kellermeister Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Hi Guys, Long time site looker - first time poster this website is awesome. So here's the deal - I've been friends with my Ex for about a year (we went out for 2ish) and during this time we've literally texting and emailing everyday. He's recently gone overseas to work and I'm beginning to feel that I can't really move on with my life as we are still in so much contact. I read about NC and I'm not sure that I want to completely cut him off, just lessen it for a while so I can have some space. Any suggestions about this? Shall I write an email asking for some time to myself - how do I do this without making it appear that I never want to hear from him again? Or shall I just not contact him for a while (I must say that I have'nt talked to him for a few days already ... not a long time and the texts and emails are still flooding in)? Thanks! K x
Davis Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I agree. You can't move on with your life if you're still involved with him even as a friend. I tried this with an ex. It just gave me a crutch and I never got involved with anyone because she was filling an emotional need. No, I don't think you should tell him. I think over the next ten days you need to start slowing your contact and then NC. That means no response either. Remember, at least he's overseas. Not alot he can do if you don't respond to his texts, etc. I suppose if that doesn't work and he demands and explanation and you absolutely think you MUST give him one, you can tell him the truth: "i can't move on with my life while continuing contact with you". Good luck.
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