Jane Doe Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I know that for most MM, keeping the status quo at home with the wife is important and the MM want to protect that. I'm curious though, have any of you been in a situation (or know someone who has) where the OW ended the affair and the MM tried to make life hell for her (i.e., stalking her, exposing her secrets to her friends, family, coworkers, etc., calling her job, trying to ruin her, etc.)? I know there are stories of the OW seeking revenge but I'm curious to know if any of the MM ever seek revenge or if they just let things go for fear of being exposed themselves. Thoughts?
whichwayisup Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Why would a MM do that though? In all honesty don't ya think a MM has ALOT more to lose if he messes with his exOW? If he threatens her enough, she has the biggest trump card...Telling his wife. A MM has to be really dumb to do what you described above.
Unbeleivable Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I don't think any MM will really make life hell for the exOW because if he goes and exposes secrets, etc, then the OW will most likely expose his biggest secret, which I doubt the MM wants.
torranceshipman Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Yeah, it totally happens-it just happened to me! In fact the guy was my boss, and I think the girfriend found out or something-and he thought I'd told her, so he threatened to fire me, so I pre-empted him by handing in my notice! This was a couple of weeks after I'd ended it with him, too. But then after the whole fiasco had happened, he backtracked furiously and asked me to change my mind and stay, and told me that I was a real asset to the company, and he changed some of my responsibilities to make me happier in the position, which was great. I was just going to leave but he did a good job of changing my mind in the end (even tho it was his fault I resigned in the 1st place!). I've agreed to stay for a trial period and decide if I'm comfortable enough to stay. He clearly regretted doing something SO out of order (almost the secomd after he'd done it, in fact)....it's kind of tough working together after all this, but it gets easier by the day...TBH I think he did me a favour by being such a git that it was easier to stick to NC and move on (well NC out of work anyway!) - else I don't think my willpower would have held up! The dude has got his personal life into such a mess, seriously...I think he made a real effort to persuade me to stay partly to ease his conscience but - and I hate to say this - also because he wants to keep me around because he likes me being close to him. I've stopped even TRYING to understand what goes on in this guys head...!
Author Jane Doe Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 Common sense would tell a MM to cut his losses and not rock the boat and risk being found out by his wife but when emotions run high, he realizes he's losing great sex and someone who really cares about him, or if he truly had feeling for his OW, sometimes common sense goes out the window. That's all I was saying.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 This happened to Pure In Heart I believe...
torranceshipman Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I agree with that...common sense clearly went right our the window in my case!!
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