Guest Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 i recently just got married to my wife 2 months ago. anyways i was in the basement fixing a pipe that had a slight leak and as i was fixing it. i noticed a tape hidden on the floor rafters. just being curious i hooked up the old vcr and put it in. it was a tape with some old shows on it and then it switched over to my wife dressed in black satin pyjamas tied up hogtied style. then i seen a guy enter the picture and start caressing her. i started getting sick to my stomach but i couldn't look away. i thought to myself maybe it's old and this is the kind of crap she use to be into with her ex boyfriend. but he turned the camera and i seen the engagement ring on my wifes finger that i gave her just 6 months ago. the rest of the tape was them making love and i cried my eyes out. at the end of them f@cking she said see you next week. i always trusted her. she said she was always going out to hang with the girls. she was probably with him. i love her and so does my family. we just got married and everything felt like it was perfect. i don't know how to approach her about it. i just can't get it out of my head that she was having sex with somebody else. in the video she dressed sexy for some d@ckhead and around me she just wears those granny panties. help me please. what would you do. i don't think i can be with her anymore but i don't want my marriage to end either
Guest Posted February 5, 2007 Posted February 5, 2007 is this for real? A tape left around the house? Leave her, divorce her..you don't want your marriage to end? Unfortunately it did awhile ago.
Sup Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Listen, get a Lawyer, and protect YOURSELF. Then bring her in with you to your lawyers office, and have her watch the tape. Then Divorce her.
norajane Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Talk to a lawyer immediately. Once you know your legal rights and obligations, tell your wife you want a divorce. I don't know the laws - maybe after only 2 months you can still get an annulment? You said you don't want your marriage to end, but think of it this way...how do you know she's not still seeing this guy, or some other guy, or won't start seeing someone else in the near future? Since you know she lied and cheated on you already just before your wedding, odds are her level of commitment isn't what you're going to need for a long, healthy marriage.
dinnerwithdelores Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 People are so harsh. Confront her first and ask her why? Maybe she is afraid to let you know that side of her because she thinks that you might judge her. Im not saying she isnt wrong and maybe you need space. But people are so quick to say cut the person off and that pisses me off. Try to work it out seek counseling. Give it a shot what do you have to lose? If it doesnt work out then atleast you tried. But whatever you do dont listen to your friends listen to your heart and see if you are willing to work this out. If not move on.
Carbine Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 As soon as I'm done posting this I'm going to go and cry till I throw up. That's just so f****** sad and horrible and...and...senseless. What a disgusting little harpie you've married. I can think of a few things you could do to her that would involve hog-tying, as well as several large riding crops...and possibly a few implements of torture. But they're probably not very helpful, and I'd get myself permanently banned from LS for going into more detail. S***. I don't know what to say. I don't have any suggestions. I feel for you, though, dude
Spoonandfork22 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 a part of me feels like she wanted you to find out about this. why in Gods name would you videotape it....and why would you leave it where it could potentially be found. anyone who does this is #1 either very stupid or #2 begging to be caught. this is horrendous. what you need to do is have her be out one day and pop the tape it....put it at a point where there is some 'friction; going on and when she walks in, put that tape on maximum volume and sit there. you deserve to see her reaction and she deserves to have this rubbed in her face. its absolutely dispicable. i wishyou the best. i hope for your sake you get out of this. i know it has to be so hard, being you two just got married but think of the danger she put you in. will you be able to get past this? to have sex with her again? get out while you can.
norajane Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 but think of the danger she put you in. Eek - good point. Were they using condoms in that video?? Get yourself tested for STDs immediately.
reservoirdog1 Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Not to be cruel, but I wonder if this is a troll... Benefit of the doubt, however -- seriously, get out now. You're only two months in. Dump her cheating ass and run for the hills. If she would do that during the engagement, she's either a seriously f*cked up person, or a completely evil amoral bitch. And in any event, the fact is that your marriage was basically stillborn. It never even had a chance. You have the opportunity now to get out relatively unscathed. PLEASE don't tie your future to that woman, or god forbid, have kids with her. You will never be able to get those images out of your mind, and you will never be able to trust her again. I know I wouldn't.
RecordProducer Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 As soon as I'm done posting this I'm going to go and cry till I throw up. That's just so f****** sad and horrible and...and...senseless. What a disgusting little harpie you've married. I can think of a few things you could do to her that would involve hog-tying, as well as several large riding crops...and possibly a few implements of torture. But they're probably not very helpful, and I'd get myself permanently banned from LS for going into more detail. S***. I don't know what to say. I don't have any suggestions. I feel for you, though, dude Relax, dude! Geez, you sure have a short fuse, huh?
Carbine Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Relax, dude! Geez, you sure have a short fuse, huh? Truer words were never spoken, RP! . Its especially bad when I'm feeling extremely fragile like I have been the past few days. The situation that the OP describes is one that I find very, very sad, and it upset me a fair bit. Actually, like reservoirdog, I also had my suspicions that he was trolling. Which upset me even more because it's goddamn sick to make jokes about such a situation. In which case, he's the one who deserves the treatment i described. Either way, someone deserves to be hog-tied here. But for once it aint me...
hunnybuns Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 she wanted this to be found. She doesn't care if he knows because if she wanted to keep the tape and have it forever then she should have put it in a safer spot. SHE WANTED HIM TO FIND IT!!!!!!!!! Wow that is friggen unbelievable. She has alot of nerve!!!!
VinaAmez Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 Sorry this happend BUT at least you found out now and not a year or 2 or 3 down the road. Talk to a lawyer immediately. Once you know your legal rights and obligations, tell your wife you want a divorce. I don't know the laws - maybe after only 2 months you can still get an annulment? You said you don't want your marriage to end, but think of it this way...how do you know she's not still seeing this guy, or some other guy, or won't start seeing someone else in the near future? Since you know she lied and cheated on you already just before your wedding, odds are her level of commitment isn't what you're going to need for a long, healthy marriage. I agree with this ^.
riobikini Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 re: Guest: "..the rest of the tape was them making love and i cried my eyes out. at the end of them f@cking she said see you next week. " Guest, it doesn't sound like they were "making love" -it sounds like *sex* -period. Question: Has your wife ever been in the *profession*??? You *know* the one I'm referring to. -Rio
hunnybuns Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 rio that picture of the guy on your profile is who??? You so "L" what does that mean???
CardPlay3r Posted February 6, 2007 Posted February 6, 2007 lol what a thread. If this is true you should make a copy of the tape and keep it (or better yet, the original) to have proof and get leverage in case you decide to divorce her.
riobikini Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 re: Hunnybuns: " rio that picture of the guy on your profile is who??? You so "L" what does that mean???" It's a photo of *the special* person in my life, whom I refer to as "L". -Rio
paris38 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 my exboyfriend found out his exwife was having an affair when he found photos of his ex and a coworker (which were taken at coworkers cabin) in compromising positions. He was looking for tax documents in file folders in the basement and 'poof' there were the photos. This guy she was with was also family friend and they were taken on her 42nd birthday because outside the guy had put "Happy 42nd Baby" in wood in front of the cabin, that was one of the pictures. He rememberd that day, his kids and him were waiting for her to get home from work to surprise her for her birthday, and she was 50 miles out of town with this coworker, they had all been to his cabin too, including their kids, he was a family friend before he found those photos. So....I totally believe this situation is possible and if it's true, I hope you seek some sort of therapy for yourself, it really helped my exboyfriend come to terms and get on with his life.
hunnybuns Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Rio, You look alot younger than him. You like them older too huh? That a girl. LOL. Your a lucky women. He is good looking for an older gent.
riobikini Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Hunnybuns -Ill be turning 47 this year (b-day next August) -"L" just turned 56 in December. (Apologize to OP for hijacking a bit.) -Rio
hunnybuns Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I thought he would be around that age. Wow you look good girl. I like older guys as you can probably tell. My MM is 53. Your man just has that look like those F*** me eyes!! Most of them do!! lol
nicki Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Wow, so sorry that you have to go through this. I'm just glad you found out NOW.... I agree with this poster who said to have the tape playing (loudly) when she walks in. If possible, be sure to make a copy of the tape first, though. Her reaction will tell you volumes. Under no circumstances should you let her stay -- for at least the short term. Make her leave. You need some space to deal with this....later, you can decide if you want to go to therapy and stay together. But, I'm fairly certain this woman has a huge character flaw to do what she did so early on in your marriage....serial cheaters cheat no matter what, and they don't ever stop. Some people cheat years into a marriage when they are unhappy, which is always the wrong way to deal with problems. Some of those couples get therapy, fix their problems and emerge a stronger and happier couple. I don't think that's your situation, however. She sounds like a serial cheater. If I were you, I'd run away as fast as possible. It can only get worse with time....but only you can decide what's right. At least take some time apart. Hugs to you. It's not your fault. Your wife is not the person you thought she was.
Sup Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 my exboyfriend found out his exwife was having an affair when he found photos of his ex and a coworker (which were taken at coworkers cabin) in compromising positions. He was looking for tax documents in file folders in the basement and 'poof' there were the photos. This guy she was with was also family friend and they were taken on her 42nd birthday because outside the guy had put "Happy 42nd Baby" in wood in front of the cabin, that was one of the pictures. He rememberd that day, his kids and him were waiting for her to get home from work to surprise her for her birthday, and she was 50 miles out of town with this coworker, they had all been to his cabin too, including their kids, he was a family friend before he found those photos. So....I totally believe this situation is possible and if it's true, I hope you seek some sort of therapy for yourself, it really helped my exboyfriend come to terms and get on with his life. What was his wifes reason/excuse for doing this to him, If you don't mind me asking? There's NO reason/s to do that sort of thing. By the way, I wish that the Thread poster would post again, just to let us know how he's doing, he needs to get this out, in HIS time of course.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Guest, I'm so sorry to hear of the trauma. Ever watched Jar-Head? There's something pretty similar on there... To post quickly your replies you should register on the site. Being a Guest means there is a time delay before your responses are pinned on the site
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