Guest Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 I have been NC with my ex since he broke up with me 3 1/2 weeks ago. It is really doing good things for me and I am already out dating again. I have a quick question about NC though. He broke up with me. He told me to NEVER contact him again in a letter he left at my house and I have not made any attempts to do so since then. My question is what do I do now about his waving as he drives by my house (we live on the same street)? I have been doing really well and am moving on but I am confused if I should just ignore him or wave back? I think that this is odd behavior from someone who told me they never want to hear from me again. This morning he beeped and waved as I went to the mailbox. I was looking the other way so I just ignored him but should I be giving a happy wave back? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 Please someone give me some advice on this!!! Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 I guess wave if you feel like it, don't if you don't. Sounds like he is just playing. I would just ignore it I guess if it was me. If he says hey why didn't you wave, just say I thought you did not want me to contact you in any way? Just respecting your wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 Wait, he told you not to contact him and yet he is waving at you? I know how I'd wave - with one finger. haha. Link to post Share on other sites
guin_girl Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 I know how I'd wave - with one finger. haha. That's what I was thinking when I read the title... Link to post Share on other sites
kimba Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 I'd say that he is waving because he wants to reassure his own ego that you still want him. See you have gone along with his request for no contact and i would say that he is a little stumped as to why you haven't tried to pursue him more- a little ego bruised perhaps? That is where the waving is coming from. Definately don't wave- don't pull the finger either. Just ignore it and it'll drive him mad. He needs to learn you reap what you sow. he has to realise that he told you no contact and so you assume he meant it and will carry through with his request. if you start waving - soon enough he will start not waving and you'll be hurt all over again. Trust me on this. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 I'd say that he is waving because he wants to reassure his own ego that you still want him. See you have gone along with his request for no contact and i would say that he is a little stumped as to why you haven't tried to pursue him more- a little ego bruised perhaps? That is where the waving is coming from. Definately don't wave- don't pull the finger either. Just ignore it and it'll drive him mad. He needs to learn you reap what you sow. he has to realise that he told you no contact and so you assume he meant it and will carry through with his request. if you start waving - soon enough he will start not waving and you'll be hurt all over again. Trust me on this. I was being funny. I wouldn't even acknowledge him at all if I were her. That easiest way to get someone's goat is to act like they don't exist. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 I'd say that he is waving because he wants to reassure his own ego that you still want him. See you have gone along with his request for no contact and i would say that he is a little stumped as to why you haven't tried to pursue him more- a little ego bruised perhaps? That is where the waving is coming from. Definately don't wave- don't pull the finger either. Just ignore it and it'll drive him mad. He needs to learn you reap what you sow. he has to realise that he told you no contact and so you assume he meant it and will carry through with his request. if you start waving - soon enough he will start not waving and you'll be hurt all over again. Trust me on this. TOUGH ONE INDEED. my suggestion is to create a sign, use a black marker and write on cardboard and attach a piece of string from one side to the other and leave one end with enuff length that u can attach a rubber duck to it. write down 'open yer window' so next time she drives by she will stop and stare and read the sing, and roll down her window. that's when u toss the rubber duck inside her car [gently so it falls on her lap and doesn't startle her] and she will she u have written on the duck 'i am quackers about u - will u marry me sweet dumper o' mine' Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 I wouldn't wave or look or acknowledge him. It truly will bother him. He doesn't deserve your attention. "Never talk to me again..." to "beep, beep...Hi!" The guy sounds messed up. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Thank you everyone for your advice! I have been reading all of your posts (both old and new) for the past three weeks and feel I have got to 'know' you all really well. There is a lot of kindness and wisdom here. I decided the best approach is to look the other way and act like he does not exist. The rubber ducky approach made me laugh out loud though. I can actually picture doing this! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 He doesn't deserve even so much as a wave from you. They say that the opposite to love is indifference and by displaying that he will see that he can't just snap his fingers and have you back. Besides, you are much too busy to wave to him, you have people to see and things to do. He is a thing of the past for you now. Link to post Share on other sites
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