Individual3 Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and his lack of cleaning habits are putting a strain on our relationship. He lives with two other roommates and all three of them are slobs. Let me give you some examples of just how disgusting their house is. 1) No one has the ability to take out the garbage. Let me rephrase that, they take out the garbage but they won't put it on the curb for the garbage men to collect. Instead they leave the garbage bags on the porch. They let the bags pile up so there were about 20 - 30 bags of garbage all stacked up on the porch. 2) They don't wash their dishes. One time they let the dishes pile up in the sink for 4 months. Can you imagine the type of filth that was growing in that sink? Last month my bf's roommate got his frat brothers to come over get rid of all those dishes, however, they are starting to stack up again. 3) One of the roommates has a cat and he won't change its litter box for what seems like a week or two at a time. The cat won't use his litter box (can you blame him?) so now he has started going on the floor. 4) The fridge has old moldy food in it. Me and my bf cleaned it out and scrubbed it from top to bottom 2 months ago but now it's starting to get junky again. 5) My bf won't do his laundry. I got so fed up I just started doing it for him. If I didn't, he would wait until he ran out of clothes before he cleaned them. There's a lot more but just thinking about it depresses me. No one is motivated to clean that damn house except for me. My boyfriend has been getting sick a lot recently and I think it's because of his living conditions. Complaining about the mess has not been working. How can I get my bf to clean up his act?
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 It does not sound as though you are going to be able t get your bf to clean up his act . Perhaps he is fine living like that . But as you don't live there, stop cleaning it for him and don't do his laundry , he can do it for himself . If it is gross to you don't go there.
Porn_Guy Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 this is normal behaviour for mulitple heterosexual bachelors living under one roof. trust me, i lived with 4 other dudes under the same roof for a year. it was so gross i had to move and get my own place.
sb129 Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 UH oh... Sadly at this time of their lives (college) guys aren't renowned for their cleanliness and hygiene. I lived with three guys once and they were disgusting. You might have to lay down the law... but you risk sounding like a nag. Or say to yor BF that you won't go to his house anymore...
IWalkAlone Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Find a new guy who has some cleanliness standards.
Porn_Guy Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Find a new guy who has some cleanliness standards. I don't think the homosexuals would be interested in her...romantically I mean.
crazy_grl Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Not much you can do. Many guys that age are just lazy slobs and even if you can get your bf to clean, you're not going to be able to get the other guys to do it. (And you've be out of line to try since you don't live there.) Do you really think your bf is going to want to clean up after two other guys? After trying to clean up after 3 slob guy roommates, I just gave up. Either accept it, stop going to his place, ask him to move, or end the relationship.
dropdeadlegs Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 this is normal behaviour for mulitple heterosexual bachelors living under one roof. trust me, i lived with 4 other dudes under the same roof for a year. it was so gross i had to move and get my own place. I agree. The problem lies in quadrupling the filth of one man. One man, it isn't so bad. If you have four men living together and even one wants a cleaner home, he will give up eventually because it is too much work to keep up with the other three. My BF doesn't do much in the way of cleaning. He does laundry but doesn't fold or put away clothes and instead lives out of the dryer versus the closet/dresser. What makes him do laundry is another thing that's probably "normal" and that is only owning two jeans that are work jeans. Lots of socks, underwear, and t-shirts, but only two work jeans and two play jeans. Also only two pair of shoes - work boots and motorcycle boots. He does take his trash out and haul it to the curb. I have cleaned up his place a lot. He seems to be a paper collector, never throwing anything away. On a good note, he doesn't generate many dishes preferring take out, frozen entrees, and paper plates to doing dishes. Unfortunately I don't think he can be trained to cover his plate in the microwave. Yuck! He keeps his yard up immaculately. I guess it's either more enjoyable, or more important to keep his place looking clean outwardly. I knew four men who lived together and that place was nasty. Dust and dirt everywhere. The two I visited eventually moved and the place was much better, but one did the majority of the cleaning in the common areas, and let the sloppier roommate keep his room however he wanted.
Porn_Guy Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I knew four men who lived together and that place was nasty. if it wasn't for females, men would have died out long ago by choking on their own filth or from sleeping on bed sheets that were stiff cause they hadn't been washed in 6 years
dropdeadlegs Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 if it wasn't for females, men would have died out long ago by choking on their own filth or from sleeping on bed sheets that were stiff cause they hadn't been washed in 6 years Eeeew. I hadn't even considered bed sheet filth. Many men don't even bother with sheets and sleep on the mattress, too. I'm not perfect with keeping up the orderliness of my home, but it is generally clean.
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Eeeew. I hadn't even considered bed sheet filth. Many men don't even bother with sheets and sleep on the mattress, too. I'm not perfect with keeping up the orderliness of my home, but it is generally clean. Thank god , I must have the cleanest version of straight man available.
Art_Critic Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Eeeew. I hadn't even considered bed sheet filth. Many men don't even bother with sheets and sleep on the mattress, too. Don't lump me in that group.. I wash my sheets once a week and use a mattress pad.. Always have always will.. I also clean my house and all the bathrooms once a week and clean my cabin in the mountains once every 2 weeks.. but wash the sheets once a week. What I do have is a lot of underwear and socks.. I keep approx 25 or so pairs of underwear and socks all the time...and I replace them once a year.. So I buy 50 pairs a year 25 for the home and 25 for the cabin.
tanbark813 Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 The ultimate bad roommate story: http://tinyurl.com/lhez5
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 The ultimate bad roommate story: http://www.snipeme.com/misc.php?loc=**** The site is down.
Porn_Guy Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 .. I wash my sheets once a week WTF man! I wash my bed sheet & pillow covers once every 6 months.
TheDC Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I'd just tell him straight up that his place is a pigsty and that you aren't going to his place anymore. He can come over to your place (as long as he doesn't bring his filth with him) and you can still hang out. I'd also tell him that you'd never move in with him until you were certain that he wasn't a complete slob. Tell him he'd have to live alone for a while and keep his pad clean before you would even think of moving in with him.
Art_Critic Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 WTF man! I wash my bed sheet & pillow covers once every 6 months. don't you care about shot spots ?
Porn_Guy Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 don't you care about shot spots ? not if they are my own
tinktronik Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Try the updated link. Yikes ..... Sounds terrifying.
saturnalia Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 eww. even when i was in college, my serious bf was neat and so were the guys he lived with, for the most part. now, a few (i'm 30) years after college, i have no tolerance for slobby guys. i always slide cautiously into their sheets, praying they have been washed within the last month. guys, if you're over 25, let me tell you that women in your dating pool really appreciate cleanliness.
Pyro Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and his lack of cleaning habits are putting a strain on our relationship. He lives with two other roommates and all three of them are slobs. Let me give you some examples of just how disgusting their house is. 1) No one has the ability to take out the garbage. Let me rephrase that, they take out the garbage but they won't put it on the curb for the garbage men to collect. Instead they leave the garbage bags on the porch. They let the bags pile up so there were about 20 - 30 bags of garbage all stacked up on the porch. 2) They don't wash their dishes. One time they let the dishes pile up in the sink for 4 months. Can you imagine the type of filth that was growing in that sink? Last month my bf's roommate got his frat brothers to come over get rid of all those dishes, however, they are starting to stack up again. 3) One of the roommates has a cat and he won't change its litter box for what seems like a week or two at a time. The cat won't use his litter box (can you blame him?) so now he has started going on the floor. 4) The fridge has old moldy food in it. Me and my bf cleaned it out and scrubbed it from top to bottom 2 months ago but now it's starting to get junky again. 5) My bf won't do his laundry. I got so fed up I just started doing it for him. If I didn't, he would wait until he ran out of clothes before he cleaned them. There's a lot more but just thinking about it depresses me. No one is motivated to clean that damn house except for me. My boyfriend has been getting sick a lot recently and I think it's because of his living conditions. Complaining about the mess has not been working. How can I get my bf to clean up his act? That is just disgusting and unacceptable. That is a reason why I always had a hard time finding roomates. I am picky and I am glad. I will not put up with a slob. I am no neat freak, but I keep things clean. To me, that is unattractive and that would be a deal breaker for me if I found out that a woman I was dating was a total slob. There are health issues involved. Don't catch something just because your BF is a slob. Tell him that you refuse to come over anymore unless he starts cleaning up after himself. Does he at least keep himself clean? I wash my sheets every three weeks. Washing sheets every six months is just downright rancid.
norajane Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Perhaps these guys could all pitch in some of their beer money and hire a maid/housekeeper to come in once or twice a month to minimze the worst of the filth. Tell them to tip very well. There may even be some college students who would do it for the extra cash if someone like Merry Maids is too expensive. Post a flyer.
IpAncA Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I can't help but think of how me and my friends used to live when we were in college. Holy crap we were, excused me they were so messy. The trash was never taken out. The room STUNK to the hills from the garbage. It would sit for for about 3 weeks or longer unless someone was staying for the weekend. Dishes everywhere Food on the walls/meat stuck on the wall behind the trash can. Fruit flies The sink was ALWAYS filled with water and there was a NOODLE that ended up becoming something else. Yes I have a picture of it growing. Maybe I'll post it sometime. LOL!! My friend ended up recking the floors. Oh and I swear there was this piece of something that would move every so often. I don't know what it was nor did I touch it. I would look over and it would be in a different spot. I could go on forever about this. It was so bad that the stick ups we used died. The spray we would use didn't work. It would for a little bit but after 5 mins. it wouldn't. Now we each had our own rooms which was good. Mine was spotless and smelled good. As for my other friends, one smelled like bad food, the other one had perfume that smelled like O'day Crap'a, and the last one had laundry from sport practice that she never washed unless she ran out of clothes. :laugh:
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