jacqui85 Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 My b/f and i have been together for bout 15months, and this are not good. He has slowly turned into a manipulative and controlling jealous man. He has never hit me, but he is very emotionally abusive, and knows exactly how to play to my emotions to get what he wants. I recently started to stand up for myself, asking him to help out around the house, and asking him to trust me more (i've never cheated on him, although he is convinced i have) Since then, he decided he wanted a break from me. But this break is on his terms. We live together, so he moved into his parents house, but didn't enjoy this much, and stays here whenever he feels like it. I care about him so much, and when he's being nice, i want to believe we could have a future...but i know we dont. I just wanted to ask some advice on how to leave this. I know i will be a complete mess, and i know he wont make it eady, he will be very angry. I;d just like some pointers on how to help myself stay strong through this, and not go back to him.
Krytellan Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Make a list of the things that he does wrong to you. Whenever you need strength look at the list and ask yourself if this is what you look for in a man. Helped me get over an emotionally abusive wife...
Green Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 just start looking in the paper or online for room mates you need to move some where else preferably with another girl. just leave this guy and break all contact with him. U didnt go into great detail about whats going on but I can tell this relationship has been a drain on you and you'll find you have alot more energy about 6 weeks after you havent seen him
justagirliegirl Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 change the locks on the doors and change your phone number. Be prepared for him to hound you and try to wear you down with constant phone calls, showing up at your house or work, crying and pleading, and other stalkerish behaviours. You have to be very strict on no contract as anything from you will be seen as a sign of weakness on your part.
CaliGuy Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 If you want the strength to leave this man you really need to dig deep and find out what it is about yourself that makes you not love YOU enough to leave. It's all about self-respect. If you know you deserve better then make up your mind to walk away. Do you have girlfriends or family you can speak to that can help you gather up the courage do what I believe you already know you need to do?
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