Lady. Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 well this is online, but we live close to each other and we met last year.... ok well theres this guy that i've known for almost 2 years now, and about 7 months ago we got together....we were together for about 3 and a half months and i really felt as though i loved him. the break up was terrible, couldn't eat, all i did was cry, and thought about him but ya it really hurt.....Anyway..it's taken me about 3 months to get over him and even that was a hard job. we don't talk on the phone anymore, we just talk now and again on msn, and even thats for about 15 minutes every other day.....i used to get really upset when i didn't speak to him, but that all went about a month ago and i really thought i was over him. but recently we've been talking quite a lot again, and i've found myself starting to miss talking to him, and even missing HIM when he isn't here. i can feel my feelings for him comming back, i don't want them comming back, i don't want to go through that again... i thought they had gone though....i don't get it? Is this normal? i really don't want to go back to the stage where it hurt not to talk to him, and miss talking to him, but i can feel it happening again over the last few days and i don't know what to do to prevent it....i can't block or delete him because i'd feel too bad, and i'd miss him even more. I'm just a mess at the moment and feel really lost about what to do. I even sometimes wonder if he misses talking to me too....i shouldn't even care,and the first person i look for on msn when i sign on, is him, even tho i don't message him, but i'm always hoping he'd message me.. and its only recently this has started happening again... i'm just really confused so if someone could give me any advice i'd be really thankful.
Dubb Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 All I can say is do what is best for you. What were the reasons you guys broke up? If they were not good reasons you might wanna stay away. I just broke my no contact rule with my ex last week and it only made me feel worse. I made a new SN and decided to stay on that for a while.
Author Lady. Posted January 29, 2007 Author Posted January 29, 2007 All I can say is do what is best for you. What were the reasons you guys broke up? If they were not good reasons you might wanna stay away. I just broke my no contact rule with my ex last week and it only made me feel worse. I made a new SN and decided to stay on that for a while. It just wasn't working. We both had different ideas and opinions, and we just clashed in a way...and i only found that out after dating him for all that time. we broke up once before that and got back together.... but we had an argument and this time we broke up for good.....i just don't want these feelings comming back for him you know? it was so much better when we weren't talking that much, even though that kinda hurt, it's just worse now and im really confused... and i also don't want him to know this is all comming back either.. im just so lost at the moment.... thanks for your reply
Dubb Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Yeah I know how hard it is. If you don't think it would ever work I would stay away. It would probably save you a lot of heartbreak in the future. Do what I am doing and weather out the storm. At least you know why you guys are not together. I got you are the best BF I have ever had but need time to myself. I am just doing my best to move on with my life and maybe you should too. I keep telling myself every second I spend thinking about them the person I am suppose to be with might pass me by.
Author Lady. Posted January 29, 2007 Author Posted January 29, 2007 Yeah I know how hard it is. If you don't think it would ever work I would stay away. It would probably save you a lot of heartbreak in the future. Do what I am doing and weather out the storm. At least you know why you guys are not together. I got you are the best BF I have ever had but need time to myself. I am just doing my best to move on with my life and maybe you should too. I keep telling myself every second I spend thinking about them the person I am suppose to be with might pass me by. you say 'stay away', but i'm not sure how.....i don't particularly want to block and delete him... do you mean just like not going on msn or something?
Dubb Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I made another screen name. That way I can still talk to people I know and but she will not know I am there.
D-Lish Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Yeah- delete & block him. It's the only way to get over someone. Otherwise you're just going to get stuck and you won't be able to move on. You said so yourself- you felt better when you weren't in contact. Keeping him on MSN is a choice. Talking to him is a choice. Moving on is a choice. ya know?
Author Lady. Posted January 29, 2007 Author Posted January 29, 2007 Yeah- delete & block him. It's the only way to get over someone. Otherwise you're just going to get stuck and you won't be able to move on. You said so yourself- you felt better when you weren't in contact. Keeping him on MSN is a choice. Talking to him is a choice. Moving on is a choice. ya know? Yeah I understand...thanks for your replies.
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