the things he's gone through in his life. So that confuses me. He shows absolutely no signs of liking me as anything more than a friend. Yet he never once hung out with either of my friends (who have a lot more guys all over them than me, so I'm not used to that. I'm usually the quiet, overlooked friend)... And he's so sensitive... his myspace says that he just doesn't want his heart to be broken again.. stuff like that. So maybe he's just not opening up? Is he one of those nice guys that finish last because he's too nice to make a move and he gets put into the "friend zone" or is this all just my false hope and he just likes me as a friend.
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