unsafe Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Hello, I have a question for guys and girls. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He has lived in a different environment then I have. He had relatives and friends that get naked and flash and do things that usually causes problems in relationships and swing. So I guess I can try to understand why this may be not a big deal for him. But to me it IS!!!! He mentioned if I wanted ....to put pictures of myself up on the internet where people rate it. First off that would detroy me. Why do I want to hear what people have to say about my body I only care what he thinks? And someone will find something wrong I'm sure. Second Morally thats wrong to me. I don't sleep with just anyone or walk around naked because my naked body is not for just anyone. Maybe I'm being a prude. But I am just not comfortable with my boyfriend being ok with putting my body up on the internet for the whole world to see? Am I wrong? He said he understood and was glad I didn't want to. But it still makes me wonder why he would even consider it? Do you guys have an light to shed on this? Or any one?
blind_otter Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 The whole thing seems a little odd to me. It smacks of a lack of respect for you as his partner if he is willing to let you put up nude pictures of yourself on the internet. But later in the post you contradicted yourself by saying he was glad that you didn't want to do it. Maybe he was testing you?
Art_Critic Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Maybe I'm being a prude. Am I wrong? Neither..boundaries.. You have them and he needs to respect them and if he doesn't and keeps bugging you to do it then you need to kick him to the curb as this would only be a sliver of what life with him would be like. I would be very careful taking any naked photos with this man.. he most likely would put them on the internet anyhow for his own kicks..
VinaAmez Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Maybe I'm being a prude. But I am just not comfortable with my boyfriend being ok with putting my body up on the internet for the whole world to see? Am I wrong? He said he understood and was glad I didn't want to. But it still makes me wonder why he would even consider it? Do you guys have an light to shed on this? Or any one? This can go two ways. Either he was serious about it or was testing you. Do yourself a favor and don't put yourself on the internet like that. No matter what he says.
Author unsafe Posted January 29, 2007 Author Posted January 29, 2007 He definitly wasn't presuring me to do. He just said if I wanted to he would. I took ofense to why he would want his girlfriend on the internet naked for people to say what they thought? I might add I'm his first girlfriend. But he said he was happy I didn't say yes he likes that I'm not like that. But I'm crazy and I think well maybe he is just saying that because I don't want my pictures up there. Either way I know he isn't going to pressure me to do it. And I told him he is never taking a naked picture of me because now I'm scared what he will do with it. He was pretty upset with that comment. Meaning I don't trust him. He did say he said it just to see what I would say. But to me I think guys like to get out of trouble by saying things they think we want to hear.
Art_Critic Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 And I told him he is never taking a naked picture of me because now I'm scared what he will do with it. Good.. keep that attitude.. remember one thing.. Guys will show pics.. so if you never take them then you never have to worry about who will eventually see them. I made a video with my then wife and the agreement was that she was to have possession of it and it was to be erased after we watched it together.. That is exactly what happened.. it was hot though...
VinaAmez Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 He definitly wasn't presuring me to do. He just said if I wanted to he would. I took ofense to why he would want his girlfriend on the internet naked for people to say what they thought? I might add I'm his first girlfriend. But he said he was happy I didn't say yes he likes that I'm not like that. But I'm crazy and I think well maybe he is just saying that because I don't want my pictures up there. Either way I know he isn't going to pressure me to do it. And I told him he is never taking a naked picture of me because now I'm scared what he will do with it. He was pretty upset with that comment. Meaning I don't trust him. He did say he said it just to see what I would say. But to me I think guys like to get out of trouble by saying things they think we want to hear. Yeah and I wonder what he would have said if you said yes. Since his family does all this crap with relationships, he's probably ok with you and him doing it. Don't quote me on that because that may not be true. As long as he knows and respects your decisions on this you'll be fine.
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