Guest Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Hi, I'm a 25 year old guy. 3 1/2 years ago my ex broke up with me. We were together for 2 years, the longest releationship I've had. Also, before we dated we were best friends for years. The reason she dumped me was for another guy. I didn't want to lose her as a friend because of how close we were even before we were together. I made a couple attempts to talk to her such as calling her on her birthday. She was my best friend, and the only girl I truely loved with all of my heart. She never called me, and I realized that in order to move on I had to forget her somehow. It hurt me a lot, but I got over it. It took me over a year until I was completely over her. I didn't talk to her all this time, however, I am friends with her mother and her grandfather. Last month her grandfather called me to help him. I went over and helped him, and she shows up while I'm there after almost 4 years from when we last spoke. The reason she's there is because her fiance doesn't want anything to do with her anymore so she moved out. That's some coincidence. Anyway, I was happy to see her, and we sat and talked for a couple hours, just as we did when we were best friends before we ever dated, and as if we never stopped speaking to each other. She gave me her number, and I called and invited her to play cards with a few friends a couple weeks later. So now we play cards at a friend's house every week. Ever since we started hanging out again I realized my love for her never really went away after nearly 4 years. At night I'm awake for hours thinking of her, and I dream about her a lot, sometimes more than once a week. I'm not talking about infatuation, I am positive I really am in love with her. I want to tell her how I feel, but I don't know if she wants to hear it. We haven't even spoke of 'us' since. This week when I brought her home she said she wanted to hang out with me, as in just me. What would you do if the only one you have ever really loved was also your best friend? Is it best to talk about this with her despite the fact I don't know how she'll react, or should I wait it out and try to figure out how she feels first.
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