goodguy123 Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I was in a bookstore today, and I was reading in the cafe area where they have drinks and stuff and there was a really cute girl working at the drink counter. We made eye contact a few times, and I wanted to ask her out, but I become really shy in these situations. It's not that i'm afraid of being rejected, it's just figuring out what to say, and getting up the courage to do it. So anyway, I was gonna go back in tomorrow and read some stuff, and I was trying to figure out how to ask this girl out. I think another problem I have is that I'm scared to ask when she has co-workers around. So what should I say to her? Or would I be better off asking a co-worker if she has a boyfriend first? So any ideas of what to say or how to go about it would be greatly appreciated!!!
Guest Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Love contract – it is a ‘contract’ [like a wedding vow] that commits both people to using counseling and other means to learn to love each other and create a strong and lasting union. This is especially useful when one or both people have a fear of marriage – why fear? Perhaps a pervious marriage failed or on was abandoned during stressful times. Remember marriage is supposed to be a sage haven and doubt and despair can be conquered by a ‘leap of faith’. Sometimes people will link finance to romance and may be emotionally paralyzed because of the past – there is a high price associated with keeping secrets and lies and it plays out on the mind and body. Often people will use the past and place certain conditions and behaviours as being the single most determination factor regarding health and happiness and those who are less likely to understand what is happening around them are unable to make rationale decisions under such circumstances. And when you add in medical conditions and medication these can ameriorate and pressure those who are most vulnerable. It is during times like these where one should avoid dyadic relationships, stop letting guilt and shame play a false role, and never let false statement become an escape hatch from simply telling the truth and treating each other with respect and honesty. Couples who are emotionally connected and focused will always be able to find their way back to each other and show their children what leadership is all about.
Sarah12385 Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 Hey, you could always use the phone-number-on-the-napkin approach
Guest Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 i know how u feel. i couldn't ask someone out when other people are around as well. it would put both people on the defensive. what i would do is check where she parks her car, you know the one that has all those weird books and tim horton coffee cups in the back, and tape a little note to the window saying, hi there - remember me? i was the one that was staring at you today - would u like to go to rawknroll bowling nite with me this friday? and then leave your phone number or email address. and draw a little blushing happy red face like the ones used in here.
Cous Cous With Goose Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 lol welllll..you could stare at her until she looks up or whatever..then keep staring until she smiles or breaks contact. You can't look like a desperate creep though lol..if she smiles smile back and simply introduce yourself. Then it's easy, just ask her about her work I mean that's a given. If she breaks contact say 'ha made ya blink!' but your voice gotta indicate your joking around with her. If she liked it go up and introduce yourself. If she doesn't, move on she's boring.
scarfstyle Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I was in a bookstore today, and I was reading in the cafe area where they have drinks and stuff and there was a really cute girl working at the drink counter. We made eye contact a few times, and I wanted to ask her out, but I become really shy in these situations. It's not that i'm afraid of being rejected, it's just figuring out what to say, and getting up the courage to do it. So anyway, I was gonna go back in tomorrow and read some stuff, and I was trying to figure out how to ask this girl out. I think another problem I have is that I'm scared to ask when she has co-workers around. So what should I say to her? Or would I be better off asking a co-worker if she has a boyfriend first? So any ideas of what to say or how to go about it would be greatly appreciated!!! Am super busy but I'll spare a few minutes to give you some advice... Only you can judge the situation better than anyone else - You could use what we call a situational opener or a direct opener Situational: You're in the library, go ask her opinion on a book and build some real rapport/comfort, isolate and do whatever the hell you want. Direct: If you feel that she's attracted to you and wants you to approach her, just say "Hi, how are you? - I'm..." - reach out your hands to shake hers, and let the magic behind. The whole essense behind approaching the girl is being comfortable. Gotta go, bye!
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